Hazrat Zainab Ka Ifk Kay Muamla Mein Safai Pesh Kerna Aur Muqadma
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Umm Habiba RA Ka Apnay Baap Ko Bistar Par Na Bithana
Umm Habiba RA Ka Apnay Baap Ko Bistar Par Na Bithana
Aishah Bint Abu Bakr (May Allah Be Pleased With Her) The Teacher Of The Whole World
The life of Aishah (RA) is proof that a woman can be far more learned than men and that she can be a teacher of scholars and experts. Her life is also proof that a woman can exert influence over men and women and provide them with inspiration and leadership. Her life is also proof that the same woman can be totally feminine and be a source of pleasure, joy, and comfort to her husband.
She did not graduate from any university there were no universities as such in her day. But still, her utterances are studied in faculties of literature, her legal pronouncements are studied in colleges of law, and her life and works are studied and researched by students and teachers of Muslim history as they have been for over a thousand years.
The bulk of her vast treasure of knowledge was obtained while she was still quite young. In her early childhood, she was brought up by her father who was greatly liked and respected for he was a man of wide knowledge, gentle manners, and an agreeable presence. Moreover, he was the closest friend of the noble Prophet (SAW- may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) who was a frequent visitor to their home since the very early days of his mission.
In her youth, already known for her striking beauty and her formidable memory, she came under the loving care and attention of the Prophet (SAW) himself. As his wife and close companion, she acquired from him knowledge and insight such as no woman has ever acquired.
Aishah (RA) became the Prophet’s (SAW) wife in Makkah when she was most likely in the tenth year of her life but her wedding did not take place until the second year after the Hijrah when she was about fifteen years old. Before and after her wedding she maintained a natural jollity and innocence and did not seem at all overawed by the thought of being wedded to him who was the Messenger of God (SAW) whom all his companions (RA- may Allah be pleased with them all), including her own mother and father, treated with such love and reverence as they gave to no one else.
About her wedding, she related that shortly before she was to leave her parent’s house, she slipped out into the courtyard to play with a passing friend: “I was playing on a see-saw and my long streaming hair was disheveled,” she said. “They came and took me from my play and made me ready.”
They dressed her in a wedding dress made from fine red-striped cloth from Bahrain and then her mother took her to the newly-built house where some women of the Ansar were waiting outside the door. They greeted her with the words “For good and for happiness may all be well!” Then, in the presence of the smiling Prophet (SAW), a bowl of milk was brought. The Prophet (SAW) drank from it himself and offered it to Aishah (RA). She shyly declined it but when he insisted she did so and then offered the bowl to her sister Asma (RA) who was sitting beside her. Others also drank of it and that was as much as there was of the simple and solemn occasion of their wedding. There was no wedding feast.
Marriage to the Prophet (SAW) did not change her playful ways. Her young friends came regularly to visit her in her own apartment. “I would be playing with my dolls,” she said, “with the girls who were my friends, and the Prophet (SAW) would come in and they would slip out of the house and he would go out after them and bring them back, for he was pleased for my sake to have them there.” Sometimes he would say “Stay where you are” before they had time to leave, and would also join in their games. Aishah (RA) said: “One day, the Prophet (SAW) came in when I was playing with the dolls and he said: ‘O Aishah (RA), what game is this?’ ‘It is Solomon’s horses,’ I said and he laughed.” Sometimes as he came in he would screen himself with his cloak so as not to disturb Aishah (RA) and her friends.
Aishah’s (RA) early life in Madinah also had its more serious and anxious times. Once her father and two companions (RA – may Allah be pleased with them) who were staying with him fell ill with a dangerous fever which was common in Madinah at certain seasons. One morning Aishah (RA) went to visit him and was dismayed to find the three men lying completely weak and exhausted. She asked her father how he was and he answered her in verse but she did not understand what he was saying. The two others also answered her with lines of poetry that seemed to her to be nothing but unintelligible babbling. She was deeply troubled and went home to the Prophet (SAW) saying:
“They are raving, out of their minds, through the pangs of the fever.” The Prophet (SAW) asked what they had said and was somewhat reassured when she repeated almost word for word the lines they had uttered which made sense although she did not fully understand them then. This was a demonstration of the great retentive power of her memory which as the years went by was to preserve so many of the priceless sayings of the Prophet (SAW).
