Biography Of A Woman Of Paradise
We do not know precisely how the young Abyssinian girl ended up for sale in Makkah. We do not know her ‘roots’, who her mother was, her father, or her ancestors. There were many like her, boys and girls, Arabs and non-Arabs, who were captured and brought to the slave market of the city to be sold.
A terrible fate awaited some who ended up in the hands of cruel masters or mistresses who exploited their labor to the full and treated them with the utmost harshness.
A few in that inhuman environment were rather more fortunate. They were taken into the homes of more gentle and caring people.
Barakah, the young Abyssinian girl, was one of the more fortunate ones. She was saved by the generous and kind Abdullah, the son of Abd al-Muttalib. ‘She became the only servant in his household and when he was married, to the lady Aminah, she looked after her affairs as well.
Two weeks after the couple were married, according to Barakah, Abdullah’s father came to their house and instructed his son to go with a trading caravan that was leaving for Syria. Aminah was deeply distressed and cried:
“How strange! How strange! How can my husband go on a trading journey to Syria while I am yet a bride and the traces of henna are still on my hands.”
Abdullah’s departure was heartbreaking. In her anguish, Aminah fainted. Soon after he left, Barakah said: “When I saw Aminah unconscious, I shouted in distress and pain: ‘O my lady!’ Aminah opened her eyes and looked at me with tears streaming down her face. Suppressing a groan she said: “Take me to bed, Barakah.”
“Aminah stayed bedridden for a long time. She spoke to no one. Neither did she look at anyone who visited her except Abd al-Muttalib, that noble and gentle old man. “Two months after the departure of Abdullah, Aminah called me at dawn one morning and, her face beaming with joy, she said to me:
“O Barakah! I have seen a strange dream.” “Something good, my lady,” I said.
“I saw lights coming from my abdomen lighting up the
mountains, the hills, and the valleys around Makkah.” “Do you feel pregnant, my lady?”
“Yes, Barakah,” she replied. “But I do not feel any discomfort as other women feel.” “You shall give birth to a blessed child who will bring goodness,” I said.
So long as Abdullah was away, Aminah remained sad and melancholic. Barakah stayed at her side trying to comfort her and make her cheerful by talking to her and relating stories. Aminah however became even more distressed when Abd al-Muttalib came and told her she had to leave her home and go to the mountains as other Makkans had done because of an impending attack on the city by the ruler of Yemen, someone called Abrahah. Aminah told him that she was too grief-stricken and weak to leave for the mountains but insisted that Abrahah could never enter Makkah and destroy the Kabah because it was protected by the Lord. Abd al-Muttalib became very agitated but there was no sign of fear on Aminah’s face. Her confidence that the Kabah would not be harmed was well-founded. Abrahah’s army with an elephant in the vanguard was destroyed before it could enter Makkah.
Day and night, Barakah stayed beside Aminah. She said: “I slept at the foot of her bed and heard her groans at night as she called for her absent husband. Her moans would awaken me and I would try to comfort her and give her courage.”
The first part of the caravan from Syria returned and was joyously welcomed by the trading families of Makkah. Barakah went secretly to the house of Abd al-Muttalib to find out about Abdullah but had no news of him. She went back to Aminah but did not tell her what she had seen or heard in order not to distress her. The entire caravan eventually returned but not with Abdullah.
Later, Barakah was at Abd al-Muttalib’s house when news came from Yathrib that Abdullah had died. She said: “I screamed when I heard the news. I don’t know what I did after that except that I ran to Aminah’s house shouting, lamenting for the absent one who would never return, lamenting for the beloved one for whom we waited so long, lamenting for the most beautiful youth of Makkah, for Abdullah, the pride of the Quraysh.
“When Aminah heard the painful news, she fainted and I stayed by her bedside while she was in a state between life and death. There was no one else but me in Aminah’s house. I nursed her and looked after her during the day and through the long nights until she gave birth to her child, “Muhammad”, on a night in which the heavens were resplendent with the light of God.”
