A high-ranking member of the Riyadh community informed me that in 1376 Hijri, a group of fishermen from the town of Jubayl set out to sea, and after spending three days and three nights fishing, they were unable to catch even a single fish. Meanwhile, a group of nearby fishermen caught a large number of fish. They were surprised, not merely from the disparity between their failure and the other group’s success, but because they were performing the five daily prayers and failed while the other group was not praying and succeeded. One of them said, “How perfect is Allah! We prayed to Allah every single prayer, and we didn’t get anything; the other group did not prostrate to Allah even once over the last few days, and look at all they managed to get!” In this way, the Shaytaan (Devil) whispered evil suggestions to them and advised them to abandon the prayer. The next morning, they did not wake up for Fajr (the morning prayer). They also neglected to perform the Dhuhr (noon) and Asr (afternoon) prayers. Before nightfall, they set out for the ocean; they caught a fish, and upon slitting it open, they found a pearl in its stomach — a costly pearl. One of them took the pearl in his hand, stared at it, and said, after reflecting, “How perfect is Allah! When we obeyed Him, we got nothing, and when we disobeyed Him, this is what we got! Indeed, this sustenance before us is of a doubtful nature.” Then he took hold of the pearl and hurled it into the ocean, saying immediately afterward, “Allah will recompense us with better than this. By Allah, I will not take it, for we acquired it after abandoning the prayer. Come with me, and let us leave this place wherein we disobeyed Allah.” They traveled three miles before camping for the night. Shortly afterward, they went fishing again, and they caught a fair-sized fish. When they slit it open, they found the same valuable pearl inside its stomach. They said, “All praise is due to Allah, who has provided us with good sustenance.” They caught the fish after praying, remembering Allah, and asking for His forgiveness, so this time they kept it.
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7 Things Your Muslim Wife Wont Tell You
In the name of Allah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate
“May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon You”
Praise be to Allah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
Some Verdicts About Supplications
Usamah bin Zaid (May Allah be pleased with them) reported: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “He who is favored by another and says to his benefactor: Jazak-Allah khairan (may Allah reward you well) indeed praised (the benefactor) satisfactorily.”[At-Tirmidhi].
Commentary: If one is unable to return someone’s kindness with kindness, he should say, “Jazak-Allahu khairan (may Allah reward you well).” This means: “I am unable to reciprocate your kindness. May Allah grant you the best reward for it.” Obviously, there is no match for the reward that one gets from Allah. For this reason, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said that it was the best of praise for a benefactor. 252/1496 – Riyad Us-Saliheen (Gardens of the Righteous)
1. Above All, She Wants Your Love
When a wife shows her husband less respect, he, in turn, shows her less love. And when a husband shows his wife less love, she, in turn, shows him less respect. And the vicious cycle repeats itself. Stop this prophecy before it becomes self-fulfilling. Show love to your wife. That’s what she wants. Love her despite her flaws and quirks. And Inshallah, she’ll respect you despite your flaws and quirks.
2. She is Bored
Its the same thing every day. Week in and week out. Not only is she bored, but she is also tired. She has to care for the kids, run the household, and then pamper you.
Just thinking about doing that every day makes me want to crawl under my covers and hide. I can imagine how the average Muslim housewife must feel. And let’s not forget about working women. Many Muslim women have to work a full-time job as well as hold a house down.
So brothers, I implore you, make your wife feel special. Give her a break. Take her out sometimes. Surprise her with a surprise meal. Bring her favorite dessert home. Just do something every now and then to break the monotony.
3. She Wants to Be Complimented
Appreciation. Everybody wants it. No one wants to feel as if the hard work they do goes unnoticed or, even worse, is taken for granted.
Your wife does not have to clean your dirty clothes. And she does not have to cook your meals. But she does. And she does that on top of all the other things in her life:
1. Working or going to school.
2. Caring for the kids.
3. Striving to be a better Muslimah.
Show your wife that you appreciate and are thankful for the things she does to maintain you and your family. A simple “thank you” is a good start.
