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Acceptance Of Dua

[Sahih Muslim: Book 35, Number 6593] Narrated Abu Huraira (Radi Allah Anhu): Allah’s Apostle (sal-allahu-alleihi-wasallam) said: “The supplication of every one of you is granted if he does not grow impatient and says: I supplicated, but it was not granted.”

[Sahih Muslim: Book 35, Number 6594] Narrated Abu Huraira (Radi Allah Anhu): Allah’s Apostle (sal-allahu-alleihi-wasallam) as saying: “The supplication of one of you is granted if he does not grow impatient and say, I supplicated my Lord, but it was not granted.”

[Sahih Muslim: Book 35, Number 6595] Narrated Abu Huraira (Radi Allah Anhu): Allah’s Apostle (sal-allahu-alleihi-wasallam) as saying: “The supplication of the servant is granted in case he does not supplicate for sin or for severing the ties of blood, or he does not become impatient. It was said: Allah’s Messenger, what does:” If he does not grow impatient” imply? He said: That he should say like this: I supplicated, and I supplicated, but I did not find it being responded to. And then he becomes frustrated and abandons supplication.”

Our Lord! Accept from us; surely Thou art the hearing, the Knowing.

Marriage In Islam

Islam, unlike other religions, is a strong advocate of marriage. There is no place for celibacy like, for example, the Roman Catholic priests and nuns. The prophet (PBUH) has said “There is no celibacy in Islam. Marriage is a religious duty and is consequently a moral safeguard as well as a social necessity. Islam does not equal celibacy with high “taqwa/Iman”. The prophet has also said, “Marriage is my tradition who so ever keeps away there from is not from amongst me”.Marriage acts as an outlet for sexual needs and regulates it so one does not become a slave to his/ her desires.It is a social necessity because through marriage, families are established and the family is the fundamental unit of our society. Furthermore, marriage is the only legitimate or halal way to indulge in intimacy between a man and a woman.

Islam takes a middle-of-the-road position to sexual relations, it neither condemns it like certain religions, nor does it allow it freely. Islam urges us to control and regulate our desires, whatever they may be so that we remain dignified and not become like animals.

The purpose of Marriage
The word “zawj” is used in the Qur’an to mean a pair or a mate. In general, its usage refers to marriage. The general purpose of marriage is that the sexes can provide company to one another, love one another, procreate children, and live in peace and tranquility to the commandments of Allah.

Marriage serves as a means to emotional and sexual gratification and as a means of tension reduction. It is also a form of Ibadah because it is obeying Allah and his messenger – i.e. Marriage is seen as the only possible way for the sexes to unite. One could choose to live in sin, however, by choosing marriage one is displaying obedience to Allah.
Marriage is “mithaq” – a solemn covenant (agreement). It is not a matter which can be taken lightly. It should be entered into with total commitment and full knowledge of what it involves. It is not like buying a new dress where you can exchange it if you don’t like it. Your partner should be your choice for life. One should be mature enough to understand the demands of marriage so that the union can last. For a marriage to be valid certain conditions must be met.

  • Consent of both parties.
  • “Mahr” a gift from the groom to his bride.
  • Witnesses- 2 male or female.
  • The marriage should be publicized, it should never be kept secret as itleads to suspicion and troubles within the community.

Is Marriage obligatory?
According to Imams Abu Hanifah, Ahmad ibn Hanbal and Malik ibn Anas, marriage is recommendatory, however in certain individuals it becomes wajib/obligatory. Imam Shaafi’i considers it to be nafl or mubah (preferable). The general opinion is that if a person, male or female fears that if he/she does not marry they will commit fornication, then marriage becomes “wajib”. If a person has strong sexual urges then it becomes “wajib” for that person to marry. Marriage should not be put off or delayed especially if one has the means to do so.

A man, however, should not marry if he or she does not possess the means to maintain a wife and future family, or if he has no sex drive, or if dislikes children, or if he feels marriage will seriously affect his religious obligation. The general principle is that the prophet (PBUH), enjoined up in the followers to marry. He said, “When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half.” This hadith is narrated by Anas. Islam greatly encourages marriage because it shields one from and upholds the family unit which Islam places great importance on.