When Muhammad was born, Barakah was the first to hold him in her arms. His grandfather came and took him to the Kabah and with all of Makkah, celebrated his birth. Barakah stayed with Aminah while Muhammad was sent to the badiyah with the lady Halimah who looked after him in the bracing atmosphere of the open desert. At the end of five years, he was brought back to Makkah and Aminah received him with tenderness and love and Barakah welcomed him “with joy, longing, and admiration”.
When Muhammad was six years old, his mother decided to visit the grave of her husband, Abdullah, in Yathrib. Both Barakah and Abd al-Muttalib tried to dissuade her. Aminah however was determined. So one morning they set off- Aminah, Muhammad, and Barakah huddled together in a small hawdaj mounted on a large camel, part of a huge caravan that was going to Syria. In order to shield the tender child from any pain and worry, Aminah did not tell Muhammad that she was going to visit the grave of his father.
The caravan went at a brisk pace. Barakah tried to console Aminah for her son’s sake and much of the time the boy Muhammad slept with his arms around Barakah’s neck.
The caravan took ten days to reach Yathrib. The boy Muhammad was left with his maternal uncles of the Banu Najjar while Aminah went to visit the grave of Abdullah. Each day for a few weeks she stayed at the grave. She was consumed by grief.
On the way back to Makkah, Aminah became seriously ill with fever. Halfway between Yathrib and Makkah, at a place called al-Abwa, they stopped. Aminah’s health deteriorated rapidly. One pitch dark night, she was running at a high temperature. The fever had got to her head and she called out to Barakah in a choking voice.
Barakah related: “She whispered in my ear: ‘O Barakah, I shall depart from this world shortly. I commend my son Muhammad to your care. He lost his father while he was in my abdomen. Here he is now, losing his mother under his very eyes. Be a mother to him, Barakah. And don’t ever leave him.’
“My heart was shattered and I began to sob and wail. The child was distressed by my wailing and began to weep. He threw himself into his mother’s arms and held tightly onto her neck. She gave one last moan and then was forever silent.”
Barakah wept. She wept bitterly. With her own hands, she dug a grave in the sand and buried Aminah, moistening the grave with whatever tears were left in her heart. Barakah returned with the orphan child to Makkah and placed him in the care of his grandfather. She stayed at his house to look after him. When Abd al-Muttalib died two years later, she went with the child to the house of his uncle Abu Talib and continued to look after his needs until he was grown up and married the lady, Khadijah.
Barakah then stayed with Muhammad and Khadijah in a house belonging to Khadijah. “I never left him and he never left me,” she said. One day Muhammad, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, called out to her and said: “Ya Ummah!” (He always called her “Mother”.) “Now I am a married man, and you are still unmarried. What do you think if someone should come now and ask to marry you?” Barakah looked at Muhammad and said: “I shall never leave you. Does a mother abandon her son?” Muhammad smiled and kissed her head. He looked at his wife Khadijah and said to her: “This is Barakah. This is my mother after my own mother. She is the rest of my family.”
Barakah looked at the lady Khadijah who said to her: “Barakah, you have sacrificed your youth for the sake of Muhammad. Now he wants to pay back some of his obligations to you. For my sake and his, agree to be married before old age overtakes you.”
“Whom shall I marry, my lady?” asked Barakah. “There is here now Ubayd ibn Zayd from the Khazraj tribe of Yathrib. He has come to us seeking your hand in marriage. For my sake, don’t refuse.”
Barakah agreed. She married Ubayd ibn Zayd and went with him to Yathrib. There she gave birth to a son whom she called Ayman and from that time onwards people called her “Umm Ayman” the mother of Ayman.
Her marriage however did not last very long. Her husband died and she returned once more to Makkah to live with her “son” Muhammad in the house of the lady Khadijah. Living in the same household at the time was Ali ibn Abi Talib, Hind (Khadijah’s daughter by her first husband), and Zayd ibn Harithah.
