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The Mindset Of A Believer

Hazrat Thaanwi (Rahmatullahi Alayh) mentioned: The spirit one needs to constantly have is how can one be of service to the creation and how can one’s actions be a means of preserving Deen. We should not do things to earn popularity among people. As far as popularity is concerned, we should hope and desire that people do not even come to know of our good works carried out during our lifetime, and nor should the people speak of our good deeds after our demise. (Malfoozaat-e-Hakeemul Ummat 10/19)

This Worldly Life is like a Dream
Hazrat Shaikh, Moulana Muhammad Zakariyya Saheb (Rahmatullahi Alaihi) while explaining the reality of this worldly life mentioned:

“This worldly life can be likened to a person who finds himself in an air-conditioned room being massaged by many servants while others are at his beck and call anxiously waiting to serve him. Suddenly his eyes open and he realizes that what he was visualizing was nothing but a dream and in reality, he is in a prison cell stuck behind bars. On the other hand, another person sees himself in a dream while being severely beaten and lashed, undergoing difficulty upon difficulty. When his eyes open, he sees himself safe and sound and realizes that all the pain and suffering was nothing but a dream. He feels relieved and is grateful to Allah Ta’ala that what he was going through was just a dream and not a reality. Hazrat Shaikh then mentioned to those present in the gathering:  Respected friends! This world is identical to a dream. When a person opens his eyes (i.e. the eyes of the Hereafter), then only will he realize in which condition he truly is.  In the Hereafter when those that lived a comfortable life in the world will see the immense rewards in store for all those servants of Allah Ta’ala who bore afflictions and underwent difficulties in this world, they will desire that if only their bodies were cut with scissors in the world and they were made to undergo a great amount of hardship and difficulty so that they may also be worthy of the great rewards of the Aakhirat. (Malfoozaate Hazrat Shaikh 1/67)

Achieving A Strong Marriage Bond

Marriage is considered an ‘ibaadah, an act that is pleasing to Allah Ta’aala. It is in accordance with His commandments that husbands and wives love each other and help one another to rear their children as true servants of  Allah Ta’aala.

Most spouses start out with hopes and rosy dreams; truly committed to making their marriage work. However, as the reality of living with a less than perfect spouse lurks in, and as the pressures of life builds, many individuals do not find as much satisfaction in their relationships. All marriages change over time. However, with hard work and dedication, people can keep their marriages strong and enjoyable. How is it done? What does it take to create a long-lasting, satisfying marriage?

Researches indicate that the most successful marriages share some key characteristics. These are some of the characteristics that researchers have found to be common in successful marriages. Let’s look at each of these factors.

Characteristics Of Happy And Satisfying Marriages

Positivity
Successful spouses have far more positive than negative interactions. If there is too much negativity — criticizing, demanding, name-calling, holding grudges, etc. — the relationship will suffer. However, if there is never any negativity, it probably means that frustrations and grievances are not getting air time and unresolved tension is accumulating inside one or both partners.

The key is a balance between the two extremes. There are many ways to foster positivity in a marriage. Being affectionate, truly listening to each other, taking joy in each other’s achievements, and being playful are just a few examples of positive interactions that help make marriages successful.

Empathy
Another characteristic of happy marriages is empathy. Empathy means understanding a person’s perspective by putting oneself in his or her shoes. Many researchers have shown that empathy is essential for relationship satisfaction.

People are more likely to feel good about their marriage and spouse if their partner expresses empathy towards them. Husbands and wives are more content in their relationships when they perceive that their spouses truly understand their thoughts and feelings.

Principles Of Justice In Islam – Allah’s Command

Allah’s Quran 42:40]
[Principle #1:] An evil act should be retaliated by an equal act [eye for an eye]; however,
[principle #2:] God rewards those who pardon and lead a righteous life.
[Principle #3:] God does not love the wrongdoers [who retaliate excessively].

Prophet (peace be upon him) has said:
[Malik’s Muwatta, Book #43, Hadith #43.21.15a] “Retaliation is between women as it is between men. That is because Allah, the Blessed, the Exalted, said in His Book, ‘We have written for them in it that it is a life for a life and an eye for an eye, a nose for a nose, and an ear for an ear, and a tooth for a tooth, and for wounds there is retaliation.‘ (Sura 5 ayat 48) Allah, the Blessed, the Exalted, mentioned that it is a life for a life. It is the life of a free woman for the life of a free man, and her injury for his injury.” Malik said about a man who held a man fast for another man to hit, and he died on the spot, “If he held him and he thought that he meant to kill him, the two of them are both killed for him. If he held him and he thought that he meant to beat him as people sometimes do, and he did not think that he meant to kill him, the murderer is slain and the one who held him is punished with very severe punishment and jailed for a year. There is no killing against him.”

When Death Came Knocking

It was early in the morning at four,
When death knocked upon a bedroom door.

Who is there? The sleeping one cried.
I am Malkul Maut (Angel Of Death), let me inside.

At once, the man began to shiver,
As one sweating in deadly fever,

He shouted to his sleeping wife,
Do not let him take away my life.

Please go away, O Angel of Death!
Leave me alone, I am not ready yet.

My parents and family on me depends,
Give me a chance, O please prepense!

The angel knocked again and again,
Friend! I will take your life without pain,

This your soul Allah requires,
I come not with my own desires.

Bewildered, the man began to cry,
O Angel I am so afraid to die,

I will give you gold and be your slave,
Do not send me to the unlit grave.

Let me in, O Friend! The Angel said,
Open the door; get up from your bed,

If you do not allow me in,
I will walk through it, like a Jinn.

The man held a gun in his hand,
Ready to defy the Angels’ stand.