Selection of a partner:
The choice of a partner should be the one with the most “taqwa” (piety). The prophet recommended the suitors see each other before going through with marriage. It is unreasonable for two people to be thrown together and be expected to relate and be intimate when they know nothing of each other. The couple is permitted to look at each other with a critical eye and not a lustful one. This ruling does not contradict the ayah which says that believing men and women should lower their gaze.

The couple, however, are not permitted to be alone in a closed room or go out together alone. As the hadith says “When a man and a woman are together alone, there is a third presence i.e. shaitan. There is no concept of courtship in Islam as it is practiced in the West. There is no dating or living in a de facto relationship or trying each other out before they commit to each other seriously. There is to be no physical relationship whatsoever before marriage.

The romantic notions that young people often have, have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved. We only have to look at the alarming divorce rate in the West to understand this point. e.g. the couple has known each other for years, is intimate, live together and so on yet somehow this does not guarantee the success of the future marriage. Romance and love simply do not equal an everlasting bond between two people.
Fact: Romance and love die out very quickly when we have to deal with the real world. The unrealistic expectations that young people have are what often contribute to the failure of their relationships.

The West makes fun of the Islamic way of marriage in particular arranged marriage, yet the irony is that statistically arranged marriages prove to be more successful and lasting than romantic types of courtship. This is because people are blinded by physical attraction and thus do not choose a compatible partner.

Love blinds people to potential problems in the relationship. There is an Arabic saying: that says “The mirror of love is blind, it makes zucchini into okra”. Arranged marriages, on the other hand, are based not on physical attraction or romantic notions but rather on critical evaluation of the compatibility of the couple. This is why they often prove successful.

Consent of parties.
There is a halal arranged marriage and a haram one. It is OK to arrange marriages by suggestion and recommendation as long as both parties are agreeable. The other arranged marriage is when parents choose the future spouse and the couple concerned are forced or have no choice in the matter. One of the conditions of a valid marriage is the consent of the couple. Marriage by definition is a voluntary union of two people.

The choice of a partner by a Muslim virgin girl is subject to the approval of the father or guardian under Maliki school. This is to safeguard her welfare and interests. The prophet said “The widow and the divorced woman shall not be married until she has consented and the virgin shall not be married until her consent is obtained. The prophet did revoke the marriage of a girl who complained to him that her father had married her against her wishes.

The husband/wife relationship.
The wife’s rights – the Husbands obligations.

1. Maintenance
The husband is responsible for the wife’s maintenance. This right is established by the authority of the Qur’an and the Sunnah. It is inconsequential whether the wife is a Muslim, non-Muslim, rich, poor, healthy, or sick. A component of his role as “qawam” (leader) is to bear the financial responsibility of the family generously so that his wife may be assured security and thus perform her role devotedly. The wife’s maintenance entails her right to lodging, clothing, food, and general care, like medication, hospital bills, etc. He must lodge her where he resides himself according to his means. The wife’s lodge must be adequate to ensure her privacy, comfort, and independence. If a wife has been used to a maid or is unable to attend to her household duties, it is the husband’s duty to provide her with a maid if he can afford to do so. The prophet is reported to have said: The best Muslim is one who is the best husband.

2. Mahr
The wife is entitled to a marriage gift that is her own. This may be prompt or deferred depending on the agreement between the parties. A marriage is not valid without mahr. It does not have to be money or gold. “Mahr” is a gift from the groom to the bride. This is the Islamic law, unlike some cultures whereby the bride’s parents pay the future husband to marry the daughter. This practice degrades women and is contrary to the spirit of Islam. There is no specification in the Qur’an as to what or how much the Mahr has to be. It depends on the parties involved.

3. Non-material rights.
A husband is commanded by the law of Allah to treat his wife with equity, respect her feelings, and show kindness and consideration, especially if he has another wife. The prophet’s last sermon stresses kindness to women.