Zayd was an Arab from the tribe of Kalb who was captured as a boy and brought to Makkah to be sold in the slave market. He was bought by Khadijah’s nephew and put in her service. In Khadijah’s household, Zayd became attached to Muhammad and devoted himself to his service. Their relationship was like that of a son to a father. Indeed when Zayd’s father came to Makkah in search of him, Zayd was given the choice by Muhammad of either going with his father or staying with him. Zayd’s reply to his father was:
“I shall never leave this man. He has treated me nobly, as a father would treat his son. Not a single day have I felt that I am a slave. He has looked after me well. He is kind and loving towards me and strives for my enjoyment and happiness. He is the noblest of men and the greatest person in creation. How can I leave him and go with you?… I shall never leave him.”
Later, in public Muhammad proclaimed the freedom of Zayd. However, Zayd continued to live with him as part of his household and devoted himself to his service.
When Muhammad was blessed with prophethood, Barakah and Zayd were among the first to believe in the message he proclaimed. They bore with the early Muslims the persecution which the Quraysh meted out to them.
Barakah and Zayd performed invaluable services to the mission of the Prophet. They acted as part of an intelligence service exposing themselves to the persecution and punishment of the Quraysh and risking their lives to gain information on the plans and conspiracies of the mushrikin.
One night the mushrikun blocked off the roads leading to the House of al-Arqam where the Prophet gathered his companions regularly to instruct them in the teachings of Islam. Barakah had some urgent information from Khadijah which had to be conveyed to the Prophet. She risked her life trying to reach the House of al-Arqam. When she arrived and conveyed the message to the Prophet, he smiled and said to her:
“You are blessed, Umm Ayman. Surely you have a place in Paradise.” When Umm Ayman left, the Prophet looked at his companions and asked: “Should one of you desire to marry a woman from the people of Paradise, let him marry Umm Ayman.”
Ali the companions remained silent and did not utter a word. Umm Ayman was neither beautiful nor attractive. She was by now about fifty years old and looked rather frail. Zayd ibn al-Harithah however came forward and said:
“Messenger of Allah, I shall marry Umm Ayman. By Allah, she is better than women who have grace and beauty.”
Zayd and Umm Ayman were married and were blessed with a son whom they named Usamah. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, loved Usamah as his own son. Often he played with him, kissed him, and fed him with his own hands. The Muslims would say: “He is the beloved son of the beloved.” From an early age, Usamah distinguished himself in the service of Islam and was later given weighty responsibilities by the Prophet.
When the Prophet migrated to Yathrib, henceforth to be known as al-Madinah, he left Umm Ayman behind in Makkah to look after certain special affairs in his household. Eventually, she migrated to Madinah on her own. She made the long and difficult journey through the desert and mountainous terrain on foot. The heat was killing and sandstorms obscured the way but she persisted, borne along by her deep love and attachment for Muhammad, may God bless him and grant him peace. When she reached Madinah, her feet were sore and swollen and her face was covered with sand and dust.
“Ya Umm Ayman! Ya Ummi! (O Umm Ayman! O my mother!) Indeed for you is a place in Paradise!” exclaimed the Prophet when he saw her. He wiped her face and eyes, massaged her feet, and rubbed her shoulders with his kind and gentle hands.
At Madinah, Umm Ayman played her full part in the affairs of the Muslims. At Uhud, she distributed water to the thirsty and tended the wounded. She accompanied the Prophet on some expeditions, to Khaybar and Hunayn for example.
Her son Ayman, a devoted companion of the Prophet was martyred at Hunayn in the eighth year after the Hijrah. Barakah’s husband, Zayd, was killed at the Battle of Mutah in Syria after a lifetime of distinguished service to the Prophet and Islam. Barakah at this time was about seventy years old and spent much of her time at home. The Prophet, accompanied by Abu Bakr and Umar often visited her and asked: “Ya Ummi! Are you well?” and she would reply: “I am well, O Messenger of Allah so long as Islam is.”
