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All Praises and Glories to Allah, the Most Gracious and Most Beneficent. Peace be upon Prophet Muhammed (Peace be upon him), his Sahabas, and all of us.

Man is a creature of haste: soon (enough) will I show you My signs; then ye will not ask Me to hasten them! – (Quran 21:37).

When a person gives you some information that you already knew , do not say I already know it .Because the information is a message for those who did not knew it already, and a reminder for the people, who already knew it.- Prophet (Peace be upon him)

When a person speaks to you do not feel that he is referring to you – Prophet (Peace be upon him)
Do not be carried away by the beauties of Wording – Prophet (Peace be upon him)

Please analyze the above verses. When we go through the above verses, we can understand that human nature is very well defined. Amazing! Isn’t it .Yes, each human have the above qualities, which is well described by whom else than ALLAH, our creator and Prophet Muhammed (Peace be upon him), his messenger.

No other book in human psychology was/is/will be as comprehensive as The Quran. There was/is/will be no psychologist as good as our Prophet (peace be upon him).

Some Recipes of success are:
Please don’t do things in haste or take decision in hurry. Let us do things calmly and coolly. [“Even if it is time for prayer when you walk to mosque, walk slowly and steadily” – Prophet Muhammed (Peace be upon him)]

Islam tells that man should not do things on assumptions. So, please don’t do things or make decisions based on assumptions. Man has better communication skills than any other human being. So, it is better to clarify matters rather than to assume them ourselves.

When someone tell something, which we already know, even then we should give an ear to him. We should not go by the western logic that do not repeat obvious thing Even if someone tell us that aero plane flies in the sky, please listen to him.

When someone speaks about anything to us, we should not feel that he is talking with reference to us
Please don’t be carried away by the beauties of the wording, like it is in the case of most poetry. Let us see the meaning. Please don’t see who speaks to us; let us see what he speaks.

Why Should I Study Islam?

Many years ago in Uzbekistan, a baby boy was born blind. His mother, the strong believer that she was, did not lose sight of He who had the power to cure him. She prayed and prayed for her son’s sight, and within a few years, the boy regained his eyesight. But furthermore, she was widowed, and the boy an orphan. Regardless, she traveled with him to Makkah so that he could receive an Islamic education. She arranged for him to attend the circles of the scholars. He began excelling in the science of Hadith. He traveled to distant villages in search of the most authentic sayings of the Prophet (peace be upon him). His mother named him Muhammad Ibn Isma’il. Many of us know him today by the book he compiled – the book that stands after the Qur’an in authenticity – Saheeh Al-Bukhari.

Another scholarly name we are familiar with is Imam Suyuti. What many of us may not know is that he authored his first book, Tafseer Bismillaah Ar-Rahman Ar-Raheem, when he was in the 2nd grade!

Why should we try to follow in the footsteps of these stars of Islam? The knowledge they had was unlike anything else. It was the law of Allah and the inheritance of the Prophets. It is our duty to preserve and protect the estate of the Prophet (peace be upon him), and that cannot happen without there being serious and sincere brothers and sisters spending long days and nights reading, reflecting, and teaching others.

A sincere man once stood on the beach shore watching the waves thrashing a fish up and down. The man decided that he must save the fish. He thrashed into the water and grabbed the fish by the tail. Then he went back to the shore and threw the fish on the beach, satisfied that he had saved it from the water! When we work for the sake of Allah without knowledge of what the path of Allah is, many times we do as this young man did.

We are living in an age of information. We have publishing houses when only yesterday our ancestors wrote the books they owned with their own hands. We have CDs to search the Hadith archives when our scholars spent days upon days searching for proof and evidence in their libraries. Knowledge should increase with all this ease, but it has not.