The Wife Obligations – The Husband’s Rights
One of the main duties of the wife is to contribute to the success and blissfulness of the marriage. She must be attentive to the comfort and well-being of her husband. The Qur’anic ayah that illustrates this point is: “Our lord, grant us wives and offspring who will be the apples of our eyes and guide us to be models for the righteous”
The wife must be faithful, trustworthy, and honest she must not deceive herhusband by deliberately avoiding contraception. She must not allow any other person to have access to that which is exclusively the husband’s right i.e. sexual intimacy. She must not receive or entertain strange males in the house without his knowledge and consent. She should not be alone with a strange male. She should not accept gifts from other men without his approval. This is meant to avoid jealousy, suspicion, and gossip. The husband’s possessions are her trust. She may not dispose of his belongings without his permission.

A wife should make herself sexually attractive to her husband and be responsive to his advances. The wife must not refuse her husband sexually as this can lead to marital problems and worse still – tempt the man to adultery. The husband of course should take into account the wife’s health and general consideration should be given. The angels curse women who refuse their husbands, for this is one of the wife’s most important roles. A hadith states, ” A wife must run to her husband if he calls her, even if she is occupied at the oven.

Obedience.
The purpose of obedience in the relationship is to keep the family unit running as smoothly as possible. The man has been given the right to be obeyed because he is the leader and not because he is superior. If a leader is not obeyed, his leadership will become invalid – Imagine a king, a teacher, or a parent without the necessary authority that has been entrusted to them. Obedience does not mean blind obedience. It is subject to conditions:

1. It is required only if what is asked from the wife is within the permissible categories of action.
2. It must be maintained only about matters that fall under the husband’s rights.

Here are some examples of the types of things that a wife must be obedient to:

1. Receiving male guests or accepting gifts.
2. Disposing of his property.
3. Leaving the house without his permission. This includes going out to work.

She must accept that if there is a dispute between them he has the final word – i.e. she must accept his “qawamma” (leadership). Authority is not the equivalent to power, much less absolute power, so men should not consider their position as one of power and women as subservience or submission. The office of leadership is not founded for the man. It is allocated to him and he is appointed to it because he is better qualified for the position. The man as part of the family unit is bound by the rule of the office. He is answerable to Allah at all times – so he is not given free reign to rule as he pleases. His leadership is not unquestionable. If he does something unIslamic the wife is entitled to tell her husband that his behaviour is unacceptable in Islam. The rights and obligations of each of the sexes are complementary. These rights and obligations are set out to give the marital relationship the best chance of success and survival. It is Allah who knows what is best for his creation. If we have true iman we will accept Allah Shariah so that we can prosper in this life and the next.

Role Model For Modesty ( Fatima bint Muhammad)

One day in the early days of Islam, the Prophet (SAWS) was praying in front of the Ka’aba. Abu Jahal, ‘Ukbah bin Abi Mu’eet, and Shayba, the enemies of the Prophet (SAWS) were sitting around and they said to each other, Abu Jahal made the suggestion and he said, “Who would take the guts of a camel and all of the filth and dump it on his back while he is praying to humiliate him?” Abu Jahal is someone who stepped on the neck of the Prophet (SAWS) while he was praying, he’s someone who used to throw dirt at the Prophet (SAWS) while he was praying but he wanted to degrade him even further. And ‘Ukban volunteered himself and he went and grabbed all of the filth of a camel, all of its guts and all of its najaasa (excretions) and he went and he dumped it on the back of the Prophet (SAWS) while he was in sujood/prostration. That weight down the back of the Prophet (SAWS) heavily. Imagine this young girl, not even a teenager yet, Fatimah radiyaAllahu ta’ala ‘anha, the daughter of the Prophet (SAWS) seeing her father in this state, seeing the people laugh at him and mock him and curse him. And she comes and she starts to scrape all of that filth off of the back of her father. Imagine the humiliation and the hurt and the pain and she sees that. She starts to cry Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha and the Prophet (SAWS) says “لا تبكي إن الله ناصرٌ أباك” [laa tabki inn Allah naasirun ‘abaaki]- Do not cry oh my daughter, Allah (SWT) will help and give victory to your father. And it is at that time that the Prophet (SAWS) raised his hands to the skies and made du’aa saying,
“اللهم عليك بأبي جهل، اللهم عليك بعقبة، اللهم عليك بشيبة”.
And those 3 men that the Prophet (SAWS) made du’aa against were the first 3 people to go down in Badr.