Of the Prophet’s (SAW) wives (RA- may Allah be pleased with them all) in Madinah, it was clear that it was Aishah (RA) that he loved most. From time to time, one or the other of his companions would ask:
“O Messenger of God (SAW), whom do you love most in the world?” He did not always give the same answer to this question for he felt great love for many for his daughters and their children, for Abu Bakr (RA- may Allah be pleased with him) for Ali (RA), for Zayd (RA) and his son Usamah (RA). But of his wives (RA) the only one he named in this connection was Aishah (RA). She too loved him greatly in return and often would seek reassurance from him that he loved her. Once she asked him: “How is your love for me?”
“Like the rope’s knot,” he replied meaning that it was strong and secure. And time after time thereafter, she would ask him: “How is the knot?” and he would reply: “Ala haaliha in the same condition.”
As she loved the Prophet (SAW) so was her love a jealous love and she could not bear the thought that the Prophet’s (SAW) attention should be given to others more than seemed enough to her. She asked him:
“O Messenger of God (SAW), tell me of yourself. If you were between the two slopes of a valley, one of which had not been grazed whereas the other had been grazed, on which would you pasture your flocks?”
“On that which had not been grazed,” replied the Prophet (SAW). “Even so,” she said, “and I am not as any other of your wives (RA). “Everyone of them had a husband before you, except myself.” The Prophet (SAW) smiled and said nothing. Of her jealousy, Aishah (RA) would say in later years:
“I was not, jealous of any other wife of the Prophet (SAW) as I was jealous of Khadijah (RA), because of his constant mentioning of her and because God had commanded him to give her good tidings of a mansion in Paradise of precious stones. And whenever he sacrificed a sheep he would send a fair portion of it to those who had been her close friends. Many a time I said to him: “It is as if there had never been any other woman in the world except Khadijah (RA).”
Once, when Aishah (RA) complained and asked why he spoke so highly of “an old Quraysh woman” i.e. Khadijah (RA), the Prophet (SAW) was hurt and said: “She was the wife who believed in me when others rejected me. When people accused me of lies, she affirmed my truthfulness. When I stood forsaken, she spent her wealth to lighten the burden of my sorrow.”
Despite her feelings of jealousy which nonetheless were not of a destructive kind, Aishah (RA) was really a generous soul and a patient one. She bore with the rest of the Prophet’s (SAW) household poverty and hunger which often lasted for long periods. For days on end, no fire would be lit in the sparsely furnished house of the Prophet for cooking or baking bread and they would live merely on dates and water. Poverty did not cause her distress or humiliation; self-sufficiency when it did come did not corrupt her style of life.
Once the Prophet (SAW) stayed away from his wives for a month because they had distressed him by asking of him that which he did not have. This was after the Khaybar expedition when an increase of riches whetted the appetite for presents. Returning from his self-imposed retreat, he went first to Aishah’s (RA) apartment. She was delighted to see him but he said he had received Revelation which required him to put two options before her. He then recited the verses:
“O Prophet! Say to your wives: If you desire the life of this world and its adornments, then come and I will bestow its goods upon you, and I will release you with a fair release (divorce). But if you desire God and His Messenger and the abode of the Hereafter, then verily God has laid in store for you an immense reward for such as you who do good.”
Aishah’s (ra) reply was: “Indeed I desire God and His Messenger (SAW) and the abode of the Hereafter,” and her response was followed by all the others.