When a prize is great, the responsibility and work required for it shall also be great. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

“Whoever seeks out a path to acquire knowledge (of the deen), Allah makes easy a path for him to Jannah” (Muslim)

He also told us that sincere scholars have a place with Allah no one else can reach. He (peace be upon him) said:

“The virtue of the scholar to a worshipper (‘aabid) is similar to the virtue of the moon when it is full to the rest of the stars.” (Abu Dawood, Tirmidhi, and Ibn Majah – Authentic)

One of the Hadith scholars that Imam Bukhari took from, Hisham ibn Ammar narrates an incident that happened to him when he was 8 years old. He said, “My father sold a house of his for 20 dinars so that I could go for Hajj (and study Islam). When I arrived in Madina, I went to the circle of Imam Malik. He was sitting amongst his students like a king. People would ask him questions and he would answer. When I entered the crowd and my turn came up I said, ‘Haddathani (recite to me)!’

“He said, ‘Rather you read.’

“I said, ‘No, you haddathani!’

“Imam Malik said, ‘No you read!’

“When I talked back and argued, he got angry and said to another student, go outside with me and hit me 15 times! That student took me outside and hit me 15 times with a stick and then brought me back to Imam Malik. I said, ‘You have wronged me! My father sold his house so that I could come to you and be honored by listening to your teaching and seeking knowledge from you. But you smacked me 15 times without any crime on my part. I shall not forgive you!’

“Imam Malik then said, ‘What is the expiation for this wrong?’

“I said, ‘You have to recite 15 Hadith to me as expiation.’

“So Imam Malik began reciting the Hadith to me until he completed 15. When he ended I told him, ‘Beat me more and read more Hadith to me.’

“Imam Malik laughed and said, ‘Be off.”

(Ma’rifat Al-Qurraa’ Al-Kibaar by Imam Adh-Dhahabi)

From the beginning of time, there has been a race between the doers of good and the doers of evil.

‘Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) once said, “I seek Allah’s protection from the Jalad (the strength and enthusiasm) of the sinner, and the laziness of the God-fearer.” It is as if he was contemplating the time that we are now living in.

Why are we too lazy to pray 2 Rakat at night, when the people of the Dunya spend the entire night watching movies?

Some of the Fuqahaa’ who came before us said, “For years I desired to eat Hareesah (a sweet dish) and I wasn’t able to because it was only sold during class time.”

Imam Su’bah said, “If I ever saw someone running in the streets of the village I would only think one of two things: He was either crazy or a student of Hadith!”

To correct the situation we must reflect on the following:

· We must be sincere in our desire to learn Islam. It is not a coincidence that the first Hadith in Saheeh Al-Bukhari is, “Verily actions are (judged) by their intentions…” The scholars are reminding us from page one that our path to learning must be for the sake of Allah. Allah ordered us to be sincere to Him in our actions:

“And they were commanded not, but that they should worship Allah, and worship none but Him Alone (abstaining from ascribing partners to Him), and perform As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat) and give Zakat: and that is the right religion.” (Qur’an, 98:5)

· We should understand that we are in a continuous war with Satan and that he does not want us to succeed in this studying. Allah says:

“So when you want to recite the Qur’an, seek refuge with Allah from Shaitan (Satan), the outcast (the cursed one).” (Qur’an, 16:98)

One way Satan will sit in your path is by making you procrastinate. He will tell you that you are busy now and that later in your life you shall take the time out to study Islam. Life will pass and the ‘after’ shall live forever.

· We should never forget to pray to Allah to bless us with His Mercy in succeeding in our intentions to learn Islam for His sake. Allah says:

“And when My slaves ask you (O Muhammad) concerning Me, then (answer them), I am indeed near (to them by My Knowledge). I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me (without any mediator or intercessor). So let them obey Me and believe in Me, so that they may be led aright.” (Qur’an, 2:186).

Four Wives

Once upon a time, there was a rich King who had four wives. He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to the finest of delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best.

He also loved the 3rd wife very much and was always showing her off to neighboring kingdoms. However, he feared that one day she would leave him for another.

He also loved his 2nd wife. She was his confidant and was always kind, considerate, and patient with him. Whenever the King faced a problem, he could confide in her, and she would help him get through the difficult times.

The King’s 1st wife was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions to maintaining his wealth and kingdom. However, he did not love his first wife. Although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her!