4. She is Insanely Jealous
There is a reason most women don’t care for polygamy. Be very careful how you talk about other women around your wife.
Don’t ever compare your wife to another woman.
Don’t compare her to some female movie star.
Don’t compare her to your mother.
Never, ever compare her to your ex-wife (or other wife!)
She wants to know and believe that she is the center of your universe. So make her feel that way.
5. She Wants You to Help Her Become A Better Muslimah
Your wife desires and wants you to be her leader. And what better way to lead her than to show her how to be a better Muslimah? But you can’t show her how to become better if you’re not that great, either. Therefore, you have to upgrade your Iman. You have to improve yourself and then pass it on to her in a gentle, respectful way.
6. She Does not Like to Nag, But Sometimes You Make It Hard
It’s a common myth that women like to nag their husbands. That’s not entirely true. Yes, there are some people (men and women) whom you can never please. No matter what you do, they will always find fault in something.
Let us be reminded of the following hadith: Narrated Ibn Abbas: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful.” It was asked, “Do they disbelieve in Allah?” (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and are
ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, ‘I have never received any good from you.” Sahih Bukhari
So, yes, sisters should be careful about denigrating the things your husband does for you. But very often, you, Brother, make it hard for her to hold your tongue. Perhaps you are always finding fault with her, and she looks for things in your character to get even. Perhaps you are not working (or not working hard enough), and she has to work to take up some slack. Perhaps you are just not that great a guy. Once again, upgrade yourself and give her fewer reasons to complain and nag.
7. More Than Anything, She Wants a Stable, Happy Relationship With You
“Women don’t get married just because they think it’s going to be fun. They get married because they want a happy family life, and they believe you are going to give it to them. Outside of her religious duties, that’s the most important thing in a Muslim woman’s life. Raising a happy, stable, Muslim family.
The funny thing is, it’s very easy for you to give that to her. Stop acting like a jerk. Be a good husband to her. Be kind. Show her you love her. Don’t threaten her with divorce or taking a second wife. But using them as threats is inappropriate and detrimental to your marriage.
Trust in Allah, watch out for the tricks of Shaitan, and be patient with her. There’s nothing Shaitan would love more than to destroy your marriage.
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Action Items For The Muttaqun
Action Items for the Muttaqun (people who fear Allah):
If a Muslim is incorrect in his words or actions, do not embarrass or degrade him in correction; instead, kindly guide him to the Truth.
It is not “kind” to dilute the truth, so the kindness comes in the manners and the love for your brother or sister by showing him/her the truth when he is first seeking.
Your brother’s reaction to the truth is of no concern and should not stop you from speaking the truth in an appropriate manner. Too often, we see people more afraid of hurting another person’s feelings or angering them than telling them the truth. It is not kindness to withhold the truth from someone, but it is not kindness to dispute over a non-fundamental issue either once the facts have been presented. And if you don’t have facts to back up what you’re saying, DON’T SAY IT, or you will likely be the cause of fitnah!
Study the proper way to give dawah and IMPLEMENT this method when a difference of opinion occurs between people of the Sunnah.
Look at each difference as a learning opportunity and be sure to have your proof and facts together before challenging a Muslim, especially one whom you have no reason to believe to be non-trustworthy (such as if he is an established person of bid’a, or an established liar and has not told enough lies to re-establish himself as a truth-teller).
To avoid quarrels, sincerely ask questions to seek the Truth, just as the Muslim revert does before accepting Islam.
Take note of the humble method in which Sheikhs present their disagreements. The pious Muslim may dispute the facts and have no desire to tear apart the person with whom they disagree, but rather, rush to hide any sins of their fellow Muslim and stick to discussing the relevant evidence in Quran and Sunnah.
Stop thinking you have to force your views on others as though this is love. It is love to tell them, but what they choose to do with Truth is up to them. But surely Allah, SWT, has already decided who will choose guidance and who will choose misguidance.