Now the moral of this story more than anything else is the young girl. Don’t you think that would traumatize her and make her an individual who would not have the same love for her father’s cause but would rather blame it? Absolutely not! And we look at this young girl Fatima Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha, the 5th child of the Prophet (SAWS). The Prophet (SAWS) had other daughters and you might wonder, why Fatima? Why is she the one that perfected her faith? What about her older sisters? And there are a couple of reasons that the scholars mention. One of them is that she spent the most time with her mother Khadija Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha, another woman who had perfected her faith. And so she adopted her morals and her characters more than anything else. Another reason is that she was with the Prophet (SAWS) at times when no one else was with him. When Khadija Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha passed away, it was only the Prophet (SAWS) and Fatima Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha alone in that household. Subhan Allah, you can imagine what role she had to play. She was only 5 years old when Rasool Allah received revelation. She was born and grew up in Islam unlike any of the other children. She grew up in Islam. But Subhan Allah she was with the Prophet (SAWS) when no one else was with him. And you can imagine those moments. Imagine the times the Prophet (SAWS) would come home when he was feeling devastated after losing Khadija and AbuTalib and having no one else she was the one that would cook for him, she was the one that would come to his aid, she was the one that started to comfort him and took her mother’s place Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha. And in fact, they used to call Fatima Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha ‘أم أبيها’ [umm abeeha]- the mother of her father. Subhan Allah. She cared for the Prophet (SAWS) that much.

She also adopted so much from the Prophet (SAWS) in terms of her character. One of her nicknames being ‘الزهراء’ [al-Zahraa’] – the splendid one was because of her radiant face, she had that beautiful radiant face and she was the daughter of the Prophet (SAWS) whose face was as bright as the full moon. And we find that ‘Aisha Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha says something very special about her. ‘Aisha says, “I have never seen anyone who resembled the Prophet (SAWS) from Allah’s creation more in speech and character and conversation than Fatima Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha.” And listen to what ‘Aisha says, she says that any time Fatima entered a room where the Prophet (SAWS) was she said the Prophet (SAWS) would get up. He would greet her, he would kiss her, he would hold her hand and then he would take Fatima and sit her down in the same place that he was sitting, ‘alayhi al salat wassalam, Honoring her and holding her in that high esteem. And you might think to yourself, Subhan Allah this woman is that daughter of Khadija Radi Allahu anha but the Prophet (SAWS) said that Fatima is ‘سيدة نساء الجنة’ [sayyidat nisaa’ al-jannah]- she is the queen, the leader of the women of Paradise. Not only has she perfected her faith but she is the leader of the women of Paradise. And the Prophet (SAWS) treated her like royalty. But royalty in a different sense. You know we think of royalty nowadays that he got her married to a really rich man and probably gave her a palace and spoiled her rotten and gave her gifts all the time. The Prophet (SAWS) rejected many proposals from great sahaba who had wealth and were very well off in dunya and aakhirah but the Prophet (SAWS) chose ‘Ali radiya Allahu ta’ala ‘anhu, the one who the Prophet (SAWS) called his brother after Hijra. And Rasool Allah (SAWS) used to always call ‘Ali his brother after hijra to the point that Umm Ayman Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha she said, “How come you call him your brother? Who is your brother?” He said, “This is the one who I made my brother. We were paired after hijra.”

The Prophet (SAWS) chose ‘Ali for Fatima. And the Prophet (SAWS) whenever ‘Ali Radi Allahu ‘anhu came to propose to Fatima, the Prophet (SAWS) sat infront of ‘Ali Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anhu and ‘Ali was nervous. So the Prophet (SAWS) offered it to ‘Ali Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anhu and said, “Maybe you came so that you could get engaged to Fatima?” ‘Ali Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anhu said “Yes”. So the Prophet (SAWS) said, “Well what do you have as a dowry? What do you have as a mahr?” He had nothing. All he had was a shield and that’s the only thing he owned. And the Prophet (SAWS) said, “Well why don’t you sell that shield and use that as mahr?” And that is the only thing she had as her dowry. ‘Ali Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anhu sold his shield to ‘Uthman Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anhu and that was the only thing that would be used for dowry.