One day, the King fell ill and he knew his time was short. He thought of his luxurious life and wondered, “I now have four wives with me, but when I die, I’ll be all alone. “Thus, he asked the 4th wife, “I have loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing, and showered great care over you. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?”

“No way!”, replied the 4th wife, and she walked away without another word. Her answer cut like a sharp knife right into his heart.

The sad King then asked the 3rd wife, “I have loved you all my life. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?” “No!”, replied the 3rd wife. “Life is too good! When you die, I’m going to remarry!” His heart sank and turned cold.

He then asked the 2nd wife, “I have always turned to you for help and you’ve always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?” “I’m sorry, I can’t help you out this time!”, replied the 2nd wife. “At the very most, I can only send you to your grave.” Her answer came like a bolt of lightning, and the King was devastated.

Then a voice called out: “I’ll leave with you and follow you no matter where you go.” The King looked up, and there was his first wife. She was so skinny as she suffered from malnutrition and neglect.

Greatly grieved, the King said, “I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!”

In truth, we all have 4 wives in our lives: Our
4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it will leave us when we die. Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status, and wealth. When we die, it will all go to others. Our 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for us, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.

And our 1st wife is our Soul. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power, and pleasures of the world. However, our Soul is the only thing that will follow us wherever we go. Cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now, for it is the only part of us that will follow us to the throne of God and continue with us throughout Eternity.

When the world pushes you to your knees…..You’re in the perfect position to pray.

Islamic Perspective On Personal Privacy

The personal privacy of the individual is an integral part of his dignity. The private dwelling is therefore made immune to intrusion of all kinds. Strangers who wish to enter private homes are required to greet the inhabitants and familiarize themselves with courtesy and respect (See: Qur’an, 24:27). Permission to enter a private home is thus to be solicited thrice, and if it is still not granted, there should be no further repetition and the stranger must leave. This is clearly stated in a Hadith which directed the believers that “asking for permission is (allowed up to) three times. If it is not granted to you, you must return.” (Sahih Muslim)

The Hadith here elaborates on the two requirements of familiarization (isti’nas) and greeting (taslim) that are laid down in the above-mentioned Qur’anic verse. The order of priority between these two requirements has also been specified in another Hadith which simply declared that “The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Greeting precedes the speech.” (Mubarakfuri, ‘Aradat Al-Ahwadhi, Sharh Jami’ Al-Tirmidhi)

Spying (tajassus) is forbidden by the clear text of the Qur’an, and so is indulgence in suspicion and surreptitious activities that are degrading and offensive to the personal dignity of the individual (Qur’an, 49:12). The Qur’anic prohibition on spying occurs in general terms.

One must act on the basis of what he knows through direct observation without recourse to spying, eavesdropping, and other methods of searching for evidence. (Al-Dughmi, Ahkam Al-Tajassus, p. 149)

The second Caliph, Umar Bin Al-Khattab clarified the government’s position when he said that the government acts on what is evident; one who exhibits good character should not be suspected of anything but good; for the inner secrets of people are only known to Allah Most High. (Al-Tabari, Tarikh, v. 26)

The general text of the Qur’an on the prohibition of spying similarly means that all varieties of espionage are included. Furthermore, the Qur’anic text on espionage is immediately preceded by an address to the believers to “avoid indulgence in suspicion, for sure suspicion in most cases is sinful, and spy not…” (Qur’an, 49:12)

Espionage originates in suspicion, which is also to be avoided as far as possible, although the wording of the text is not as categorical on suspicion as it is on spying. The text here seems to permit suspicion that is based on reasonable grounds. The point, however, is that both are seen as a threat to personal dignity and a violation of the individual’s right to privacy.

The prohibition of spying also includes the opening of personal letters and confidential correspondence. This is, in fact, the subject of a Hadith to the effect that “one who looks into the letter of his brother without his permission is like looking into the fire of Hell.” (Al-Suyuti, Al-Jami’ As-Saghir, p. 165; Ibn Majah, Al-Adab Al-Shar`iyya, vol. 2, p. 166)

The prohibition of espionage is thus addressed to everyone and to all concerned, including, that is, law enforcement agencies, individuals, and government leaders.

