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Duties And Rights After Marriage

Allah informs us about the just rights of each other on us:

“But, in accordance with justice, the wife’s rights (with regard to their husbands) are equal to the (husband’s) rights with regard to them, although men are a degree above them; and Allah is Almighty, Wise.“ (Qur’an, Al Baqarah : 228)

The statement that men are a degree above women means that authority within the household has been give to the husband in preference to the wife because a heavier burden has been placed on his shoulders by another verse of the Quran which says:

“Men shall take full care of women because Allah has given the one more strength than the other, and because they support them with their means.” (Qur’an, An Nisaa: 34)

ADVICE TO HUSBANDS:
Jabir narrated that the Prophet, peace be upon him, gave these instructions in his sermon during Farewell Pilgrimage: “Fear God regarding women; for you have taken them [in marriage] with the trust of God.“ [Mishkat]

Narrated Aisha, God’s messenger said: “Among the believers who show most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition and are kindest to their families.“ [Tirmidhi]

Narrated Abu Huraira, God’s messenger said: “The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition and the best of you are those who are best to their wives.” [Tirmidhi]

Hadrat Aisha has related that the Holy Prophet, peace be upon him, would enter the house with a pleasing disposition and a smile on his lips. [Uswa-i-Hasana]

Narrated Al-Aswad: “I asked Aisha, `What did the Prophet, peace be upon him, do at home?’ She said, `He used to work for his family and when he heard the call for the prayer, he would go out.‘” [Bukhari]

Narrated Abu Huraira: “Allah’s Apostle, peace be upon him, said, `The woman is like a rib; if you try to straighten her, she will break. So if you want to get benefit from her, do so while she still has some bent.‘” [Bukhari]

Spending On Wife, Children, Family

1. Sayyidina Abu Saeed Khudri(radhiyallahu anhu) reported that Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) has said that whosoever spends anything on his family members for reward, will enjoy the divine credit of charity. (Bukhari, Muslim)

2. It is described by Sayyidina Abu Huraira(radhiyallahu anhu) that Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) has said that, to spend on one’s wife, has great merit than giving charity to male and female slaves and beggars.  (Muslim)

3. Sayyidina Abdullah bin Masood (radhiyallahu anhu) reported that the greatest preference is to spend on one’s wife and children which is necessary and then it should be spent on close relatives. (Tibrani)

It is narrated in the extract of Sayyidina Arbez bin Saarya(radhiyallahu anhu) that even giving water to one’s wife is charity.

4. Sayyidina Abu Huraira(radhiyallahu anhu) reported that someone asked Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) that he had one gold coin with him, and where should he spend it. Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said that he should spend it on himself. The man said that he had one more and Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said that he should spend it on his wife. The man again said that he had yet another and Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said ,that he should spend on his servants. The man said that he had a fourth and Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said that he should spend it, on whatever he preferred. (Ibn Habban)

5. Sayyidina Sa’ad bin Waqqas(radhiyallahu anhu) reported that Rasullullah(sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said that whosoever spends his money to gain Allah’s pleasure and goodwill, gets the credit of charity so much that even a morsel which he puts in the mouth of his wife, has the credit of charity. ( Bukhari, Muslim)