After the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, had died, Barakah would often be found with tears in her eyes. She was once asked, “Why are you crying?” and she replied: “By Allah, I knew that the Messenger of Allah would die but I cry now because the revelation from on high has come to an end for us.”
Barakah was unique in that she was the only one who was so close to the Prophet throughout his life from birth to death. Her life was one of selfless service in the Prophet’s household. She remained deeply devoted to the person of the noble, gentle, and caring Prophet. Above all, her devotion to the religion of Islam was strong and unshakable. She died during the caliphate of Uthman. Her roots were unknown but her place in Paradise was assured.
Qarz Muhabbat Ki Qanchi Ya Taawun Ka Zirya
The Truth About Death
The concept of death can be derived from these verses of the Quran – “He is the One who puts you to death during the night, and knows even the smallest of your actions during the day. He resurrects you every morning, until your life span is fulfilled, then to Him is your ultimate return. He will then inform you of everything you had done. He is Supreme over His creatures, and He appoints guards to protect you. When the appointed time of death comes to any of you, our messengers put him to death without delay. Then everyone is returned to God, their rightful Lord, and Master. Absolutely, He is the ultimate judge; He is the most accurate reckoner.” (Quran 6:60-62)
The time of death is predetermined – “No one dies except by God’s leave, at a predetermined time. Whoever seeks the vanities of this world, we give him therefrom, and whoever seeks the rewards of the Hereafter, we bless him therein. We reward those who are appreciative.” (Quran 3:145)
No one knows the time or place of one’s death – ” With God is the knowledge regarding the Hour. He is the One who sends down the rain, and He knows the contents of the womb. No soul knows what will happen to it tomorrow, and no one knows in which land he or she will die. God is Omniscient, Cognizant.” (Quran 31:34)
Every soul will experience death – “Every soul will taste death, after we put you to the test through adversity and prosperity, then to us you ultimately return.” (Quran 21:35)
We already experienced our first death until we were born into this world – “Most exalted is the One in whose hands is all kingship, and He is Omnipotent. The One who created death and life for the purpose of distinguishing those among you who would do better. He is the Almighty, the Forgiving.” (Quran 67:1-2)
The second death concludes our life in this world – “How can you disbelieve in God when you were dead and He gave you life, then He puts you to death, then He brings you back to life, then to Him you ultimately return?” (Quran 2:28)
The righteous do not experience the second death – ” The righteous will be in a secure position. Enjoying gardens and springs. Wearing velvet and satin; close to each other. We grant them wonderful spouses. They enjoy in it all kinds of fruits, in perfect peace. They do not taste death therein – beyond the first death – and He has spared them the retribution of Hell.” (Quran 44:51-56)
“The angels terminate their lives in a state of righteousness, saying, “Peace be upon you. Enter paradise as a reward for your works.” (Quran 16:32)
The Quran gives an example of the death of a righteous person – “And for claiming that they killed the Messiah, Jesus, son of Mary, the messenger of God. In fact, they never killed him, they never crucified him – they were made to think that they did. All factions who are disputing in this matter are full of doubt concerning this issue. They possess no knowledge; they only conjecture. For certain, they never killed him. Instead, God raised him to Him; God is Almighty, Most Wise.” (Quran 4:157-158)
“They plotted and schemed, but so did God, and God is the best schemer. Thus, God said, “O Jesus, I am terminating your life, raising you to Me, and ridding you of the disbelievers. I will exalt those who follow you above those who disbelieve, till the Day of Resurrection. Then to Me is the ultimate destiny of all of you, then I will judge among you regarding your dispute.” (Quran 3:54 – 55)
The unrighteous experiences the second death – “Those who disbelieve will be told, “God’s abhorrence towards you is even worse than your abhorrence towards yourselves. For you were invited to believe, but you chose to disbelieve. They will say, “Our Lord, you have put us to death twice, and you gave us two lives; now we have confessed our sins. Is there any way out ?” This is because when God Alone was advocated, you disbelieved, but when others were mentioned beside Him, you believed. Therefore, God’s judgment has been issued; He is the Highest, the Great.” (Quran 40:10-12)