Subhan Allah think about how much the Prophet (SAWS) loved her but even with that, the Prophet (SAWS) was so involved with the life of Fatima and ‘Ali that sometimes Fatima Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha thought that maybe the Prophet (SAWS) loved ‘Ali more than her because the Prophet (SAWS) was always caring for that household. He would come and wake them up for qiyam-ul-layl. Subhan Allah he was always involved with that household, always taking care of them and checking up on them. So Fatima Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha wondered one time that maybe the Prophet (SAWS) loves my husband more than me. And the Prophet (SAWS) who has ‘خلقٍ عظيم’ [khuluqin ‘atheem]- the most perfected exalted character says to ‘Ali and Fatima when they’re together, he points to ‘Ali and says, ‘فاطمة أحب إلي منك’ [Fatima ‘ahabbu illayya mink]- Fatima is more beloved to me. And then he looks to Fatima and says, ‘وعلي أعز إلي منك’ [‘Ali a’azzu illayya minki]- and ‘Ali Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anhu has more honor with me than you. Subhan Allah satisfying and pleasing both parties.

The Prophet (SAWS) while he was checking up on them, for example, one time he saw Fatima Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha and think about this: the only thing that they owned in their household was a sheepskin to sleep on. That was all they had in their possession and the Prophet (SAWS) he sees this situation and he comes home one day Fatima said to the Prophet (SAWS) that ‘Ali is upset that they had some kind of difference like any other married couple and ‘Ali Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anhu went to sleep in the masjid. The Prophet (SAWS) goes to the masjid and he sees ‘Ali Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anhu laying down he wakes ‘Ali up and starts to dust off ‘Ali Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anhu and says, ‘قم يا أبا تراب’ [qum ya abaa turaab] -stand up oh father of dust. And ‘Ali said that was the most beloved nickname to me after that. Rasool Allah (SAWS) was diffusing the situation. He always wanted them to be happy and together and was checking up on his daughter.

Again, this is the Queen of the Women of Jannah, right? So what would her status be like in dunya? ‘Ali Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anhu sees Fatima Radi Allahu ‘anha one day and her hands are covered in blisters because of how much she has to work because of all the hardship that she goes through in this life. This is the Queen of the women of jannah. And he says to Fatima Radi Allahu ‘anha, and this was after a Battle, he says, “Why don’t you go to the Prophet (SAWS) and ask him for a servant?” Ask the Prophet (SAWS) for a servant. And the Prophet (SAWS) did not want that for her. The Prophet (SAWS) comes to their home and sits ‘Ali and Fatima on the bed and Rasool Allah (SAWS) sits between them and he says, “Shall I give you something even better than that?” He says, “Say Subhan Allah 33 times, Aalhamdulellah 33 times, and Allahu Akbar 34 times before you sleep.” This is the Prophet (SAWS) caring for his daughter. This is what he considered providing for his daughter.

Now the Prophet (SAWS) of course took care of them but you have to understand that this did not make Fatima Radi Allahu ‘anha a bitter woman. She didn’t think to herself “I’m entitled I should be living a really good life”, because she saw the way that her father was suffering and she suffered with him and she was like him (SAWS). And Subhan Allah we find that when the Prophet (SAWS) was dying, Fatima Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha, she saw the Prophet (SAWS) in his battered state and his clothes and his illness and she started to cry. And Rasulullah (SAWS) calls her over compassionately, and the Prophet (SAWS) says come let me tell you something. And Rasulullah (SAWS) whispers something to her and she starts to cry further. And then Rasulullah (SAWS) says come back down let me tell you something else. And he whispers to her again and she starts to laugh and the people were amazed. ‘Aishah Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha demanded she said, “Tell me what it was that the Prophet (SAWS) told you!” At first, she refused, but eventually, she gave in and said ‘Aisha Radi Allahu ‘anha. She said, “My father told me the first time (SAWS) that he would not survive this illness. And then he called me back and told me you will be the first one to join me.” She laughed at death. The Prophet (SAWS) was telling her you’re going to be the first one to die from my companions and Subhan Allah 4-6 months afterward Fatima Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha became ill and she was ill from the time of the death of the Prophet (SAWS) out of her pain from her father dying. And this is a mother of young children. This is a mother who is married to a wonderful husband but Subhan Allah she just wants to be with her father (SAWS) in jannat-ul-firdaous.