– The Dignity of Man, Ilmiah Publishers

Never Give Up: Don’t Let Satan Win

Most of the issues new Muslims face in Islam can be easily overcome if they remain patient, seek knowledge, and remain positive.

“I’ve had it! I’m done!
I’ve tried as much as I can, and nothing seems to ever work out the way it is supposed to.
No matter what I do it never seems to be enough.
I will never be a good Muslim, and I will never hold up to everyone’s expectations of me.”

Does this sound familiar to you?
You or someone you know have probably said this during some stage in life.
It happens. Life happens. What was the outcome of that hopeless time period?

Reverts’ Challenges
– Challenges of Hijab for New Reverts
– Traps of Satan for New Muslims!
– Reverts’ Challenges at College & Work
– New Muslims Overcoming Isolation
– Reverts: Heroes or Social Misfits?

It passed right?
All things get resolved in time, we just have to be patient and remain positive. I’m sure there was a time in your life when you couldn’t find a job and felt you never would, but eventually, you found one. You probably had a conflict with a family member that you thought was going to be the end of the world, but somehow, things are back to normal.

If you look in hindsight at every struggle we have ever faced, you can usually say that you overcame all of them. The only time we face a hardship that is not overcome is typically when we fail to do something about it, and fail to remain positive and hopeful.

I’m frequently contacted by new Muslims all around the world with various life struggles with various strenuous circumstances that have left them in a state of hopelessness and despair. Whether it is a marriage falling apart due to the strain of their ability to implement and practice Islam to the expectations of their spouses, or inability to learn the prayers for whatever reason, criticisms of the community they live in, or even putting so much pressure on themselves to be perfect and feeling that they will never reach that state, leaves them to start contemplating if they made the correct choice in accepting Islam.

New Muslims are always told that “Islam is easy”, which can be a bit misleading to a new Muslim depending on the mindset and way that they interpret a particular matter based on whatever struggles they are having.

When a new Muslim is told that “Islam is easy”, yet something about the religion for them seems extremely difficult (for whatever circumstances or reasons), it can cause them to think that they will never be a good Muslim, because if it is so easy, then why can’t they feel that themselves? Then they start to doubt themselves, and Islam in general.

So, what is the problem? Why do some new Muslims give up?

What can new Muslims do to remain positive and not give up?

Remaining Positive Is the Key to Everything!

our worst enemy – wants to see new Muslims in a state of despair.

Most of the issues new Muslims face in Islam can be easily overcome if they remain patient, seek knowledge, and remain positive.

Shaitan (Satan) – our worst enemy – wants to see new Muslims in a state of despair and will whisper to them things that will make them pity themselves and have doubts. This is his job, and he is the expert in it! He loves nothing more than making someone walk away from God. He is a pest… What do we do when pests enter our homes?

Do we sit in utter doom thinking that there is no solution? Do we feel sorry for ourselves and never let the light of hope enter? No! We don’t, because we know that it may take some time, but we can get rid of them. We get bug spray and eliminate them.

The same rule applies here. Get your can of shaitan spray in hand and be on guard. Be ready to spray anytime you see him show his ugly face. Don’t let shaitan ever feel that you are scared of him and what he can do, otherwise, he will invade every part of your home and life. When he sees that you are strong and don’t want to live with his ugliness, your ability to be positive will grow and grow. No one wants to live with pests, right? You will feel hopeful and positive that you will eliminate this pest when you have armed yourself with what he hates most! Pest spray (Faith and trust in God).

Let’s discuss a few forms shaitan gets to people
There are many methods by that shaitan attack new Muslims to make them doubt their decisions. We can evaluate how their attitudes and outlook can change everything if they just remain positive and seek out solutions.

The Lonely Shaitan
Shaitan is lonely and wants to be your friend, so don’t become his best pal! I realize that loneliness is a horrible feeling, and I can’t just snap my fingers and put friends and family in front of me, but that doesn’t mean it is the end of the world as you know it. Just because he is there wanting your attention doesn’t mean that he is the friend you need to have.