BE HUMBLE. Stop talking about it; actually, be it. This not only applies to the person who realizes their views were weak but also to the person who presents the truth. Arrogance has no place amongst Muslims.
Be patient and take your time before reacting.
Understand that many people mean well but are simply using bad logic and need to be lovingly shown the right path.
Spend more time listening (to persons of good character and knowledge) than speaking, ESPECIALLY when there is a difference of opinion starting to form in the conversation.
Repent to Allah, SWT, for any fitnah you have created when speaking without having facts to back you up; for example, if someone gives you evidence, and you maintain your weak position instead of giving it up altogether and embracing the Truth in whole. For example, your brother sees you and says, “Hey, how’s it going?” and you, at some point, remind him, “Brother, the Quran instructs us to greet one another saying As salaamu alaikum, and so I recommend you only use that greeting.” Do you really want to create fitnah by disagreeing with such a strong, true point? Whether you agree or not, if you have no facts to support your view over another, THE CORRECT REPLY IS ALHAMDULILAH (or something similar) and perhaps even JAZAKALLAH, and then to GO SEEK THE TRUTH on your own time.
Remember, Allah Subhanuhu Wa Tala, Knows everything we do!
Allah Detests Every Boastful Who Exalts Himself Unduly And Displays Inordinate Self Esteem
وَاعْبُدُواْ اللّهَ وَلاَ تُشْرِكُواْ بِهِ شَيْئًا وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا وَبِذِي الْقُرْبَى وَالْيَتَامَى وَالْمَسَاكِينِ وَالْجَارِ ذِي الْقُرْبَى وَالْجَارِ الْجُنُبِ وَالصَّاحِبِ بِالجَنبِ وَابْنِ السَّبِيلِ وَمَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ إِنَّ اللّهَ لاَ يُحِبُّ مَن كَانَ مُخْتَالاً فَخُورًا
[Quran 4:36]
[Translation – AL-Muntakhab] “And worship Allah and do not incorporate with Him other deities, and commit your parents to your kind care and display to them and to the kindred who are related by blood and to the orphans a friendly and kind disposition. A similar disposition is extended to the poor and to the neighbor related or immediate, to the associate and to the wayfarer, and to those on-hand, whether they be captives or reduced to servile state. And do realize that Allah detests every boastful who exalts himself unduly and displays inordinate self-esteem”
[Commentary Abdullah Yusuf Ali] “Real deeds of service and kindness proceed, not from showing off or from a superior sort of condescension (Cf. “White Man’s Burden”), but from a frank recognition of our own humility and the real claims, before ALLAH, of all our fellow-creatures. For in our mutual needs, we are equal before ALLAH, or perhaps the best of us (as the world sees us) may be worse than the worst of us (from the same point of view)”
[Commentary ALA-MAUDUDI] Serve Allah and ascribe no partner to Him. Do good to your parents, to near of kin, to orphans, and to the needy, and to the neighbor who is of kin and to the neighbor who is a stranger, and to the companion by your side, and to the wayfarer, and to those whom your right hands possess. Allah does not love the arrogant and the boastful,
Kindness Is A Mark Of Faith: Love Even Those Who Hurt You
Love even those who hurt. They’ll realize your worth someday. The tree does not withdraw its shade from the woodcutter…So, love even those who are hurt. They’ll recognize your worth someday.
The above quote made me think and reflect. To still love those who hurt us takes a lot and very often it’s easier said than done…!
It reminds me of our beloved Prophet [Salla Allahu Alayhi Wasalam] and how some of his loved ones really hurt him and chose to reject him as a Messenger of Allah. The hurt and grief they gave him, The Prophet [SallaAllahu Alayhi Wasalam] didn’t deter him from his mission, just like the tree that does not withdraw its shade from the woodcutter.
