BURSTING over food not cooked to our taste is a sin that few escape. Extreme fury and anger, mostly with spouses, is expressed with rejecting food and refusing to eat, undermining this great blessing many are deprived of.

Yes, mistakes happen. The wife may have forgotten to add salt. In such situations, we ought to be patient, as the Prophet (peace be upon him) was when his wives cooked food he didn’t like.

Abu Hurairah reported: “The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) never found fault with food. If he had inclination to eating it, he would eat; and if he disliked it, he would leave it.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Or he would say, “I do not feel like eating this.” (Al-Bukhari, no. 5076, and Muslim no. 1946)

Sometimes he would praise the food, as when he asked his family for food, and they said, “We have nothing but vinegar.” He asked for it and started to eat it, saying, “What a good food is vinegar.” (Sahih Muslim, no. 2052)

These Ahadith throw light on the Prophet’s excellent manners which ought to be followed by all Muslims. It is a deplorable state of affairs that when we find a dish a bit unsavory, we lose our temper and create quite a scene in the house.

Another important aspect is not hurting your wife’s feeling. He or she might have exerted so much efforts in cooking that for us. Positive and encouraging statements are more helpful in correcting people than hurting their feelings.