She stuck to her choice both during the lifetime of the Prophet (SAW) and afterward. Later when the Muslims were favored with enormous riches, she was given a gift of one hundred thousand dirhams. She was fasting when she received the money and she distributed the entire amount to the poor and the needy even though she had no provisions in her house. Shortly after, a maidservant said to her: “Could you buy meat for a dirham with which to break your fast?”
“If I had remembered, I would have done so,” she said. The Prophet’s (SAW) affection for Aishah (RA) remained to the last. During his final illness, it was to Aishah’s (RA) apartment that he went at the suggestion of his wives (RA). For much of the time he lay there on a couch with his head resting on her breast or on her lap. She it was who took a toothstick from her brother, chewed upon it to soften it, and gave it to the Prophet (SAW). Despite his weakness, he rubbed his teeth with it vigorously. Not long afterward, he lost consciousness and Aishah (RA) thought it was the onset of death, but after an hour he opened his eyes.
Aishah (RA) it is who has preserved for us these dying moments of the most honored of God’s creation, His beloved Messenger (SAW) may He shower His choicest blessings on him.
When he opened his eyes again, Aishah (RA) remembered Iris having said to her: “No Prophet is taken by death until he has been shown his place in Paradise and then offered the choice, to live or die.”
“He will not now choose us,” she said to herself. Then she heard him murmur: “With the supreme communion in Paradise, with those upon whom God has showered His favor, the Prophets, the martyrs, and the righteous…” Again she heard him murmur: “O Lord, with the supreme communion,” and these were the last words she heard him speak. Gradually his head grew heavier upon her breast, until others in the room began to cry, and Aishah (RA) laid his head on a pillow and joined them in crying.
On the floor of Aishah’s (RA) room near the couch where he was lying, a grave was dug which was buried the Seal of the Prophets (SAW) amid much bewilderment and great sorrow.
Aishah (RA) lived on for almost fifty years after the passing away of the Prophet (SAW). She had been his wife for a decade. Much of this time was spent in learning and acquiring knowledge of the two most important sources of God’s guidance, the Quran and the Sunnah of His Prophet (SAW). Aishah (RA) was one of three wives (the other two being Hafsah (RA) and Umm Salamah (RA) who memorized the Revelation (the Quran). Like Hafsah (RA), she had her own script of the Quran written after the Prophet (SAW) had died.
So far as the Ahadith or sayings of the Prophet (SAW) are concerned, Aishah (RA) is one of four persons (the others being Abu Hurayrah (RA), Abdullah ibn Umar (RA), and Anas ibn Malik (RA) who transmitted more than two thousand sayings. Many of these pertain to some of the most intimate aspects of personal behavior which only someone in Aishah’s (RA) position could have learned. What is most important is that her knowledge of hadith was passed on in written form by at least three persons including her nephew Urwah (RA) who became one of the greatest scholars among the generation after the Companions (RA- may Allah be pleased with them all).
Many of the learned companions of the Prophet (SAW) and their followers benefitted from Aishah’s (RA) knowledge. Abu Musa al-Ashari once said: “If we companions (RA – may Allah be pleased with them all) of the Messenger of God (SAW) had any difficulty on a matter, we asked Aishah (ra) about it.”
Her nephew Urwah (RA) asserts that she was proficient not only in fiqh (Islamic law) but also in medicine (tibb) and poetry. Many of the senior companions (RA) of the Prophet (SAW) came to her to ask for advice concerning questions of inheritance which required a highly skilled mathematical mind. Scholars regard her as one of the earliest fuqaha (Islamic jurists) of Islam along with persons like Umar ibn al-Khattab (RA), Ali (RA), and Abdullah ibn Abbas (RA). The Prophet (SAW) referring to her extensive knowledge of Islam is reported to have said: “Learn a portion of your religion (din) from this red-colored lady.” “Humayra” meaning “Red-coloured” was an epithet given to Aishah (RA) by the Prophet (SAW).