The Prophet [Salla Allahu `Alayhi Wasalam] still gave and showed love, compassion, mercy and kindness to all those who hurt, ridiculed, and harmed him.
These noble qualities which he demonstrated in his conduct, softened the hearts of those who opposed him, they realized his worth and his uniqueness and thus accepted Islam. Those unfortunate souls who did not realize his worth during his lifetime will realize his worth on the day of Judgment.
Loving those who hurt us is a Prophetic characteristic and may we all aspire to achieve this whether those who hurt us realize our worth in this life or not Allah [Azza Wa Jall] does and that’s all that matters. [‘SubhanAllah’]
Love For Allah Does Not Come Cheap
Allowing important areas of our lives to go unexamined and uncontrolled is the source of a vast amount of pain and loss. One such, if not the most significant, loss is our strong relationship with Allah.
Establishing a close connection with Allah requires work. Sometimes we feel that His rules are difficult to obey. We think, “Let me do what I want to do. Obedience is hard for me”.
In all honesty and to an extent, we all have felt the same way. Allah’s call to obey goes against the grain of our natural inclinations; we are all born wanting to be free and liberated without restrictions.
However, Allah pulls us in another direction by His love. He calls us to obey Him out of his concern for our best. Sometimes that means we must make hard choices.
Allah’s words aren’t given to hurt us; they are for our good. As the designer, He knows how his design works best. We cannot see the future; we cannot know where our choices lead us, but He does, and He uses his word to guide us.
As a child, my strongest motivation to be good was to please my parents. If we have no inner motivation to please Allah, we need to work on our love relationship with Him. We need to focus on His greatness and His love for us.
Even what seems insignificant to us matters to Allah. He calls us to make up our minds to obey him, even in the small things, those things that appear to be no big deal. Our obedience to the small things reveals how much we truly love Him.
We must keep our faith on the increase through daily good works using all of our bodies. Kindness with our tongue, charity with our wealth, and service with our limbs will help us remain connected to Allah. Link all of our actions to attaining His pleasure.
How to develop trust in Allah
Strengthening our trust in Allah is like learning any other skill. The more we commit to it, the stronger it gets. We cannot expect to strengthen our ties with Allah and increase our faith if we only worship when we feel like it.
Start with Qur’an
We need for starters to infuse our life with the Qur’an such that we become a living, walking, talking embodiment of the Qur’an.
I found to cultivate my heart, and I committed to repenting as many times a day as I could, every day.
Pick a time when you can sit, be in a state of peace, and be truly present with Allah. Thankfully – we serve a God who is able to forgive sins, all sins. Before or after Fajr, or `Isha’ prayer are often times of quiet, appropriate for this repenting.
At first, it may feel dry on our tongue, we must persist however until it comes alive in our heart.
Seek His Help
Even if we do have people to turn to, nobody can replace the warmth and openness we will ultimately feel with Allah. At times, sadness and difficulty bring us closer to Him than happiness and prosperity.
In those moments of sadness and confusion, we should reach out to Allah and release all our worries and sadness to Him.
Part of the reason that we feel emptiness in our prayers is because we feel that by praying fasting and supplicating, we are doing something to benefit Allah and that He should feel obliged to reimburse us for our efforts. We then desire certain outcomes that our limited insight feels is best for us and if those do not occur, then Allah has not answered them, so we become despondent.
Be Patient
We live in a time of instant gratification; we need to remind ourselves that attaining lasting faith is a tremendous gift that cannot be attained simply because we want it right now.
Strengthening our trust in Allah does not just happen. It is a journey of enormous spiritual growth. When the wounds are still sore, that is when our heart fully connects and surrenders to Allah.
Remember He knows us better than we would ever know ourselves.
Khalid Latif
The Extension Of Islam’s Universal Mercy To Animals
The universal mercy of Islam embraces not only human beings, whether unbelievers, People of the Book, or Muslims but all other living crea of Allah as well. Accordingly, Islam prohibits cruelty to animals. Thirteen hundred years before any societies for the prevention of cruelty to animals were established, Islam had made kindness to animals a part of its faith and cruelty to them a sufficient reason for a person to be thrown into the Fire.