She goes one day and she lies down and she smiles looking to the heavens and she calls for Asmaa bint Abi ‘Umays, the wife of Abu Bakr Al-Siddeeq may Allah (SWT) be pleased with them both. And Asmaa was going to be the one that was going to wash the body of Fatima . And look at how this royal woman speaks, she says to Asmaa “Whenever you do my ghusl (wash my body after I pass) and whenever you do my janaazah (funeral) do it at night so that the people will not see my figure.” Subhan Allah! This was a woman who was full of modesty and was known for her modesty. She is the daughter of the most modest and most bashful (SAWS). She said, “Whenever you bury me, bury me in the evening so that no one would see my figure.” Subhan Allah! And that is how she was buried at night. But Allah (SWT) joined her with her father (SAWS) and she took her rightful position as the Queen, the leader, of the women of Paradise.

Now I just want you to think about this for a moment. Who was a greater woman than Fatima Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha? Who is more deserving of a lavish wedding and of a high mahr and of living a life of joy and luxury than Fatima Radi Allahu ta’ala ‘anha? But that is not what true royalty is. Because a kingdom that will be taken away at any moment is not a real kingdom at all. But rather that which is eternal and everlasting ‘والآخرة خيرٌ وأبقى’ [wal aakhiratu khayrun wa abqa]- that which is everlasting is what truly matters. And she is a Queen in that regard and she is Royal in Jannah.

And we ask Allah (SWT) to grant us that high and royal company in the highest of levels jannat-ul-Firdaus. Allahumma ameen.

Please note this transcript has been edited for readability purposes. If any of this information is good and true, know that it comes from Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. If there are mistakes we ask for Allah’s Forgiveness and Mercy.

By: Brother Omar Suleiman.

When The Prophet’s Wives Met Men

It is well known that a divine order was given to the Prophet (peace be upon him), late in his life, requiring his wives to be behind a screen when speaking to men. Before that order, they behaved like other Muslim women, taking part in the public life of society and meeting men on public and private occasions. There are many examples of this on
either very common occasions, such as the mere exchange of greetings, or special ones like weddings and parties. However, we will cite other examples so that we give an idea of the extent of their participation in public life, and the variety of purposes of their meetings with men.

The first example concerns the pursuit of knowledge and involves Lady Khadeejah, the Prophet’s first wife. Lady Ayesha reports: “The first aspect of revelation given to the Prophet was that his dreams would always come true. Khadeejah took him to Waraqah ibn Nawfal, her cousin on her father’s side. Waraqah had converted to Christianity before the advent of Islam. He used to write in Arabic whatever he learned of the Gospel. He was an old, blind man. Khadeejah said to him: ‘Cousin! Listen to what he (meaning Prophet Muhammad) has to tell you.’ He said to him:
‘What is it that you have seen?’ The Prophet told him about his encounter with Gabriel, the angel. Waraqah said: ‘This is the archangel who used to come to Moses. I wish I were a young man. I wish I am alive when your people will drive you out of your town.’ The Prophet said: ‘Will they drive me out?’ Waraqah answered. ‘Yes. No one has ever preached what you will be delivering without being met with hostility. If I am alive on that day, I will give you great support.’ (Related by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.)

After Khadeejah’s death, the Prophet (peace be upon him) married several wives who reported many of his statements and teachings. But none reported more than Ayesha, who was endowed with a rich wealth of knowledge. Saeed ibn Al-Aas reports that both Ayesha and Uthman told him that “Abu Bakr sought admission to speak to the Prophet when he was lying on his bed, wearing Ayesha’s shawl. When Abu Bakr was admitted, the Prophet attended to his business, and then he left. Then Umar sought permission, and he was allowed while the Prophet remained in the same position. When he finished his business, he left. Uthman later sought permission, and the Prophet sat up and told Ayesha to put her clothes together, covering herself well. When Uthman left after finishing his business with the Prophet, Ayesha said: ‘Messenger of God! Why did you not sit up and prepare yourself to receive Abu Bakr and Umar as you did for Uthman?’ He said: ‘Uthman is a shy person. I feared that if I received him when I was in that position, he would not put his request to me.” (Related by Muslim.)