Aishah (RA) not only possessed great knowledge but took an active part in education and social reform. As a teacher she had a clear and persuasive manner of speech and her power of oratory has been described in superlative terms by al-Ahnaf who said: “I have heard speeches of Abu Bakr and Umar, Uthman, and Ali (RA- may Allah be pleased with them all) and the Khulafa up to this day, but I have not heard speech more persuasive and more beautiful from the mouth of any person than from the mouth of Aishah (RA).”
Men and women came from far and wide to benefit from her knowledge. The number of women is said to have been greater than that of men. Besides answering inquiries, she took boys and girls, some of them orphans, into her custody and trained them under her care and guidance. This was in addition to her relatives who received instruction from her. Her house thus became a school and an academy.
Some of her students were outstanding. We have already mentioned her nephew Urwah (RA) as a distinguished reporter of hadith. Among her women, pupils is the name Umrah bint Abdur Rahman (RA). She is regarded by scholars as one of the trustworthy narrators of hadith and is said to have acted as Aishah’s secretary receiving and replying to letters addressed to her. The example of Aishah in promoting education and in particular the education of Muslim women in the laws and teachings of Islam is one which needs to be followed.
After Khadijah al-Kubra (the Great) and Fatimah az-Zahra (the Resplendent), Aishah as-Siddiqah (the one who affirms the Truth) is regarded as the best woman in Islam. Because of the strength of her personality, she was a leader in every field in knowledge, in society, in politics, and in war. She died in the year 58 AH in the month of Ramadan and as she instructed, was buried in the Jannat al-Baqi in the City of Light, beside other companions of the Prophet.
Marriage After A Hard Battle
When the Prophet (peace be upon him) settled in Madinah, he put relations among the different communities living in the city on a proper basis. There were the Muslims who were composed of two main groups: The Muhajirin who had migrated from Makkah, and the Ansar, or the Arabs who lived there but responded to the Prophet’s call and adopted Islam. Their numbers were always on the increase as more and more of their tribesmen and women adopted Islam every day. There were also the Arabs who retained their idolatrous beliefs and did not accept Islam. Their numbers might have been considerable to start with, but dwindled into insignificance as time passed. There was also the Jewish community which consisted of several tribes. The Prophet ordered a charter to be written down, organizing relations between all these groups. This became the first written constitution in the history of mankind. It established a pluralist society where different communities could live in peace and with mutual respect.
However, relations with the Jews did not run very smoothly, with one tribe after another violating this constitution or coming into open alliance with the enemies of the Muslim state. The result was the evacuation from Madinah of the three major Jewish tribes, one after another. By the end of the fifth year of the Prophet’s settlement there, Madinah became a largely Muslim city, with a small number of hypocrites pretending to be Muslim when they were truly unbelievers and a handful of others who remained idolaters. Now the Jews concentrated in the city of Khaybar, to the north of Madinah, from where they engaged in trying to forge a new alliance of forces. The Prophet moved quickly to forestall these efforts. He laid siege to Khaybar and its forts fell to him, one after another. He then made a peace agreement with the Jews, allowing them to stay and farm the land in return for half its produce.
When the battle was over, Safiyyah was brought to the Prophet. She, like many others of her people, was taken captive and faced a life of slavery. She was a young woman. Some reports suggest that she was only 17, but, most probably, this is inaccurate. She had been married twice before, with the second marriage taking place only a few months earlier. Her second husband, Kinanah ibn Al-Rabie, was killed during the battle. He was one of the main Jewish chiefs, exceedingly hostile to Islam and the Prophet. He had worked hard to stem the tide of Islam.
Thus, both Safiyyah’s father and husband were killed by the Muslims. Now she was being brought to face the Prophet because in her position the Muslims felt that he should be the one to decide her fate. As it happened, it was Bilal who led her, and another Jewish woman, through a yard where there were many bodies of people who were killed in the battle. The other woman wailed loudly, but Safiyyah adopted a dignified attitude. When the Prophet realized what had happened, he remonstrated with Bilal, saying: “Has mercy departed from your heart? How can you lead two women across a place where they would pass by the bodies of their killed people?”
