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Five Ways To Boost Your Child’s Self-Esteem

1. Say more positive things to your child each day than negative ones.
It’s easy to get caught up in criticism and correction, but if all your kid hears about is what he’s doing wrong, he might begin to believe he can never do anything right. Give as much emotion, energy, and attention to the good or just not-bad things your child does as to the bad ones. If necessary, set up situations specifically to give yourself an excuse to praise your child. Frequent smiles and hugs can go a long way, too.

2. Find something your child loves to do.
You’re always going to have to spend a certain amount of time pushing him or her to do things that are hard and frustrating and discouraging, but everyone needs to spend some time doing things that are fun and fulfilling and empowering, too. If your child has a hobby or a special interest, encourage that (without taking over entirely). Even if all they like to do is listen to music or watch TV, you can discuss their likes and dislikes and give kids a chance to “show off” their knowledge.

3. Give your child responsibilities.
This can be hard to do for children with special needs, who may not be able to follow through on normal chores. But with a little imagination, you can find small but important jobs from which your child can get a sense of contributing to the family without risking failure or blame. It can be as simple as putting a clean trash bag in an empty can, bringing the newspaper inside, making sure lights are turned off, or sorting recyclables. Having a “job” of any sort is a self-esteem booster.

4. Consider school placement carefully.
Many parents worry that being in special education, especially in a self-contained class, will damage their child’s self-esteem. But being in a class that is too challenging, or one in which the child perceives herself as the stupidest student, can be damaging as well. Listen to your child when he talks about how school feels, and be ready to do what’s needed to find the right fit. Most of all, be sure you aren’t determining placement based on your self-esteem, not your child’s.

5. Spend time with your child
Whether you play games, take walks, have long bedtime chats, or just snuggle in front of the TV, spending time with your kids shows them that you value their company. If you give the better part of your attention to work or personal interests — even to learning about your child’s disability or being an advocate — your child may feel that he or she is not important or deserving of your time. A little time and attention from a parent can pay off big … even if kids act like they don’t care.

by Rafia

Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) As A Husband

Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was the epitome of human character. He came to guide us and lead us by example. Allah Almighty in His Book praised him and directed us to take him (peace be upon him) as our role model: “You have indeed in the Messenger of Allah a beautiful example (of conduct) for anyone whose hope is in Allah and the Last Day, and remembers Allah much.” (Qur’an, 33:21)

Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) had a multifaceted personality with different roles to play and various responsibilities to attend to. One such was his role as a husband and his relationship with his wives. He lived and demonstrated how a perfect husband should be. He understood the nature of women. He knew that though women are created beautiful and attractive, they also are volatile and emotional, which husbands will just have to learn to accept in their lives. He knew that patience, wise usage of words, and control over temper are mandatory qualities a husband must possess while dealing with women.

The Prophets And Messengers Of Allah Ta’ala

“Messenger” or “Rasool” means he who brings the Message from Allah Ta’ala to the servants. A “Prophet” is he who received the “Wahi” (Revelation, a Message from Allah Ta’ala) for the guidance of mankind to show people the path to Allah Ta’ala. Many Prophets and many Angels are Messengers (Rasools).

All Prophets were male. There has never been a Jinn as a Prophet nor a female Prophet.

A Prophet becomes a Prophet whom Allah Ta’ala wishes to be or whom Allah Ta’ala deems fit, and a Prophet is born as a Prophet. A Prophet always stays away from sin even before becoming a Prophet. He is always attracted to good. There is never an aspect of a Prophet that people would hate. Those who believe that they can become a Prophet due to their effort are Kaafirs (non-believers), and those who believe that a Prophet’s prophecy can be taken away from him are also a Kaafir.

Hajj, Pilgrimage, Rituals In Details

On Arrival
1. Ihram at Meeqat for those who have not put on Ihram earlier.
2. (i) Two Rakats Nafil and Niyah (Declaration of Intention) and Talbiyah must be performed for Hajj and Umrah combined (Qiran) or
ii)Two Rakats Nafil and Niyah and Talbiyah must be performed for Umrah only (Tamattu) or
iii) Two Rakat Nafil and Niyah and Talbiyah must be performed for Hajj only (Ifraad).
3. Tawaf Qudoom in Makkah (Arrival Tawaf).
4. Two Rakats Nafil /Drink Zamzam.
5. Sai’e
i) For Qiran, maintain Ihram until Hajj.
ii) For Tamathu, one can come out of the Ihram.

The Wisdom Behind The Multiple Wives Of The Prophet

[Al-Ubbi said:] Al-Shafi„ I said: “Allah (Glorified is He) singled out the Messenger of Allah by obligating on him things which He alleviated from other than him, to increase his (Allah bless him and grant him peace) sanctity, and He permitted for him things which He made unlawful for other than him, to increase his honor and his exaltation.”

From this category is [the permission of] having more than four [wives]. This was permitted [for him] so that he ascends in the hearts of the Arabs in esteem and glory because they would boast over sexual prowess.

Furthermore, in terms of perfect power and moderate constitution, he was at the level of perfection attested to by the reports. Whoever was such, the precursors to this door [of perfection] would be dominant over him.