Usamah ibn Zayd reports that “Gabriel the angel came to the Prophet when he was at Umm Salamah’s home, and he spoke to him before standing up and leaving. The Prophet asked his wife, Umm Salamah, who that person was.
She said: ‘He is Dihyah.'” Umm Salamah said: “By God, I had no doubt that the man was Dihyah until I heard the Prophet speaking to the people, reporting what Gabriel said.” (Related by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.)

It should perhaps be explained that sometimes Gabriel came to the Prophet taking the shape of a human being. On those occasions, he mostly appeared like Dihyah ibn Khaleefah Al-Kalbi, who was a very handsome companion of the Prophet. This explains how the Prophet’s wife, Umm Salamah, thought Gabriel to be Dihyah, but when she heard the Prophet addressing his companions and saying to them what Gabriel said earlier, she realized her mistake.

Ayesha reports that when the Prophet’s wives needed to go to the restroom, they went at night to Al-Manasi’, a wide, open place with no vegetation. Umar used to say to the Prophet that he should keep his wives screened, but the Prophet did not do that. One night Sawdah, the wife of the Prophet, went out for that purpose. She was a tall woman. Umar called out to her: ‘We have recognized you, Sawdah!’ He did so out of his eagerness that the Prophet’s wives should be screened. Soon afterward, God’s order was revealed for them to be screened.’ (Related by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.)

Anas reports: “On the day of the Battle of Uhud, fighters retreated, leaving the Prophet. I saw Ayesha bint Abu Bakr and Umm Sulaym, having lifted their dresses. I could see their anklets as they moved fast, carrying water skins on their backs and pouring water in people’s mouths before going back to fill up the water skins and giving people to drink.” (Related by Al-Bukhari and Muslim.)

Together, these Hadiths give us a picture of the Prophet’s wives actively participating in the life of the Muslim community. When the Prophet was visited by some of his companions, they were often present, in case the Prophet needed anything. People put their cases, and asked for rulings, even on intimate matters such as intercourse between man and wife, when they might be present. The Prophet neither ordered them to go out, nor was he upset that the man should put such a question while his wife was present. On the contrary, he answered him in a very relaxed manner, letting the question appear as a very ordinary one.

We also note that the Prophet was frequently visited by his companions, who had different needs. He did not have a reception room where he conducted his community affairs.

He simply admitted people into his room, where any of his wives might be present. The fact that they were later ordered to remain behind a screen puts them in a special category among women, with certain rules applicable to them only.

There is no suggestion, at any time, that other women should follow their example concerning such rules. Therefore, their conduct as appears in these Hadiths is the one that Islam wants ordinary Muslim women to follow. They confirm that Islamic society is one where men and women mix socially, but observe a high standard of propriety and decency, maintaining Islamic morality.

By: Dr. Abd Al-Haleem Abu Shuqqah

Hazrat Wahshi (R.A) Ka Qabool Islam

Hazrat Wahshi (R.A) Ka Qabool Islam
Hazrat Wahshi (R.A) Ka Qabool Islam
Hazrat Wahshi (R.A) Ka Qabool Islam
Hazrat Wahshi (R.A) Ka Qabool Islam
Hazrat Wahshi (R.A) Ka Qabool Islam
Note: Tibrani Nay Zaeef Sanad Kay Sath Hazrat Ibn e Abas RA Say Yeh Rawayat Naqal Ki Hai.
طبرانی نے ضعیف سند کے ساتھ حضرت ابن عباس رضی اللہ عنہ سے یہ روائت نقل کی ہے۔

Asma Bint Abu Bakr ( R.A.) A Role Model For Women

From Bilal to Sumayya, the history of Islam is replete with sacrifices rendered by the companions of the Prophet (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him).

Asma bint Abu Bakr (R.A.) has a special position among the early Muslims. Her sacrifices for Islam are numerous.
Asma was the daughter of Abu Bakr and sister of Ummul Momineen Ayesha (may Allah be pleased with them). She was the mother of Caliph Abdullah bin Zubair. Her four generations were companions. She was the 18th person to enter into the fold of Islam. Asma (R.A.) supported Islam from an early age. She played a key role in the migration of the Prophet (peace be upon him).