What fate awaited Safiyyah? The Prophet looked at her and then offered her two alternatives: Either he would send her back to her people, or she would be set free and marry her. She chose the latter. He, therefore, assigned her to Umm Sulaym, to look after her and prepare her for the impending marriage. She needed to complete her waiting period first.
– By Adil Salahi
What Sort Of Married Life
When we try to discern the sort of life the Prophet (peace be upon him) had before the start of his message, we have few reports to hand. Interest in his personal life did not develop until later. Before prophethood, he was an ordinary man living in his community. While he did not take part in idol worship and did not attend festivals organized in the name of any idol, he did not stand out as different from other people. He was well known for his honesty and integrity. In fact, people in his community nicknamed him Al-Ameen, which meant the Trustworthy. People trusted him in every way, realizing that he was a man of his word, and he never tried to cheat in any situation. This earned him immense respect in his community. People continued to deposit their valuables with him for safekeeping, even when they were determinedly opposed to his message.
From the few reports that we have of his life after his marriage, up until he received the Angel Gabriel who told him of his assignment as God’s last messenger to mankind, we realize that he led a very happy life, with a caring and loving wife, Khadijah. She recognized his exceptional qualities and provided him with a comfortable home. Many years later, when he had established the first Muslim community and first Muslim state in Madinah, he mentioned that he had a business partner in Makkah called Al-Saib and he praised his partner for his integrity. This suggests that the Prophet continued to run his wife’s business, as he had no money of his own while she was a wealthy lady who employed people to travel on her business. This was how she met Muhammad and recognized his personal qualities. He must have been successful in this, ensuring a comfortable standard of living. When Makkah went through a rough period and people found it difficult to cope, Muhammad (peace be upon him) said to his uncle Al-Abbas: “Your brother, Abu Talib, has a large family and things are hard for everyone. Let us both help him: you take one of his children and I take one to reduce his burden.” This is how Ali came to live with the Prophet in his home, giving him a good upbringing.
Khadijah was a model wife: loving, caring, supporting, and providing everything a man needs. We have good reports about her support when the Prophet was met with open hostility and determined opposition as he called on people to believe in God and abandon idolatry. Yet this was not new in their relationship. A few years before he began to receive his message, the Prophet used to spend time alone in a cave, in contemplation. She made sure that he lacked nothing. When once his absence was a little longer than usual, she sent a few of her servants looking for him.
Her exceptional care stands out when he received the Angel for the first time. This was not an easy encounter. How could it be when there is nothing in human experience to prepare him for it? He was in fear as he looked at the Angel standing above him, with his head high in the sky, and he told him: “You are the Prophet of this community.” It was Khadijah who reassured him, feeling that a man of his upright nature could not be deceived on such a momentous matter. She enlisted the learned support of her cousin, Waraqah ibn Nawfal, who had studied the Bible and gained exceptional experience in religious matters. The two comforted him and helped him recognize the way that he was to lead as God’s messenger. Khadijah’s support was the best he could have received in his hour of great need.
– By Adil Salahi
- June, 10
- 1930
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Aisha Radhi Allahu Anha
The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: “The superiority of Aisha over other women is like the superiority of Tharid (a special gravy dish) to other meals.” (Bukhari)
During the final illness of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam he used to repeatedly ask, “Where will I be tomorrow?”, in the hope that he could spend his last days in the home of Aisha Radhi Allahu Anha. (Bukhari)
Once the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said to Aisha Radhi Allahu Anha: “O Aisha, Jibraeel sends salaams to you.” Aisha replied: “Upon him be salaams also together with the mercy and blessings of Allah.” (Bukhari)
The sublime character of Aisha Radhi Allahu Anha, her devotion to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, her virtue, intelligence, and eloquence were unparalleled in history. She was a perfect symbol of Islamic womanhood. She was only eighteen years of age when the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam passed away. However, she related 2210 ahaadith.
