Learn And Teach Quran
‘And those who, when they are reminded of the verses of their Lord, fall not deaf and blind’ (25:73)
When the blessed servants of Allah are reminded of His verses and the Hereafter, they do not act as if they are deaf and blind. They pay heed to the verses and do not behave like negligent people.
Ibn Kathir has reported on the authority of Ibn Aun that he enquired from Hadhrat Sh’abi that if he comes across people, who are in the state of prostration, was it correct for him to join the people in prostration. Sha’bi replied that it would be incorrect for him to join in their prostration unless he finds out the purpose of the act. It is inappropriate for a believer to engage in any action without knowing the purpose of it.
There is a new tendency amongst the younger generation and modern educated people to study the Quran and deem it enough to seek the understanding of the Quran through its translation. This practice often makes them fall into misconceptions.
It is a fact that education and knowledge can not be acquired simply by referring to books. The guidance of a teacher who is available to explain the intricacies of the subject is necessary to gain a full understanding.
The studying of the Quran without a teacher falls under the aforementioned verse.
Hadhrat Uthman narrates that Rasulullah said: “The best amongst you is he who learns the Quran and teaches it.”
The Quran is the basis of the religion of Islam, and the preservation and propagation of the Quran depend on the very existence of this faith. Hence the virtue of learning and teaching the Qur’an is self-evident and does not need further elucidation.
There are, however, various degrees of excellence. The highest is to learn the Quran along with its meanings and purport, and the least is to learn its words only.
Rasulullah was reported by Hadhrat Sa’eed ibn Saleem “If a person who has acquired knowledge of the Holy Quran considers another person who has been gifted with something else to be more fortunate than himself, he has shown disrespect to the blessings of Allah bestowed on him on account of his learning the Quran.”
Mulla Ali Qari quotes from another Hadith that whoever acquires the knowledge of the Holy Quran stores the knowledge of Prophethood in his forehead. Sahl Tastari says that the proof of love for Allah is the existence of love for the Word of Allah in one’s heart.
In ‘Sharhul Ihya, the list of people who will be given shelter in the shade of the Throne of Allah on the fearful Day of Judgment includes those persons who teach the Quran to the children of Muslims and also those who learn the Holy Quran in their childhood and are devoted to its recitation when grown up.
May the Almighty include us amongst these people. (Ameen)
Naiki Ka Hukam Dena Aur Burai Se Rokna
When Are We To Understand?
Turn on your computer and a signal flashes on your screen: You have 1 message waiting. Is it your friend? Has that online order been shipped? You can’t wait to find out. Or is that “annoying” mailing list that sends out a verse-a-day that many delete without looking twice?
Dear brothers and sisters, there is an unread message waiting for us. It is Al-Qur’an Al-Kareem, the Noble Recitation. And its author is our Creator!
Let us randomly ask Muslim communities around the world the following question: Why did Allah reveal the Qur’an? Many a community will respond without hesitation, “The Qur’an was revealed to bless us.” But is that the correct response?
The Qur’an is blessed and blessed is he who recites it. However, listen carefully to the following verse:
“(This is) a Book (the Qur’an) which We have sent down to you, full of blessings that they may ponder over its Verses, and that men of understanding may remember.” (Qur’an, 38:29)
Blessing is a characteristic of the Qur’an, not the purpose of revelation. The purpose of revelation is so that “its verses will be contemplated and acted upon!”
The misconception that the place of Qur’an in our lives is one of barakah alone has many manifestations. We find many Muslim families bent on the desire to have their children read the Qur’an in Arabic just once in their lifetime. We find communities that print copies of the Qur’an in 30 separate parts so that they can recite it only when someone dies.
No, we’ve misunderstood the role of the Qur’an in our lives and the message is still waiting to be read. Do you know which language the Qur’an would have been revealed if the majority of speakers were the primary consideration? It would have been in Mandarin Chinese. But the Qur’anic language is not open to the whims of humans. Allah chose a pure and blessed language – Arabic. It is we who must strive to understand it.
“A Book whereof the Verses are explained in detail; a Qur’an in Arabic for people who know.” (Qur’an, 41:3)
The Qur’an is truth in its purest form. Falsehood cannot touch it.