The nature of second death can be derived from these verses – “If you could only see those who disbelieved when the angels put them to death! They will beat them on their faces and their rear ends; “Taste the retribution of Hell. This is a consequence of what your hands have sent forth. God is never unjust towards the creatures.” (Quran 8:50-51)
The Quran gives an example of the death of unrighteous people – “Whenever a plague afflicted them, they said, “O Moses, implore your Lord – you are close to Him. If you relieve this plague, we will believe with you and will send the children of Israel with you. Yet, when we relieved the plague for any length of time, they violated their pledge. Consequently, we avenged their actions and drowned them in the sea. That is because they rejected our signs, and were totally heedless thereof.” (Quran 7:134-136)
The death of the righteous and unrighteous can be compared to these verses – “The (angels who) snatch (the souls of the disbelievers) forcibly. And those who gently take (the souls of the believers) joyfully.” (Quran 79:1-2)
This is the crucial reminder of the Quran – Those who disbelieve and die as disbelievers, the earth full of gold will not be accepted from any of them, even if such a ransom were possible. They have incurred painful retribution; they will have no helpers.” (Quran 3:91)
Jannat Ki Dua
Visible Uncleanliness And How To Cleanse It?
Q. How to clean leather articles, such as socks; shoes; hold-alls, etc. if some filthy material defiles them?
A. These are cleaned (purified) by rubbing them against the ground, or any other substance, provided filth and its effects are fully removed.
Q. How to clean (purify) these articles if filth like urine, wine etc. defile them?
A. Washing with water, or any other thin clean liquid, removes the impurity. Therefore other defilements on leather items, except solid dirt; cannot be cleansed by a rub; hence must be washed.
Q. Could the dirty (Napak) articles like knives; swords or things of steel; silver; copper or aluminium etc. be cleansed without washing
A. Plain items of iron, which are rust-free, and things made of silver; gold, copper; aluminium; brass, and lead—without engravings, also those made of glass, ivory and bone; and crockery, can be purified by rubbing them in a manner that all traces of filth and its effects are completely erased. (Items should have no carving).
Q. What is meant by ‘no-engravings’?
A. It means that there should be no carving marks (lines etc) on the surface of the things. Due to the uneven surface, rubbing cannot clean off the dirt. Things, however, become pure by the rubbing, if they just have coloured patterns, but no engravings.
Q. How to clean the ground which is defiled with urine, wine etc.
A. Uncleanliness automatically vanishes once the ground dries up, and the effects of uncleanliness (such as colour, smell and taste) disappear.
Q. How to clean the baked bricks, or stones on the floor of a house or a mosque, or those on a wall which have been defiled by filth?
A. The bricks or stones of a building become clean when their surface dries up and the effects of the filth disappear.
Q. What is the method of purifying or washing articles like brass vessels or thick cushions which cannot be wringed?
A. The method to be followed in cleaning articles that are difficult or impossible to Wing is as follows:
Wash these once, and leave them. When the water stops dripping, give them a second wash and leave them. Wash for the third time, after the water stops dripping. Now they will become clean. However, it is necessary to rub them, as much as possible, so that the maximum possible filth is removed.
Q. Can the defiled clay vessels, be purified?
A. Clay vessels can also be cleansed. The method described in the previous Question & Answer holds good here also.
Q. Are the ashes of an unclean substance, such as dung, clean or unclean?
A. The ashes of an unclean substance, when burnt, are clean.
Q. What should we do if a rat falls into butter oil (Ghee) and dies?
A. If the butter oil (Ghee) is solid, throw out the rat and the ghee just around it. The remaining butter oil(Ghee)is clean. But if the butter oil (Ghee) is in a melted form, the entire ghee will be unclean (Napak).
Q. What is the procedure for purifying unclean butter oil, or oil?
A. Add water to the unclean ghee or oil, equal to its quantity and boil the two together. Then remove the ghee, or oil that floats on the surface. Repeat this process, thrice, and the ghee or oil will become clean.