There has been no woman like her in the whole history of Islam who understood the teachings of Islam so well and convincingly explained juristic issues to others. It is said that about a quarter of all the laws of Shariah are narrated
from her. (Fathul Baari)
Even the most eminent and learned Sahabah of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam consulted her on intricate legal issues.
Imam Zahabi, one of the most eminent scholars of the science of hadith, writes about Aisha Radhi Allahu Anha in his Tazkiratul Huffaaz: “Among the Sahabah of the Prophet who were knowledgeable in jurisprudence she was the most prominent for even the leading jurists referred intricate questions of law to her for advice. Abu Musa says that if any companion of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam amongst us had any difficulty in finding out the real understanding of any Hadith, he used to ask Aisha Radhi Allahu Anha because she invariably knew about it.”
The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam left this world while he was in the home of Hazrat Aisha Radhi Allahu Anha. Aisha mentions that the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam breathed his last while he lay between her chest and neck.
(Muslim)
She was fortunate to have the saliva of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam mixed with her own a few moments before he left this world. Allah Ta’ala so willed that she had the honor of softening the miswaak which the Prophet
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam used just prior to him breathing his last.
Prophet Muhammad: A Choice For The Prophet’s Wives
At one point the Prophet’s wives made a joint request asking him to provide them with a better standard of living. It was not an unreasonable request, since it came after the Muslim state had enjoyed victories over its enemies and its fortunes were getting much better. It was the sort of request any woman who had lived through years of poverty with her husband would make when they enjoyed better times. Yet the Prophet (peace be upon him) did not care for any material comfort. He wanted his household to remain an example for all Muslims, in all generations. Therefore, he did not look favorably at this request.
His closest companions, Abu Bakr and Umar, were allowed into his home after they had heard of the problem. They were the fathers of two of the Prophet’s wives.
They found the Prophet silent, looking distressed. Abu Bakr sought to relax the somber atmosphere. He said: “Messenger of God! If you could only see my wife when she asked me for more money to spend. I pierced my finger into her neck.”
The Prophet smiled and said: “You see them all around me asking for more money.” Abu Bakr went up to his daughter, Ayesha, and Umar went up to his daughter, Hafsah, piercing them in the neck. They said to them: “How come you ask the Prophet to give you what he does not have?” Both of them said: “We will never again ask the Prophet for what he does not have.”
The Prophet was upset by the whole episode. He wanted his household to be totally free of the material concerns of worldly life. He wanted his own family to aspire only for what is with God. He, therefore, decided to stay away from all his wives for a whole month. He then received revelations requiring him to give his wife a choice.
When the month was over, he mentioned the choice to everyone of his wives, starting with Ayesha. The choice is outlined in the following Qur’anic verses: “Prophet! Say to your wives: ‘If you desire the life of this world and its charms, I shall provide for you and release you in a becoming manner; but if you desire God and His Messenger and the life of the hereafter, know that God has readied great rewards for those of you who do good.’” (33: 28-29)
Before he read them the two Qur’anic verses, the Prophet told each one that she needed not make her choice straightaway. She should consult her parents or her guardian. Every single one of them said to him: “I need not consult anyone concerning my status with you. I certainly choose God and His messenger, hoping for success in the life to come.” They assured him that they desired nothing in preference to life with him.
It should be mentioned that as Ayesha made her choice, being the first asked, she requested the Prophet not to make her choice known to any of his other wives, should they ask him about her choice. She felt that if any of them was unsure, she should not be helped by learning of Ayesha’s choice.
The Prophet, however, declined her request, telling her that his mission was to teach people every good thing for them. Therefore, if any would ask him about her choice, he was certain to inform them of it. They could then follow her example, if they so wished. However, in the event, none needed that sort of help.
They all recognized that their status as wives of the Prophet and mothers of all believers was so precious that they would not change it for anything in this world.