“Falsehood cannot come to it from before it or behind it (it is) sent down by the All-Wise, Worthy of all praise (Allah).” (Qur’an, 41:42)
The Qur’an is the straight path which we ask for in Surah Fatihah every day in our Salah. The Qur’an is the rope of Allah that we are ordered to hold fast to. The Qur’an is the best speech.
“Allah has sent down the best statement, a Book (this Qur’an), its parts resembling each other in goodness and truth, oft-repeated. The skins of those who fear their Lord shiver from it (when they recite it or hear it). Then their skin and their heart soften to the remembrance of Allah. That is the guidance of Allah. He Guides therewith whom He pleases and whomever Allah sends astray, for him there is no guide.” (Qur’an, 39:23)
What has happened to us that we do not want to hear Allah’s message with passion? During Ramadan, we have good Imams who lead the Taraweeh prayers. They recite the Qur’an and make dua during Witr. Tears overtake the words they recite. One of the brothers once came up to me with his eyes misty, and a sheet of paper and pen in his hands. He said, “Muhammad, I want you to translate for me everything the Imam is saying in his du’a.”
Caught off guard, I shrugged and said, “You want me to translate the whole thing here in the hallway?”
He replied, “Yes because we’re Muslim too. If it makes the Imam cry, it would make us cry too … if we only knew what it meant!” As he spoke, tears overtook him. The words locked in my mind, “If only we knew what it meant.” Allah says:
“And the Messenger will say: “O my Lord! Verily, my people deserted this Qur’an.” (Qur’an, 25:30)
How is the Qur’an abandoned?
1. The Qur’an is abandoned in our lives when we prefer listening and watching 135 satellite channels. But if it were to accidentally play, we would not listen to it or perhaps rush to shut it off.
2. The Qur’an is abandoned when a person does not care to learn Allah’s message in the Qur’an.
3. The Qur’an is abandoned when we leave its laws and instead turn to the laws of the disbelievers to dictate justice to us.
A hard heart
We often hear a statement: “My heart is hard as a rock. I do not feel any spirituality.” We hear this over and over again in our communities. Allah says in the Qur’an:
“Has not the time come for the hearts of those who believe to be affected by Allah’s Reminder (this Qur’an), and that which has been revealed of the truth, lest they become as those who received the Scripture, and the term was prolonged for them and so their hearts were hardened? And many of them were disobedient.” (Qur’an, 57:16)
Notice that it is an admonishment from Allah that our hearts are not humbling to the Qur’an. Allah is telling us that it is our fault when we do not feel that spirituality. How much time has passed since we last contemplated the Qur’an? How many years? When are we to understand?
If any of us are planning to watch TV all summer long, let me tell you TV guide’s best bet: It’s called the OFF button. Our time is too valuable for that.
How can we waste our time when we know for a fact that when we get up to pray our Salah, the majority of the Muslim congregation will not know what the verses recited mean?
With all our wealth, conveniences, and intelligence, we have no excuse but to excel in our drive to learn Islam and learn it properly.
– Excerpt from a Khutbah
– Muhammad Alshareef – is director of Al-Maghrib Institute, Canada
Istiqamat Kya Ha
5 Questions Before You Take The Plunge
BOOKS can be written – and indeed, have been written – on scores of pre-marital questions to ask prospective spouses. From ‘1001 Questions to Ask Before You Get Married’ to ‘The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say I Do’ to ‘Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts: 7 Questions to Ask Before and After Marriage’ bookstores are inundated with self-help books that indicate that the phenomenon of getting married and staying married is being taken seriously.
Among Muslims, a woman’s wali (legal guardian) is often assigned the important, but uncomfortable task of playing Grand Inquisitor and giving prospective suitors a thorough grilling that would do the FBI proud, in order to protect a woman’s best interests. Parents, siblings and potential spouses themselves prepare lists of questions in the getting-to-know-each-other phase, that provide clues to a prospective spouse’s personality and so, by extension, a couple’s compatibility.
Yet, given the spiraling divorce rate and the widespread heartbreak, bitterness and social chaos that are left in its wake – the brunt of which is mostly borne by women – something seems to be amiss. Perhaps the wrong people are being asked the wrong questions; perhaps it’s time to question ourselves before we set out to question others?
