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Like The Prophets, Raise Your Complaints To The Creator – (Part-II)

Like The Prophets, Raise Your Complaints To the Creator – (Part-I)

Prophet Ya’qub (peace be upon him)
The bitter pain of losing one’s offspring, a beloved, most upright son, along with his younger brother, depicts the trial of Prophet Ya’qub (peace be upon him). Long years shadowed in grief and sorrow pass. He shed tears until his sight was lost, but what was not lost is hope and complaint to his Creator. Reprimanded by family for being too hard on himself, he firmly responds with words that abridge the message of this piece: He said, “I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allah, and I know from Allah that which you do not know.” (Yusuf 12:86)

Indeed, he did not complain to them, for they were mere humans who grew tired of the complaints of their brethren. He called out to One Whose pleasure increases when He is asked of.

Prophet Ya’qub’s word ‘bathee’ in the ayah refers to his greatest and most severe type of grief, whose difficulty makes one unable to restrain himself from releasing it and complaining about it.

When he turned to Allah, Allah helped him and he was reunited with his sons in an honored state: And when they entered upon Yusuf (Joseph), he took his parents to himself and said, “Enter Egypt, Allah willing, safe [and secure].”
And he raised his parents upon the throne (Yusuf 12:99-100).

Like The Prophets, Raise Your Complaints To the Creator – (Part-I)

WHEN the trials of this temporary life burden us, piling heavily within us, a need to release them, to complain, to call out for help urgently arises. It is a means through which we lighten the load and hopefully find some light.

The urge to release one’s complaints exists in us all, even a camel felt it. The Prophet (peace be upon him) entered the garden of a man from the Ansar (the people of Madina), and upon seeing him, the camel froze and its eyes watered. The Prophet (peace be upon him) came to it and rubbed its ears until it calmed down. He (peace be upon him) inquired about the owner and warned him to fear Allah, for the camel had complained to him that ‘he starves it and tires it by overworking it and using it beyond its capacity.’ (Ahmad and Abu Dawud).

Narrated to us over and over in the Quran are stories of men before us who were tested. They were great men chosen by Allah to carry messages of Truth, but their position did not deem them safe from facing the trials of this life, thus proving that indeed the world is a place of test upon test. For if it were not, Allah would have spared such a noble creation. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “The people who are tested the most severely are the Prophets, then the righteous, then the next best and the next best, and a man will be tested in accordance with his level of religious commitment; the stronger his religious commitment, the more severe will be his test.” (Ahmad).

Not Performing The Hajj When Able to

Allah, the Most High, says, {Pilgrimage thereto is a duty, men owe to Allah those who can afford the journey; but if any deny faith, Allah stands not in need of any of his creatures.} (Al-Umran: 97)

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Whoever can afford this journey to the sacred House, by provision and transportation, and he does not make the pilgrimage, there is no blame if he dies as a Jew or a Christian. This is because Allah says, “Pilgrimage thereto is a duty men owe to Allah -those who can afford the journey.” (Reported by At- Tirmidhi)

‘Umar Ibn Al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “I have considered sending men to these cities to see who has not made the pilgrimage, and collect the non-Muslim poll tax (Jizya) from everyone possessing the means who has not performed it. They are not Muslims.”

Ibn ‘ Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “Whoever does not make pilgrimage or pay Zakat will ask to be returned to life when dying.” Someone said, “No one asks to be returned except the unbelievers.” He said, “Allah, the Almighty, says, {And spend something (in charity) out of the substance which we have bestowed on you, before death should come to any of you and he should say: O my Lord! Why didst thou no give me respite for a little while, I should then have given (largely) in charity, and I should have been one of the doers of good.} (Al-Munafiqun: 10)
i.e., I should have made a pilgrimage.

Allah Most High says, {But to no soul will God grant respite when the time appointed for it has come.}
It was asked, “In what amount is Zakat obligatory?” He answered; “Two hundred Dirhams and the equivalent amount if it is gold.” Someone asked, “What about pilgrimage?” He said, “Provision and transportation.” Sa’id Ibn Jubair said, “If I have a wealthy neighbor who died without making a pilgrimage, I would never pray over him.”

60 Islamic Ways To Get And Keep Your Wife’s Love Forever Insh’Allah

1. Make her feel secure; QUIT BEING AGGRESSIVE

2. When you go home, say ‘Assalamualikum.’ (Greetings) It kicks the shaitaan out of your home!

3. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) described the wife as a fragile vessel and said to take care of this fragile vessel. Remember that there is goodness in this vessel, so treat it gently.

4. When you advise her, do so in privacy, in a peaceful environment. NOT IN PUBLIC, as it’s a type of slandering.

5. Be generous to your wife- it keeps her LOVED

6. Move and let her have your seat. It will warm her heart.

7. AVOID ANGER. HOW? Keep your wudu at all times. Prophet Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam said if you are angry, sit down; if you’re sitting, then lie down. Follow the sunnah!

Five Ways To Boost Your Child’s Self-Esteem

1. Say more positive things to your child each day than negative ones.
It’s easy to get caught up in criticism and correction, but if all your kid hears about is what he’s doing wrong, he might begin to believe he can never do anything right. Give as much emotion, energy, and attention to the good or just not-bad things your child does as to the bad ones. If necessary, set up situations specifically to give yourself an excuse to praise your child. Frequent smiles and hugs can go a long way, too.

2. Find something your child loves to do.
You’re always going to have to spend a certain amount of time pushing him or her to do things that are hard and frustrating and discouraging, but everyone needs to spend some time doing things that are fun and fulfilling and empowering, too. If your child has a hobby or a special interest, encourage that (without taking over entirely). Even if all they like to do is listen to music or watch TV, you can discuss their likes and dislikes and give kids a chance to “show off” their knowledge.

3. Give your child responsibilities.
This can be hard to do for children with special needs, who may not be able to follow through on normal chores. But with a little imagination, you can find small but important jobs from which your child can get a sense of contributing to the family without risking failure or blame. It can be as simple as putting a clean trash bag in an empty can, bringing the newspaper inside, making sure lights are turned off, or sorting recyclables. Having a “job” of any sort is a self-esteem booster.

4. Consider school placement carefully.
Many parents worry that being in special education, especially in a self-contained class, will damage their child’s self-esteem. But being in a class that is too challenging, or one in which the child perceives herself as the stupidest student, can be damaging as well. Listen to your child when he talks about how school feels, and be ready to do what’s needed to find the right fit. Most of all, be sure you aren’t determining placement based on your self-esteem, not your child’s.

5. Spend time with your child
Whether you play games, take walks, have long bedtime chats, or just snuggle in front of the TV, spending time with your kids shows them that you value their company. If you give the better part of your attention to work or personal interests — even to learning about your child’s disability or being an advocate — your child may feel that he or she is not important or deserving of your time. A little time and attention from a parent can pay off big … even if kids act like they don’t care.

by Rafia