If you are a negative thinker, you will probably stay at home and pout, and the lonely shaitan will entertain you day and night. Get your pest spray out and get rid of that loneliness shaitan! Be positive, and get out and go do something! Anything! Meet new people. They don’t have to be Muslims, but if there is a large Muslim community near you, do your best to make new friends with them. Frequent places where they gather, visit the masjid regularly, get involved in events and you will make new friends. It takes time, but it takes time to make a new friend regardless of where you meet them, or what their religion is, right?

The Marital Shaitan
Shaitan prides himself in keeping people unmarried or divorced. Always remember that. Just because you may be single doesn’t mean that you are the victim of shaitan, but don’t let him be what prevents you from getting married. Watch out though….he may actually be the one to have you marry a particular person that is not good for you because he loves to see people divorce.

New Muslims are pushed to marry quickly and encouraged to marry someone that may not match them. Don’t be one of these people that lets other people make their decisions for them. Shaitan thrives on people that can’t think for themselves.

Know what you want, make it known, and don’t accept anything less, even if it takes time. Look for a pious spouse, and make sure that you are a pious spouse worth being sought out for. Remaining hopeful and positive while being patient will pay off in the long run in this matter because if you make a rushed decision, it can destroy you in a heartbeat through a divorce.

The Poor & Jobless Shaitan
He is weak, and when he becomes desperate, he is easier to convince to go against Allah.
When we are in misery, the shaitan is happy. When a person is struggling financially, the shaitan sees an opportunity to influence a believer. He is weak, and when he becomes desperate, he is easier to convince to go against Allah. The perfect example of this is the single mother that reverted to Islam and is the sole provider for her child. Desperate times call for desperate measures, and shaitan is usually successful. Shaitan can make a woman feel that she will never find a job wearing a hijab, and as she becomes desperate, she may consider removing her hijab just for the sake of getting a job.

{Do men think that they will be left alone by saying, “We believe”, and that they will not be tested?} (29:2)

{Be sure we shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods or lives or the fruits (of your toil), but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere.} (2:155)

Allah is our provider, and as long as we are trying to do our best to please Him, He will provide for us in ways unexpected. Stay positive and don’t become weak, and He will open the doors of opportunity in places you were not expecting that are better for you than the jobs you were seeking. He may close a door, but He will open another if you put your trust in Him and remain patient and steadfast.

{And He provides for him from (sources) he never could imagine. And if anyone puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is (Allah) for him. For Allah will surely accomplish his purpose: verily, for all things has Allah appointed a due proportion.} (65:3)

The Black Sheep Shaitan
Family is the core support for an individual. Parents have no ulterior motives for their children and always look out for their best interests. New Muslims typically lack this after accepting Islam, leaving them without this core support system. Shaitanpreys on these individuals because of it! So be alert!

This is a very prominent occurrence amongst new Muslims. They try to do everything prescribed in Islam from day one. Always be hopeful and ask Allah to guide your family to Islam, open their hearts and make it easy to have a loving relationship with them. Even if you don’t have a great relationship with your family, be grateful that you have one. Think of the orphans all around the world that don’t have a family to have any sort of relationship with! Alhamdulilah

The Burn Out
This is a very prominent occurrence amongst new Muslims. They try to do everything prescribed in Islam from day one, and 99% of the time, find themselves exhausted, unable to keep up, and wanting to give up. They burn out.

This is a joyous event for the shaitan. If you try to do too much, too quickly, you will be overwhelmed, and won’t be able to keep it up, and then have doubts about if you could ever be a good Muslim. Many new Muslims leave Islam for this reason alone. They feel doomed to hellfire. Don’t fall into this trap.

Conclusion:
Our troubles erase our sins, while patience with them raises us in status, and when Allah loves His creation, He tests him.

Think Positive!

Think positively of Allah and positive things will come.

Prophet Muhammad said: “Allah says: ‘I am as My slave thinks I am, and I am with him when he calls on Me.’” (Al-Bukhari 7405 and Muslim 2675)

By Shannon Abulnasr