1. Why do I want to get married?
It’s easy to come up with an automatic, almost Pavlovian answer: marriage is half of the Deen (religion); it is a means of preserving one’s chastity and fulfilling biological and psychological/social needs in a legitimate way.
However, Hadeeth says: every deed is based upon the intention. It’s important to be clear in one’s own mind why one is seeking marriage: Is it because “everyone” I know is getting married? Is it because of parental or community pressure? Is it because the biological clock is ticking away? Is it because I’ve found Mr. Right? Is it because I’m tired of waiting for Mr. Right? Is it because I like weddings and the idea of being a wife? Is it because I’m seeking financial and social security? Is it because I feel I can learn from my spouse and grow in the Deen?
These questions may sound inane at the outset, but the answers come in handy, when several years down the lane, women may find themselves wondering: “Why did I ever get married to this person?”
2. Am I looking for the right qualities in a spouse?
There is a Hadeeth that enumerates the four qualities that are generally considered desirable from the point of view of marriage: Maal (property/wealth), Jamaal (beauty), Nasab (lineage), and Deen (religion) and recommends that the best choice is to choose a woman based upon her Deen.
The same may hold true the other way around – men are often chosen for a variety of cultural, social, financial, educational, personal, and even physiognomic considerations, but the recommendation of the Prophet (peace be upon him) remains the best bet for a blessed marriage – the other details vary from person to person, and are largely incidental, not basic, to marital happiness.
What does it mean to choose a person on the basis of their Deen? Does it mean to choose the graduate of an Islamic university, a charismatic community leader, or caller to Islam on the basis of their public persona? Or does it mean to choose someone whose personal life, manners, and behavior reflect the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace be upon him)?
Since Muslim men are accorded the role of Qawwaam (protector, provider, leader) in marital relationships, it would be best to ask one: Do I look up to this person? Does he inspire trust? Is he knowledgeable and capable of exercising good judgment? Can I bring myself to follow his lead in life? Will he be a good example to my children?
3. What will I be contributing to the marriage?
The maxim: “Ask not what your marriage can do for you; ask what you can do for your marriage” holds eternally true. Many women enter marriage with unrealistic expectations – of themselves, their spouses, and the entire marital experience. One’s level of preparedness for marriage goes beyond wedding planners, homemaking skills, and trousseau shopping – it extends to an entire mindset.
Am I willing to commit time, patience, enthusiasm, and loyalty to the relationship? Will I be contributing an element of reason and maturity? Will I be more mindful of taking my rights or giving them? According to the Qur’an, spouses have the right to expect closeness and companionship, love and mercy from each other. Do I have the generosity of spirit to give and receive all that?
4. How am I going to deal with differences and disagreements?
It’s naive to believe that marriages will never run into troubled waters – Islam clearly enunciates a Plan B, recommending that family members and knowledgeable community elders from both sides counsel and mediate at such times. Even in the worst possible scenario – divorce – the Qur’an recommends “staying together by Ma’aroof (mutually acceptable/amicable means) or parting with Ihsaan (moral excellence).” (Qur’an, 2: 229)
It may be worthwhile to evaluate: How do I react to trouble – with patience and reasoning or fits of temper and pique? Am I willing to accept another point of view or well-meaning advice in good faith and good humor? Do I have the tendency to bear long-term grudges or am I quick to forgive and forget? Can I disagree respectfully, without regressing to vitriolic recrimination?
5. What is it going to be like to be married to me?
Marriage counselors consider this an indispensable question to ask oneself. It is relatively easy to extrospect – to be so caught up in drawing out lists of must-have qualities in a prospective spouse, that one neglects to introspect: What sort of a wife would I make – would I be someone who would enrich and inspire? Would I be someone with whom my spouse would “dwell in tranquility”? The Du’a of the believers in the Qur’an is: “O Lord! Grant us wives and offspring who comfort our eyes…” (Qur’an, 25:74)
The question is: Do I have it in me to be the personification of such a prayer?
Umar Aur Maal Ki Zyadti Kab Naimat Hai?
Healing Belongs to Allah
All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds. May peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah, his household, and companions.