The Prophet (peace be on him) related to his Companions the story of a man who found a dog panting with thirst. The man went down into a well, filled his shoes with water which he gave to the dog, and continued to do so until the dog’s thirst was quenched. The Prophet (peace be on him) said, ‘Then Allah was grateful to him and forgave him his sins.’ The Companions asked, ‘Is there a reward for us in relation to animals, O Messenger of Allah?’ He replied ‘There is a reward in (relation to) every living creature.’ (Reported by al-Bukhari.)
With this radiant picture of Allah’s forgiveness and pleasure, the Prophet (peace be on him) drew another picture depicting Allah’s anger and punishment. He said, A woman was sent to the Fire because of a cat. She imprisoned her and neither fed her nor set her free to feed upon the rodents of the earth. (Reported by al-Bukhari.)
Respect for Allah’s living creatures reached such an extent that when the Prophet (peace be on him) saw a donkey with a branded face, he denounced such a practice saying, “I would not brand an animal except on the part of its body farthest from its face.” (Reported by Muslim.)
In another report, he passed by a donkey with a branded face and said, “Have you not heard that I have cursed anyone who brands an animal on its face or who hits it on its face?” (Reported by Abu Daoud and al-Tirmidhi.)
We have already mentioned that when Ibn ‘Umar saw some people practicing archery using a hen as a target, he said, “The Prophet (peace be on him) cursed anyone who made a living thing into a target.”
Ibn ‘Abbas said that the Prophet (peace be on him) forbade that animals be made to fight each other since people would goad animals into fighting each other until one of them was pecked or gored to death, or close to it. Ibn ‘Abbas also reported that the Prophet (peace be on him) strongly condemned the castration of animals. (Reported by al-Bazzar on sound authority.)
The Qur’an condemned the Arabs of Jahiliyyah for slitting the ears of cattle, calling this a practice inspired by Satan. (4:119)
In relation to the method of slaughtering an animal, we have already pointed out that Islam insists that the manner of slaughter should be that which is least painful to the victim, and it requires that the knife be sharpened but not in front of the animal. Islam also prohibits the slaughtering of one animal in front of another. Before Islam, the world had never witnessed such concern for animals, a concern that was beyond its imagination.
O Allah, O Sufficer of the isolated and weak and Protector against terrifying affairs! Offenses have isolated me, so there is none to be my companion. I am too weak for Thy wrath and there is none to strengthen me. I have approached the terror of meeting Thee and there is none to still my fear. I beg for Your Mercy! Ameen
Best Deed: To Offer Prayer At Its Appointed Time
[6. Surah Al-An’am: Ayah 120] And abandon open and secret sin; surely they who earn sin shall be recompensed with what they earned.
[Sahih Muslim: Book 1 Kitab Al-Iman, Number 144] It is narrated on the authority of Abu Huraira (Radi Allah Anhu) that: “When the son of Adam recites the Ayat of Sajdah (prostration) and then falls down in prostration, the Satan goes into seclusion and weeps and says: Alas, and in the narration of Abu Kuraib the words are: Woe unto me, the son of Adam was commanded to prostrate, and he prostrated and Paradise was entitled to him and I was commanded to prostrate, but I refused and am doomed to Hell.”
[Sahih Muslim: Book 1 Kitab Al-Iman, Number 146] It is narrated on the authority of Jabir (Radi Allah Anhu) that he heard the Apostle (may peace and blessings be upon him) saying “Verily between man and between polytheism and unbelief is the negligence of prayer.”
[Sahih Muslim: Book 1 Kitab Al-Iman, Number 147] It is narrated on the authority of Abu Zubair (Radi Allah Anhu) that he heard Jabir b. ‘Abdullah (Radi Allah Anhu) said. I heard the Messenger of Allah (sal-allahu-alleihi-wasallam) observing this: “Between man and polytheism and unbelief is the abandonment of salat.”
