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Muslim Muashra Aur Orat
How To Prevent Family Disorders
To prevent family disorders, married men and women need to keep certain points in mind and practice them in their lives, as below:
1) One of the basic points for successful family life is self-knowledge. Every man and woman has certain capabilities and limitations, which they need to discover within themselves. The husband and wife, who are clearly aware of their good and bad points and the reality of their personalities, will have fewer disputes in their family lives. Then it is necessary that the husband and wife accept one another and love one another with all his/her faults and finer points.
2) The husband and wife should respect one another and should not do anything to cause disrespect or hate in the other party. Married couples should hold themselves and their spouses in high regard and should be aware that if they want or like their spouses to be or act according to their own opinions, it is only going to be a waste of time and effort. People are all different. Married couples should accept one another as they are, and not try to compare one another to others because this only inflicts psychological injury.
3) Married couples should foster their talents. Couples can become acquainted with their particular talents in various fields, for example, sports, physical expertise, interest in study, and other fields. The more that couples study and read about different topics, on a daily basis, the more valuable their lives will become.
4) Couples need to form close relationships with others. The reason for many family disputes lies in separation and seclusion from others. A husband and wife, who like others are part of society, need the support, calm, and assurance that come from others – ( e.g., family members, friends, neighbors, etc.). For this reason, it is necessary to have close, active affectionate, and at the same time healthy and well-rooted relationships with others in order to prevent family disputes.
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Choosing A Good Wife
Marriage is for enjoyment and building a righteous family and a sound society. One should, therefore, marry a woman through whom these two goals can be fulfilled; a woman adorned with both physical (outer beauty) and abstract (inner) beauty.
The outer beauty is the perfection of physical characteristics because a woman who is beautiful and has a soft voice will give tranquility to the eyes that look at her and the ears that listen to her speech and the heart becomes receptive to her.
Allah said: “And among His Signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy.” (Qur’an, 30:21)
As for inner beauty, it is completeness in religion and manners. The more a woman is religious and perfect in her manners, the more beloved she will be and hence is a more suitable choice.
A religious woman will fulfill the commands of Allah, and protect the rights of her husband, children, and money. She will support him in obedience to Allah. If the husband forgets, she reminds him. If he slackens, she invigorates him, and if he gets angry she pleases him. The well-mannered woman endears herself to her husband and respects him; she does not delay anything that he likes to be done quickly, and she does not hasten anything he likes to be delayed.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was asked: “Which of the women are best?” He replied, “If he (husband) looks at her, she pleases him, and she obeys him when he commands, and she does not deny him regarding herself, or his wealth in what he hates.” (Ahmad, An-Nasa’i)
If it is possible to find a woman who has inner and outer beauty, then this is perfection and bliss granted by Allah.
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True Anecdotes – A Wise Old Woman
A scholar once saw an old lady operating her spinning wheel and asked her, “Lady! You’ve been spinning that wheel your entire life. Have you ever taken any time to learn about Your Lord?”
The woman replied, “I see everything through this wheel of mine.”
“Then tell me, is Allah present or not?”
“Allah is present, every moment, every day, every night “all the time.”
“But what’s your proof of this?”
“This very wheel of mine!”
“How so?”
The woman explained, “As long as I’m here running the wheel, it continues to spin in motion. Once I stop, it stops. So, if the wheel is in need of someone to keep it moving, why shouldn’t the Earth, the Heavens, the Sun, and the Moon be in need of someone to keep them moving? When I stop my work, the wheel stops spinning, but until now, we’ve never seen anything in our Universe stop moving. This is how I know that the One Who keeps our world in order is present and is always present.”
The scholar was happy with this answer but continued, “Okay, but how do you know that the One who controls the Universe is one and not two?”
The woman replied, “The answer is again in my wheel! It only spins in the direction I tell it to. If someone wanted to assist me in spinning it, the wheel’s motion would become inconsistent and it wouldn’t work properly. And, if my assistant spun it in a different direction, the wheel would either stop spinning or break. This doesn’t happen when I use it alone, and this is how I know that if there was another controller of the Universe besides Allah, there would be no uniformity in the day and night cycle or anything else. So, the controller of the Heavens and the Earth can only be one.” [Seerat as-Saliheen, Page 3]
Lesson: The world itself is proof that our Creator is one, but only those of insight see this.
Extracted from
Stories Of The Prophets (Partial Translation of Sacchi Hikayaat)