Fellow Muslims! This world is an abode of trials in which no man is safe from an illness that disrupts his life or weakens him. Afflictions are however a blessing; for our, Lord showers mercy through trials and tries some with blessings. The bitterness of this world for the believer is the real sweetness of the Hereafter for him. Many a blessing given to a man has been a source of his illness and many a deprived person has been healed through his depravity. Allah says,
“It may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know.” (2:216)
Affliction is a sign of Allah’s love and the way to Paradise. The Prophet, SalAllahu alayhe wa salam, said, “Great reward goes with great affliction, and when Allah loves a people, He tries them. Whoever shows contentedness among them will earn the pleasure of Allah and whoever becomes angry earns the anger of Allah.” (At-Tirmidhî)
Good health is one of the greatest blessings of Allah.
The Prophet, SalAllahu alayhe wa salam, said, “There are two blessings of which many people get deceived: good health and free time.” (Al-Bukhari)
Good health is one of the things that man will be called to account for on the Day of Resurrection. The Messenger of Allah, SalAllahu alayhe wa salam, said, “The first thing that man will be asked of on the Day of Resurrection is, ‘Had I not given you health in your body and quenched your thirst with cold water?’ ” (At-Tirmidhi)
One of the most severe tests is to deprive a man of his health. The best individuals among men have been afflicted with diseases. Ibn Mas’ud entered upon the Messenger of Allah, SalAllahu alayhe wa salam, while he was suffering from an illness, and he said, “O Messenger of Allah, SalAllahu alayhe wa salam, you are seriously suffering from an illness”. The Prophet, SalAllahu alayhe wa salam, said, “Yes, I am suffering from an illness as two men among you would do.” (Al-Bukhaaree and Muslim). Prophet Ayyub was also overwhelmed with disease for years.
Brethren in Faith! Suffering illness exalts one’s degree and erases one’s sins. The Messenger of Allah, SalAllahu alayhe wa salam, said, “No Muslim is afflicted with a disease or other affliction except that his sins are removed from him as leaves fall off a tree.” (Al-Bukharî and Muslim). The sick person will have the reward of what he used to do when he was healthy, written for him in his sickness even if he does not do them. It is during the illness that a believer increases in îman, dependence on Allah, and having a good opinion of Him. It is also the healing for diseases of the heart like arrogance, haughtiness, heedlessness, and self-deception. The guided Muslim learns lessons from trial of his time, for all afflictions that are not in one’s religion is well-being.
The sign of Allah in the creation of man has been known to a lot of doctors. Allah says, “And (there are signs) also in your own selves. Will you not then see?” (51:21)
The greatness of Allah’s creature has astounded the wise men. Allah says, “Verily, We have created man in the best form.” (95:4)
It is the marvelousness of this creation that calls non-Muslims to Islam and that increases the iman of the believer. Let the doctor then take his job as an act of worship by reflecting on the blessings of Allah. Let him be a propagator of this religion by what manifests to him the greatness and perfection of Allah’s creation.
O doctor, be conscious of Allah in all that you say and do. For your word is taken as far as diseases are concerned and your opinion is followed. The sick person is afflicted by Allah for wisdom by which He wants to exalt him and purify him. Do not, therefore, disdain him because of his illness. If a doctor behaves arrogantly with his knowledge, Allah will relegate him. It is wise for him to say about things of which he has no knowledge, “I do not know”. For there are some diseases the cure of which Allah has removed its knowledge. Be gentle with the patient and do not feel inconvenienced by his complaints or rudeness. Give the patient good tiding that he will soon be alright, for Allah loves optimism.
The Muslim doctor should be sincere in his work; for it is by the sincerity that one work is blessed. He should endeavor to know the new things in his profession for the service Islam and Muslims without neglecting any of all that the Shari’ah teaches. He should believe in the existence of magic and its effect. He should not deny the existence of jinn and their mixing with man. He should believe in the existence of evil eye and that if anything could overtake the pre-decree, the evil eye would have done so.
The Muslim doctor is entrusted with the secrets of the patients. Let him protect that and not reveal it and let him treat them with compassion and kindness.
