When it was clear that the Prophet (peace be upon him) decided to marry Safiyyah (radi Allahu anha), the news was received with considerable expectation. On their arrival in Madinah, the Prophet (peace be upon him) accommodated her first in the house of his Ansari companion, Harithah ibn Al-Numan. Many women, particularly from the Ansar, went there to see the Prophet’s new wife. This was only to be expected since the Ansar were used to having the Jews living in their city until they had recently been evacuated. Safiyyah’s own people, the Al-Nadir tribe, were evacuated only three years earlier. The Prophet (peace be upon him) even noticed his wife, Ayesha (radi Allahu anha), going there, having covered her face. He (peace be upon him) observed her movement until he saw her going into that house. When she came back home, he (peace be upon him) asked her: ‘How did you find her?’ Her answer expressed her jealous feelings: ‘I only saw a Jewish woman.’ The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: ‘Do not say that. She has become a Muslim, and she is a good Muslim.’
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Marriage After A Hard Battle
When the Prophet (peace be upon him) settled in Madinah, he put relations among the different communities living in the city on a proper basis. There were the Muslims who were composed of two main groups: The Muhajirin who had migrated from Makkah, and the Ansar, or the Arabs who lived there but responded to the Prophet’s call and adopted Islam. Their numbers were always on the increase as more and more of their tribesmen and women adopted Islam every day. There were also the Arabs who retained their idolatrous beliefs and did not accept Islam. Their numbers might have been considerable to start with, but dwindled into insignificance as time passed. There was also the Jewish community which consisted of several tribes. The Prophet ordered a charter to be written down, organizing relations between all these groups. This became the first written constitution in the history of mankind. It established a pluralist society where different communities could live in peace and with mutual respect.
However, relations with the Jews did not run very smoothly, with one tribe after another violating this constitution or coming into open alliance with the enemies of the Muslim state. The result was the evacuation from Madinah of the three major Jewish tribes, one after another. By the end of the fifth year of the Prophet’s settlement there, Madinah became a largely Muslim city, with a small number of hypocrites pretending to be Muslim when they were truly unbelievers and a handful of others who remained idolaters. Now the Jews concentrated in the city of Khaybar, to the north of Madinah, from where they engaged in trying to forge a new alliance of forces. The Prophet moved quickly to forestall these efforts. He laid siege to Khaybar and its forts fell to him, one after another. He then made a peace agreement with the Jews, allowing them to stay and farm the land in return for half its produce.
When the battle was over, Safiyyah was brought to the Prophet. She, like many others of her people, was taken captive and faced a life of slavery. She was a young woman. Some reports suggest that she was only 17, but, most probably, this is inaccurate. She had been married twice before, with the second marriage taking place only a few months earlier. Her second husband, Kinanah ibn Al-Rabie, was killed during the battle. He was one of the main Jewish chiefs, exceedingly hostile to Islam and the Prophet. He had worked hard to stem the tide of Islam.
Thus, both Safiyyah’s father and husband were killed by the Muslims. Now she was being brought to face the Prophet because in her position the Muslims felt that he should be the one to decide her fate. As it happened, it was Bilal who led her, and another Jewish woman, through a yard where there were many bodies of people who were killed in the battle. The other woman wailed loudly, but Safiyyah adopted a dignified attitude. When the Prophet realized what had happened, he remonstrated with Bilal, saying: “Has mercy departed from your heart? How can you lead two women across a place where they would pass by the bodies of their killed people?”
What fate awaited Safiyyah? The Prophet looked at her and then offered her two alternatives: Either he would send her back to her people, or she would be set free and marry her. She chose the latter. He, therefore, assigned her to Umm Sulaym, to look after her and prepare her for the impending marriage. She needed to complete her waiting period first.
– By Adil Salahi
Relations Set On New Footing
There are strong similarities between the circumstances leading to the marriages of the Prophet (peace be upon him) to Juwayriyyah bint Al-Harith and Safiyyah bint Huyayy. Both were daughters of men who took a hostile attitude to Islam and the Prophet. Fathers of both women raised forces to wage war against Islam. Both women were married to men who were killed in the battles that their peoples were keen to fight. Both were taken captive and faced a life of slavery. Both were freed by the Prophet and offered marriage.
One must not underestimate the significance of such marriages, especially in the tribal environment of Arabia, where marriage relations between the families of the chiefs of different tribes signified alliances between those tribes. In the case of his marriage with Safiyyah, the Prophet wanted his companions and the vanquished Jews to realize that he was opening a new page in his relations with yesterday’s enemies. He realized that his marriage would go a long way to reassure the Jews that the door was open for them to have friendly relations with Islam. The Prophet would not have married Safiyyah had he intended not to treat her on equal footing with his other wives. On the contrary, we see him extending a most kindly treatment to her right from the beginning. As the Muslim army began its march back toward Madinah, and Safiyyah needed to climb into her howdah, she found that difficult because she was short. The Prophet bent his knee and she stepped over it so that she could manage to climb. This took place in front of his companions. He could have ordered that steps should be brought for her, but he preferred to be the one to help her. He thus taught by example that men should extend every kindness to their women folk. That practical example was very significant in a social environment that until a short while earlier looked at women as much inferior. Islam changed all this and established the full equality of the two sexes.
How did she take such a change in her circumstances? We have little evidence to tell us how she felt at first. However, one report suggests that when the Prophet wanted this new marriage consummated, Safiyyah kept aloof. He did not try to force her. Rather, he left her, and felt rather uneasy. A few days later, as the Muslim army marched on its way back to Madinah, the consummation took place. She later explained that she did not wish the consummation to take place so close to her people’s hometown, because “I feared that the Jews might try to do you harm.”
That uneasy feeling was also felt by some Muslims. When the Prophet had his first night with Safiyyah, Abu Ayyub Al-Ansari, his companion who was his host on his first arrival in Madinah, spent the night at close proximity to the Prophet’s tent, watching for any suspicious indication. The Prophet did not realize that he acted as a night watch. It was when he went out of his tent that he realized Abu Ayyub’s presence. He asked him what kept him awake. He said: “Messenger of God! We had just defeated this woman’s people and killed many of their men. I feared that she might entertain some evil thoughts against you.” The Prophet thanked him and prayed God to preserve him as he stood guard for him.
Thus, apprehension was felt by Safiyyah and by some Muslims. Yet there was no need. Safiyyah adopted Islam and was a devout and pious Muslim.
Adil Salahi
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