The Beloved Prophet’s Cleanliness

The Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam was blessed by Allah with the extra special quality of being free from all forms of uncleanliness and bodily defects. These qualities were special for him and no one else has ever been privileged with such qualities. Moreover, the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam said, “The religion is based on cleanliness.” [Sunan Tirmidhi, Vol 4, Page 18]

When the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam was born he was already circumcised and his umbilical cord cut. [Dalail an-Nabuwwah li Abi Nu’aym, Vol 1, Page 153 – Tibrani, Vol 8, Page 238]

His mother Syeda Aamina Radi ALLAHu Ta’ala Anha reported, “He was clean when he was born and there was no trace of impurity upon him.” [Tabqat Ibn Sa’ad, Vol 1, Page 12]

The Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam was adorned with the sweetest of fragrances, as was his perspiration. Anas commented, “I have never smelled amber, musk, or any other (perfume) more fragrant than the aroma of the Messenger of Allah.” [Sahih Muslim, Vol 4, Page 1814]

If the sweat of my rose is given to the bride;
She will instantly put her roses and her perfumes aside!!

One day the Messenger of Allah SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam touched the cheek of Jabir, Samura’s son and Jabir said, “I felt a cool sensation and his hand was fragrant, it was as if he had withdrawn it from a sachet of perfume.” [Sahih Muslim, Vol 4, Page 1814]

Jabir also said, “When the Prophet walked down a road, anyone who happened to pass along the same road knew he had been there on account of his fragrance.” [Sahih Muslim, Vol 4, Page 1815]

When the prophet walked along any street;
The entire earth became fragrant and sweet!!

On another occasion, Jabir rode behind the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam and put his mouth upon the seal of his prophecy between his shoulders and its fragrance spread over him like musk. [Tareekh Ibn Asakir, Vol 5, Page 361]

Firm Belief And Perfect Reliance On Allah

Allah, the Exalted, says:
“And when the believers saw Al-Ahzab (the Confederates), they said: ‘This is what Allah and His Messenger (Muhammad (PBUH)) had promised us, and Allah and His Messenger (Muhammad (PBUH)) had spoken the truth, and it only added to their Faith and to their submissiveness (to Allah)“. (33:22)

“Those (i.e., believers) unto whom the people (hypocrites) said, `Verily, the people (pagans) have gathered against you (a great army), therefore, fear them.’ But it (only) increased them in Faith, and they said: `Allah (Alone) is Sufficient for us, and He is the Best Disposer of affairs (for us)’. So they returned with grace and bounty from Allah. No harm touched them, and they followed the good Pleasure of Allah. And Allah is the Owner of great bounty“. (3:173,174)

“And put your trust (O Muhammad (PBUH)) in the Ever Living One Who dies not.” (25:58)

“And in Allah (Alone) let the believers, put their trust.” (14:11)

“… Then when you have taken a decision, put your trust in Allah…” (3:159)

“And whosoever puts his trust in Allah, then He will suffice him“. (65:3)

“The believers are only those who, when Allah is mentioned, feel a fear in their hearts; and when His Verses (this Qur’an) are recited unto them, they (i.e., the Verses) increase their Faith; and they put their trust in their Rubb (Alone).” (8:2)

Ibn `Abbas (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “I was shown the past nations. I saw a Prophet who had a very small group (less than ten in total) with him, another Prophet who was accompanied by only one or two men and some did not have even one. Suddenly I was shown a huge crowd and I thought that they were my Ummah, but I was told: ‘This is Musa (Moses) and his people, but look towards the other side.’ I looked and beheld a great assemblage. I was told: ‘These are your people and amongst them, there are seventy thousand who shall enter Jannah without being taken to account or torment”. Then the Prophet (PBUH) stood up and went into his apartment, and the Companions began to guess who may be those people who would enter Jannah without any accounting or torment. Some said: “Probably, they are the ones who kept company with the Messenger of Allah (PBUH)”. Others said: “Probably, they are the ones who have been born as Muslims and have never associated anyone with Allah in worship”. Then Messenger of Allah (PBUH) came out and asked, “What are you discussing?” So they told him. He then said, “They are those who do not make Ruqyah (blowing over themselves after reciting the Qur’an or some prayers and supplications the Prophet (PBUH) used to say) nor seek it, nor perceive omens (i.e., they are not pessimistic) but keep trust in their Rubb (Allah).” On this ‘Ukashah bin Mihsan stood up and asked: “Pray to Allah to make me one of them.” The Prophet (PBUH) said, “You are one of them.” Then another man stood up and asked the same thing. The Prophet (PBUH) answered, “‘Ukashah has surpassed you“. [Al-Bukhari and Mulsim]

Blessing In Disguise

The only survivor of a shipwreck was washed up on a small, uninhabited island… He prayed to Allah to rescue him, and every day he scanned the horizon for help, but none seemed forthcoming. Exhausted, he eventually managed to build a little hut out of driftwood to protect himself and store his few possessions.

But then one day, after scavenging for food, he arrived home to find his little hut in flames, the smoke leaping up to the sky. The worst had happened; everything was lost. He was stunned with grief and anger.

“Allah, how could You do this to me!” he cried. (Comment; Plenty of people use such a statement – think again you should never question Allah nor object to His decree).

Early the next day, however, he was awakened by the sound of a ship that was approaching the island. It had come to rescue him.

“How did you know I was here?” asked the weary man of his rescuers. “We saw your smoke signal,” they replied.

It is easy to get discouraged when things are going badly. But we shouldn’t lose heart, because Allah is at work in our lives, even in the midst of pain and suffering. Remember, next time your little hut is burning to the ground – it just may be a smoke signal that summons the Grace of Allah. You never know when Allah is sending His mercy.