Fellow Muslims! No one cures but Allah and no one removes afflictions but Allah. The medicine and the doctor are the only means by which Allah facilitates the healing. Therefore, make use of the means and use only lawful medications. Do not have total reliance on the doctor for none is capable of causing you any harm or benefit except Allah. Put your trust in Allah and submit your affairs to Him, for He is the One Who brings benefit and causes harm. Know that if the whole of the nation is to be gathered in order to benefit or harm you, they cannot do any benefit or harm to you except only by that which Allah has decreed for you. The most useful medicine is however total reliance on Allah, taking refuge with Him, and having good opinion of Him.
Seeking medication with the Qur’an and invocations narrated in the Sunnah are the best healing for disease, so is sincere and humble supplication with certainty of faith. Doing a lot of almsgivings is also one of the best medications. There are in this world some certain and divine medications that emanated from the Prophet, SalAllahu alayhe wa salam: Pressed dates of Al-Madeenah. It prevents the effects of poison and magic spell. The Messenger of Allah, SalAllahu alayhe wa salam, said,
“Whoever eats every morning seven ‘ajwah dates, no poison or magic spell will harm such a person.” (Muslim)
Water is also a medication for fever. The Prophet, SalAllahu alayhe wa salam, said, “Fever is of the fragrance of the Fire, so douse it with water.” (Al-Bukharî and Muslim). Also, nothing like honey in meaning has been created for us. Cupping is also one of the best methods of healing. The Messenger of Allah, SalAllahu alayhe wa salam, said, “The best of what you treat yourselves with is cupping”. (Al-Bukhari and Muslim) The black seed is also a cure for all diseases. The Prophet, SalAllahu alayhe wa salam, said, “Make use of the black seed for in it is a cure for all diseases.”
There are however some diseases that cannot be cured except with the Qur’an and the Prophetic invocations. They are used for untying a magic spell and expulsion of evil spirits.
Muslims also possess blessed water that is the noblest of all waters and the highest in esteem. It is Zamzam water that springs from the blessed land in the sacred House of Allah. It is a kind of food and cure. These are the curing prophetic medications from which those who accept them and believe in their curing effects benefit.
Brethren in Faith! A lot of Istighfar (seeking for forgiveness) removes diseases and reduces their effects. Allah says, “Ask forgiveness of your Lord and then repent to Him, He will send you (from the sky) abundant rain and add strength to your strength. So do not turn away as criminals.” (11:52)
Sins close doors of knowledge. Islam has forbidden being in seclusion with a strange woman for the purpose of medical examinations and the like. Muslims should therefore follow the injunction of Islam everywhere. Mingling of male and female workers in medical institutions weakens knowledge and removes the blessing of medication. It is also one of the causes of keeping one away from Allah and from healing. The Messenger of Allah, SalAllahu alayhe wa salam, said, “I have not left after me for men a trial that is greater than women”. Conversely, obeying Allah opens doors of knowledge, spiritual upliftment, and perfection of deeds. The patients, as well as medical personnel, should move closer to Allah for removal of the afflictions; for when the trials become severe, none removes them but Allah. Keeping away from Allah and disobeying Him in times of bliss are among the causes of misery.
Fellow Muslims! Of the firmness and completeness of faith is to persevere and be contented with what has been decreed. Be contented, dear patient, with what Allah has portioned out for you. Have patience of the willing noble servant of Allah, for the end of patience is good. Allah says,
“And if you endure patiently, verily, it is better for the patient ones.” (16:126)
Whoever perseveres and is contented, Allah will keep for him what is greater. Remember also that, what Allah afflicted you with is only to purify and elevate you and that, what Allah endows you with of favors are manifolds of what He takes from you. Showing anguish does not cure the illness but aggravates it. If you are afflicted with disease, praise Allah that you were not afflicted with more than that. Supplicate to your Lord in seclusion and do not forget the remembrance of Allah as a way of thanking Him for His abundant gifts. No situation is uglier than when man repents to Allah in affliction and then becomes a sinner during time of bliss.
When you start recovering from your illness, know the estimation of Allah’s blessing on you, hold on to a good relationship with your Lord and be always conscious of Him in times of bliss; He will know you in your times of hardship.