[Sahih Muslim: Book 1 Kitab Al-Iman, Number 151] It is narrated on the authority of ‘Abdullah b. Mas’ud (Radi Allah Anhu) that he observed. I asked the Messenger of Allah (sal-allahu-alleihi-wasallam) which deed was the best. He (the Holy Prophet) replied: Prayer at its appointed hour. I (again) said: Then what? He (the Holy Prophet) replied: Kindness to the parents. I (again) said: Then what? He replied: Earnest endeavor (Jihad) in the cause of Allah. And I would have not ceased asking more questions but out of regard (for his feelings).
[Sahih Muslim: Book 1 Kitab Al-Iman, Number 155] It is reported on the authority of ‘Abdullah (Radi Allah Anhu) that the Apostle of Allah (sal-allahu-alleihi-wasallam) observed: “The best of’ the deeds or deed is the (observance of) prayer at its proper time and kindness to the parents.”
My Lord! grant me that I should be grateful for Thy favor which Thou hast bestowed on me and on my parents and that I should do good such as Thou art pleased with, and make me enter, by Thy mercy, into Thy servants, the good ones.
What Is The Qur’an And What Is The Qur’an About?
What is the Qur’an?
The Qur’an is a record of the exact words revealed by God through the Angel Gabriel to the Prophet Muhammad [PBUH]. It was memorized by Muhammad [PBUH] and then dictated to his Companions, and written down by scribes, who cross-checked it during his lifetime. Not one word of its 114 chapters, Surahs, has been changed over the centuries so that the Qur’an is in every detail the unique and miraculous text which was revealed to Muhammad [PBUH] fourteen centuries ago.
What is the Qur’an about?
The Qur’an, the last revealed word of God, is the prime source of every Muslim’s faith and practice. It deals with all the subjects which concern us as human beings: wisdom, doctrine, worship, and law, but its basic theme is the relationship between God and his creatures. At the same time, it provides guidelines for a just society, proper human conduct, and an equitable economic system.
Are there any other sacred sources?
Yes, the sunnah, the practice, and example of the Prophet [PBUH], is the second authority for Muslims. A hadith is a reliably transmitted report of what the Prophet [PBUH] said, did, or approved. Belief in the sunnah is part of the Islamic faith.
Examples of the Prophet’s sayings The Prophet [PBUH] said:
· ‘God has no mercy on one who has no mercy for others.’
· ‘None of you truly believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself’.
· ‘He who eats his fill while his neighbor goes without food is not a believer.’
· ‘The truthful and trusty businessman is associated with the prophets, the saints, and the martyrs.’
· ‘Powerful is not he who knocks the other down, indeed powerful is he who controls himself in a fit of anger.’
· ‘God does not judge according to your bodies and appearances but He scans your hearts and looks into your deeds.’
‘A man walking along a path felt very thirsty. Reaching a well he descended into it, drank his fill, and came up. then he saw a dog with its tongue hanging out, trying to lick up mud to quench its thirst. The man saw that the dog was feeling the same thirst as he had felt so he went down into the well again and filled his shoe with water and gave the dog a drink. God forgave his sins for this action.’ The Prophet [PBUH] was asked: ‘Messenger of God, are we rewarded for kindness towards animals?’ He said, ‘There is a reward for kindness to every living thing.’
How To Be A Good Husband
In Islam, a husband is required to treat his wife with affection, respect her feelings, and show her kindness and consideration. The husband should not show the wife any aversion or subject her to suspense or uncertainty. These guiding principles are established from the quran and sunnah and when implemented, bring about a great deal of peace and harmony in marriage.