Asma (R.A.) was entrusted to carry food for Abu Bakr(R.A.) and the Prophet (peace be upon him) who were hiding in Cave ‘Thawr’. The cave was about three miles away on a mountainous track. She carried food daily for three days, though she was pregnant for seven months.

The last day when Asma(R.A.) prepared their travel provisions and water skin, there was no rope to tie them. She tore her ‘Nitaq’ (waist belt) into two pieces and tied the bag with one.

The Prophet (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) saw it, he smiled and told her…“Indeed, Allah has given you, in exchange for this girdle, two belts in Paradise.” And thus she was named as “Zu Nataqain” (Lady of Two Belts). She kept this honorable title for her whole life.

After the two left Thawr cave, Abu Jahl came in searching for them and slapped Asma (R.A.) so hard that blood oozed from her ears. Bearing the pain with courage and tolerance, she did not disclose the secret. When the Prophet (peace be upon him) reached ‘Quba’ near Madinah, he invited a group that included his daughters and Asma(RA) accompanied them. When they reached near Quba, she gave birth to a boy named Abdullah bin Zubair.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was very happy. He took the baby in his lap and gave a bit of date chewed by him in the mouth of the baby. Abdullah was the first baby born to Muhajirin in Madinah.

Zubair ibn Al-Awwam, her husband, migrated to Madinah empty-handed, leaving everything in Makkah. Asma (R.A.) had a hard time in the beginning. The daughter of a rich man found herself tending animals, kneading, grinding, and fetching water. She used to carry on her head date-stones from their land at a distance of two miles from ‘Madinah’.
The real test of Asma’s (R.A.) tolerance and patience appeared after the martyrdom of Hussein ibn Ali (May Allah be pleased with him) at Karbala. She was then about 90 years of age.

After the tragedy of Karbala, people gathered around her son, Abdullah bin Zubair knowing him as a learned, powerful, and brave man. He succeeded in winning the support of Makkah and Madinah. Eventually, Abdullah consolidated his power in Iraq, Hijaz, southern Arabia, the greater part of Syria, and parts of Egypt.

Asma (R.A.) advised her son before the fight against the Damascus ruler Abdul Malik bin Marwan saying she will be grieving for him only if he is killed in a vain and unjust cause.
“Death with honor is better than a life of peace with dishonor.”
Abdullah went forward to fight against Marwan’s commander Hajaj bin Yusuf and kept fighting until he was martyred.
The cruel Hajaj beheaded him and hanged his body on a tree. He declared, “No one should take down his body except Asma (R.A.)”. She must come to me and ask my permission. Asma (R.A.) refused to go. Eventually, Hajaj came to her and asked, “What do you say about this matter?” She boldly replied, “Verily, you have destroyed him, and you have ruined his life, and with that, you have ruined your Hereafter.”

She added that she had heard the Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) saying “A man would appear from the tribe of Banu Thaqif who would be a liar and a cruel and ignoble barbarian. Today, she has seen him for herself..” Hajaj bin Yusuf left silently.

Later, Hajaj dropped the body into the graveyard. She arranged for its bathing, and funeral prayer and buried with her hands her son Abdullah bin Zubair in Makkah!

Asma (R.A.) died a few days after burying her son, in 73AH. She was 100 years old, but never lost her memory and had a full set of teeth. She took part in the Battle of Yarmuk in 636 AC and fought bravely, which drove the Roman Empire out of Syria. Furthermore, she is the narrator of 58 Hadith, and many leading men related Hadith to her.
In a corner of Jannatul Muala a small grave indicates this great lady. Asma bint Abu Bakr(RA) was a great role model for the Muslim women!

While proceeding to Jabal Thawr you will find a sign on the road named Zu Nataqain Street. And this is the path which was trodden by this great lady to carry the provisions to the Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) to Thawr Cave. Just wait for a moment in this place and pray for these noble souls. May Almighty Allah grant them the highest ranks in Paradise. (‘Aameen’)

 By: ABU TARIQ HIJAZI.