Kafiroon Aur Iman Walo Mein Farq
Water For Ablution
Q. What sorts of water are good for Ablution (Wudu)?
A. Ablution (Wudu) and Bath (Gnusl) are allowed with rain water; spring or well’s water; stream, river/sea water; melted snow; hail-water; water in a large pond, or a big tank.
Q. Which are the liquids not allowed for Ablution (Wudu)?
A. The following liquids are not allowed for Ablution:
Fruit juice; squeezed sap (fluids of plants & trees); soup; such viscous water whose color, smell, and taste have changed due to its blending with any permissible thing. Water in small quantity in which some impermissible thing has dropped, or some animal has drowned and died in it; water that has already been used for Ablution or Bath. Also, such water which is largely polluted; water from which forbidden (Haram) animals have drunk, and water distilled from aniseed, rose, or any other herb.
Q. What term is used for the water which has already been used for Ablution or Bath (Wudu & Ghusl)?
A. Such water is called ‘used-up-water’ (Musta’mil). I1: is clean by itself, but is not permissible for re-using it for Ablution, or Bath. BISMIL-LAHIR-RAHAL4RIR-RAHIM (In the name of ALLAH, the Beneficent, the Merciful)
Durood Shareef Kay Ahkam
Istinja: Cleaning Private Parts After Urination and Excretion
Allah says in Holy Quran (9:109):”…..therein, where there are men who love to purify themselves. Allah Loves the pure…”
This verse was revealed in which Allah is praising the people of Quba who were accustomed to using both stones and water after calls of nature
Q. What is meant by Istinja?
A. Istinja means the removal of dirt that is left on the body after the call of nature: such as urine, or faeces.
Q. How to perform Istinja after urination?
A. After passing urine, its drops should be dried with clean mud, and then washed with water.
Q. How to perform Istinja after excreting faeces?
A. After discharging faeces, the unclean area should be wiped with three or five pieces of mud. Then wash the body with clean water.
Q. What is the importance of Istinja?
A. Istinja is desirable (Mustahab) if excrement or urine has not smeared the private parts. Istinja is Sunnah (Masnun) if the dirt spreads around, but covers less than, or equal to a ‘Dirham’ in area. But if the dirt covers space of over one ‘Dirham’, it is obligatory (Fard) to perform Istinja.
Q. Which substances may be used for Istinja?
A. Clean mud or pieces of stone can be used for this purpose. ( note: If there are no proper facilities for the disposal of mud and pebble-like, instead only water must be used alternatively use toilet paper before applying water
Q. Which substances are undesirable (Makruh) for performing Istinja?
A. It is undesirable (Makruh) to perform Istinja with: bones dung; horse dung; edibles; coal; pieces of cloth and paper. (toilet paper may be used)
Q. Which hand should be used to perform Istinja?
A. The left hand should be used. It is undesirable (Makruh) to use the right hand.
Q. What things are undesirable (Makruh) in Istinja?
A. It is undesirable to do the Istinja: (I) Facing the Qiblah, or sitting with one’s back in that direction. (2) At a place where parts of the body that must remain covered from others (Satr) are exposed to others.
Q. What things are undesirable (Makruh) while urinating, or passing stool?
A.
- Urinating or passing stool in a position with the Qiblah in front or at the back.
- It is undesirable (Makruh) to pass urine or stool at a place where the ‘Satr’ is exposed to one’s view.
- Urinating in a standing position.
- Urinating or passing stool in a pond, canal, or well.
- Urinating or passing stool at the bank of a canal, pond etc.
- Urinating or passing stool near the wall of a mosque.
- Urinating or passing stool in a graveyard.
- Urinating into a rat’s hole or any other hole in the ground.
- Talking, while urinating or passing stool.
- Aiming the urine, from a lower place towards a higher surface.
- Urinating or passing stool at a public resort or pathway.
- Urinating or passing stool at a place which is meant for Ablution or bath.