For us, Every Year and Month and Day and Hour and Minute and Second is Mother’s Day and Father’s Day

Parents are a Great Gift from Allah
When we were young, we loved to play with our Mum and Dad. When we grow up, many of us leave them and only come to them when we need something or when we are in trouble. No matter what, parents are always there and give everything they could just to make us happy. Below is what Allah mentioned in the Quran.

And We have enjoined on man doing of good to his parents; with trouble did his mother bear him and with trouble did she bring him forth; and the bearing of him and the weaning of him was thirty months; until when he attains his maturity and reaches forty years, he says: My Lord! grant me that I may give thanks for Thy favor which Thou hast bestowed on me and on my parents, and that I may do good which pleases Thee and do good to me in respect of my offspring; surely I turn to Thee, and surely I am of those who submit. (Al_Quraan_046: 015)

Be Kind to your Parents:
And your Lord has commanded that you shall not serve (any) but Him, and goodness to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age with you, say not to them (so much as) “Ugh” nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word. And make yourself submissively gentle to them with compassion, and say: O my Lord! have compassion on them, as they brought me up (when I was) little. (Al_Quraan_017: 023-024)

And We have enjoined on man goodness to his parents, and if they contend with you that you should associate (others) with Me, of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them, to Me is your return, so I will inform you of what you did. (Al_Quraan_029: 008)

And We have enjoined man in respect of his parents– his mother bears him with faintings upon faintings and his weaning takes two years– saying: Be grateful to Me and to both your parents; to Me is the eventual coming. And if they contend with you that you should associate with Me what you have no knowledge of, do not obey them, and keep company with them in this world kindly, and follow the way of him who turns to Me, then to Me is your return, then will I inform you of what you did. (Al_Quraan_031: 014-015)

Hadeeth regarding Parents:
The Prophet Muhammad said, may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him: Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother (Ahmad, Nasai) .

A man came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet (Peace be upon him) said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim).

Abu Usaid Saidi (Radi-Allahu anhu) said: We were once sitting with Rasulullah (Peace be upon him) when a man from the tribe of Salmah came and said to him: O Messenger of Allah! do my parents have rights over me even after they have died? And Rasulullah (Peace be upon him) said: Yes. You must pray to Allah to bless them with His Forgiveness and Mercy, fulfill the promises they made to anyone, and respect their relations and their friends (Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah).

Abdullah ibn Amr (Radi-Allahu anhu) related that the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) said: The major sins are to believe that Allah has partners, to disobey one’s parents, to commit murder, and to bear false witness (Bukhari, Muslim).

It is narrated by Asma bint Abu Bakr (Radi Allahu Anha)  that during the treaty of Hudaibiyah, her mother, who was then pagan, came to see her from Makkah. Asma (Radi Allahu Anha)  informed the Messenger of Allah of her arrival and also that she needed help. He said: Be good to your mother (Bukhari, Muslim).

Questions regarding Parents:
It is time to really evaluate what kind of relationship we have with our parents. Below are few questions that may help:

  1. When was the last time you visited your parents if not living with your parents?
  2. When was the last time you called your parents if not living with your parents?
  3. Do you think your parents are happy with you? IF not then there is a Serious Problem and you need to correct IMMEDIATELY.
  4. Have you ever said “Uff (Oh!)” to your parents? Don’t forget the following Ayaat:

And your Lord has commanded that you shall not serve (any) but Him, and goodness to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age with you, say not to them (so much as) “Ugh” nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word. And make yourself submissively gentle to them with compassion, and say: O my Lord! have compassion on them, as they brought me up (when I was) little. (Al_Quraan_017: 023-024)

  1. What is it that your parents really wants to have, is that against the Quran and Authentic Sunnah? IF not then there is a Serious Problem and you need to correct IMMEDIATELY.
  2. What are the things that make your parents happy or sad?
  3. How many minutes do you engage in “quality talk” with your parents in a week if not in a day?
  4. When was the last time you cooked for your parents?
  5. When was the last time you gave your parents a gift?

Aisha narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Exchange gifts with one another, for they remove ill feelings from the hearts (Tirmidhi).