Wife As A Source Of Peace
Allah says in the noble Quran: “and among his signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find contentment in them, and he has instilled between you affection and mercy. verily, in that are indeed signs for people who reflect”. (Quran 30:21)
For a wife to become a source of peace and contentment she has to be in a peaceful relationship. Therefore the treatment of the husband to the wife is of great significance in realizing this purpose. A husband’s treatment of his wife should reflect a Muslim’s good character, which in turn is a reflection of the man’s faith.
In this regard, the Prophet (S.A.W) said “The best among you are those who are best to their family and I am the best to my family.” (Tirmizi, ibn Majah)
Kind treatment generates true and deep-seated love for the husband in the wife’s heart. The wife in turn becomes eager and enthusiastic to serve her husband and accords him the honor and respect he deserves.
For a Muslim, a good wife is the best treasure a man can possess, after believing in Allah and following His commands, she is considered the key to happiness.
According to a Hadith, the Prophet (S.A.W) said to `Umar (R.A) “Shall I tell you the best a man can treasure? It is a good wife. If he looks at her, she gives him pleasure; if he orders her, she obeys; and if he is away from her, she remains faithful to Him”. (Abu Dawood)
The Prophet (SAW) also said, “Whoever is granted a good wife, he is helped to practice half his faith, let him obey Allah in the second half”. (Mishkaat)
The potential to become a source of true pleasure is vested in every wife. It is the responsibility of the husband to unlock this potential and utilize it for the benefit of his own life and that of his family. Like any treasure or wealth that one possesses it must be looked after, kept safely, and constantly nurtured for it to maintain its value.
This principle shall to a greater extent apply to the wife who is regarded as the treasure of all treasures. Any form of misuse, abuse, and maltreatment of this treasure will lead to diminishing the good that this treasure delivers and shall become a source of sin and accountability to Allah Ta’ala.
Kindness and More Kindness
Allah says “And live with them (your wives) in kindness…” (Quran 4:19)
A Muslim wife occupies a special position in society, and Islam considers her fulfillment of matrimonial duties as a form of jihad (striving for the sake of Allah). Without physically engaging in the battlefield, a wife is given the opportunity to earn the reward of striving for the cause of Allah.
By living with her in kindness, fulfilling her needs, and giving her support, the husband becomes instrumental in her achieving this noble reward. The husband by virtue of his kindness earns the happiness of his family and in turn draws closer to Allah Ta’ala. By adopting the correct approach surely the husband can earn the status of being the best among people for his kindness towards his wife.
The Prophet (SAW) said, “Verily Allah is Most Kind, and He loves kindness in all affairs”. (Bukhari & Muslim)
The Prophet (SAW) also said, “Kindness is not found in anything, but it adds beauty to it and if it is withdrawn (from it) it defects it”. (Muslim)
Garments Unto Each Other
Allah says: “They are garments for you and you are garments unto them” (Quran 2:187)
The husband and wife are likened to garments unto each other. They guard each other’s respect, honor, and dignity. They do not divulge their shortcomings and imperfections to others. The husband should be cautious and particular in this regard and not do or say things that would hurt the wife’s feelings. There is much reward in the concealment of a person’s shortcomings, more so with regards to the wife.
Overall Good Treatment
Our Creator knows well that human beings have certain weaknesses and deficiencies and are prone to error. Therefore Allah implores the husband by saying, “…communicate with them (wives) in kindness, for if you dislike them (for some deficiency) then perhaps you may dislike (a trait) wherein Allah has placed in it much good.” (Quran 4:19)
It is the collective right of the wife to be treated well in all aspects of daily life. The husband should interact with her in a well-mannered way with a flexible attitude, sweet words, and a smiling face. The Seerah (life) of the Prophet (S.A.W) is filled with his noble character of gentleness towards his people, his excellent conduct towards his wives, to the extent that he used to help them with their household chores and engaged in lighthearted activities. The true strength of a man is not measured by his physical firmness; rather he is gauged by his strength to show character in adverse situations.
May Allah ta’ala grant every husband the ability to treat his wife with kindness and compassion.
Aameen Rabbul Alameen
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