MOTHER of the believers, Umm Salama had the same question about the equivalent of hoor al-‘ayn to women before you. She put her question to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and he informed her that the woman’s pious husband is going to be her husband in Paradise.
Then she asked him what if a woman has been married to more than one husbands throughout her life in this world (life)? He answered her that she will get the best — regarding piety and manners — amongst them to be her husband.
As for the pious woman herself, whether a martyr or good worshipper, Allah will not make of her simply a hoor but she will be a mistress of all hoors. They will become maids to her.
This means that she will be the most beautiful of them all and the most beloved of her husband among them. I can read some questions already aroused in your mind!
Suppose a woman was not in love enough with her husband in this life and would not like to take him again! And… how come that a woman accepts to share her husband with all this number of the hour?
Actually, we have to realize that the dwellers of Paradise are not going to be ruled by the same nature of passion that used to rule them in this life. This is such as hatred and jealousy. They will have a totally different psychology from that they used to have in this life. It is the special psychological nature of the people of Paradise, which Allah has described in the Qur’an in Surah 43, Verse 7. This is when He said the meaning of: “And we shall remove from their hearts any rancor.”
Even if the husband was not appreciated by his pious wife in this life, Allah is capable of changing his negative nature so as to please her in Paradise. In the same way he changes her into the most beautiful woman — while she was not so in this life — just to please him.