Make a sincere repentance to Allah and learn lessons from vicissitudes of time. Beware of satanic ways like having a bad opinion of Allah, getting annoyed, and showing anguish, for Allah is always All-Compassionate with His slaves and He is the One that removes calamities and hears the agony of the sorrowful. He says,
“If Allah touches you with harm, none can remove it but He and if He touches you with good, then He is able to do all things.” (6:17)
Fellow Muslims! One of the best ways by which man treats his illness is to search his heart, to reform it, and to strengthen his soul by relying on Allah, seeking refuge with him, humbling himself before Him, giving alms, invoking Allah, returning to Him in repentance, doing good to people, aiding the wronged and relieving the distressed. Ibn al-Qayyim said,
“May Allah have mercy on these medications. Many nations have tried it regardless of their religions and beliefs and found it to be very effective in healing what the doctors could not heal. And we and others have also tried these things on many occasions and found that they achieved what physical medications could not achieve.”
by Imam al-Madîna al-Munawarrah ‘Abdul Muhsin Ibn Muhammad al-Qasim
Ilm Seekhna Hazar Nawafil Say Afzal
When Was The Last Time You Raced With Your Wife?
You might mockingly or disapprovingly smile, yet the question remains, for it bespeaks an invitation to you to follow the Sunnah of the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, in his kind attitude toward his wives.
If you claim to follow and love the Noble Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, Sunnah, in keeping a beard, cleaning your teeth with a Siwaak (tooth stick), and shortening your clothes to reach above the ankle, you are likewise required to emulate him in the way he treated his spouses.
Moreover, the leniency, mercy, and patience of the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, with his wives is not merely his tradition, but an obligation confirmed by many Quranic verses, among which is the one in which Allah The Almighty Says (what means): {And live with them in kindness.} [Quran 4:20]
He (PBUH) said: “He is the best amongst you who is the kindest towards his wives and I am the kindest amongst you towards my wives.”
Thus, racing was a compassionate gesture of the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, in order to be friendly and open with his wives.
Aaishah [Allah be pleased with her] narrates that as a young and thin girl, she was once accompanying the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, on one of his journeys. He, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam asked his Companions to move ahead of them, which they did. He, sallaallahu alayhi wa sallam, then asked to race with her; she did and won.
Sometime later, after she had forgotten about this, she was with the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, on another of his journeys and he wanted to race her. She wanted to excuse herself, by telling him she could not, since she had gained some weight, but he, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, insisted. They raced and this time he (PBUH) won; so the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, laughed and said; “This [is] for that.”
Some husbands content that they do not race with their wives because they are too busy and have many responsibilities. Our retort is that by no means can they be busier than the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, who bore the responsibility of conveying the Message of Islam to the entire world.
He also led the army in combat alongside running errands for his family and doing household chores. Nevertheless, all this did not stop him from twice racing with his wife Aaishah[RA].
Other husbands might argue that the streets are not a suitable place for racing; so, they can surely take their wives away from people, on a picnic.
Moreover, competition is not just in running.
One can compete to win in a permissible electronic game or general knowledge quiz, in which one can ask each other questions and keep score.
The third group of husbands believes that such competitions may cause their wives to become too bold and eventually challenge them.
This is not true, because the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, raced with his wife, so this is an act to be followed, for copying his behavior with his wives can bring nothing but good.
Also, modern research has established that being kind and easygoing with one’s wife makes it easier for her to be mindful of you.
There are lessons to be learned from the aforementioned incident related by Aaishah concerning the Prophet’s, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, kindness toward his wives.
1- The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, was the one to ask for a race both times.
This teaches husbands that they should take the initiative in such competitions. Wives may be too busy with housework or fear rejection or, as is the generally innate nature of women, be too shy to propose such an idea.
However, on their part, they should try to urge their husbands when they see they are free and in a good mood.
2- A husband should not incessantly brag of superiority over his wife.
We notice that the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, outran Aaishah after she had already outrun him the first time.
3- Alternately, a husband should neither always deliberately lose for the sake of his wife or the competition would be meaningless.
The factor that decided the winner of Aaishah the first time was her youth and fitness, and when she put on some weight, the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, outran her.
4- A husband should remember that such competitions are just for amiability and fun.
Neither of the spouses should get worked up or a row could ensue and the activity would lose its desired aim. This can be understood from the reaction of the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, who only cheerfully referred to his win to counter that of Aaishah’s.
Verily in the noble way of the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam is there a recipe for happiness