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Four Wives

Once upon a time, there was a rich King who had four wives. He loved the 4th wife the most and adorned her with rich robes and treated her to the finest of delicacies. He gave her nothing but the best.

He also loved the 3rd wife very much and was always showing her off to neighboring kingdoms. However, he feared that one day she would leave him for another.

He also loved his 2nd wife. She was his confidant and was always kind, considerate, and patient with him. Whenever the King faced a problem, he could confide in her, and she would help him get through the difficult times.

The King’s 1st wife was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions to maintaining his wealth and kingdom. However, he did not love his first wife. Although she loved him deeply, he hardly took notice of her!

One day, the King fell ill and he knew his time was short. He thought of his luxurious life and wondered, “I now have four wives with me, but when I die, I’ll be all alone. “Thus, he asked the 4th wife, “I have loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing, and showered great care over you. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?”

“No way!”, replied the 4th wife, and she walked away without another word. Her answer cut like a sharp knife right into his heart.

The sad King then asked the 3rd wife, “I have loved you all my life. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?” “No!”, replied the 3rd wife. “Life is too good! When you die, I’m going to remarry!” His heart sank and turned cold.

He then asked the 2nd wife, “I have always turned to you for help and you’ve always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?” “I’m sorry, I can’t help you out this time!”, replied the 2nd wife. “At the very most, I can only send you to your grave.” Her answer came like a bolt of lightning, and the King was devastated.

Then a voice called out: “I’ll leave with you and follow you no matter where you go.” The King looked up, and there was his first wife. She was so skinny as she suffered from malnutrition and neglect.

Greatly grieved, the King said, “I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!”

In truth, we all have 4 wives in our lives: Our
4th wife is our body. No matter how much time and effort we lavish in making it look good, it will leave us when we die. Our 3rd wife is our possessions, status, and wealth. When we die, it will all go to others. Our 2nd wife is our family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for us, the furthest they can stay by us is up to the grave.

And our 1st wife is our Soul. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power, and pleasures of the world. However, our Soul is the only thing that will follow us wherever we go. Cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now, for it is the only part of us that will follow us to the throne of God and continue with us throughout Eternity.

When the world pushes you to your knees…..You’re in the perfect position to pray.

Islamic Perspective On Personal Privacy

The personal privacy of the individual is an integral part of his dignity. The private dwelling is therefore made immune to intrusion of all kinds. Strangers who wish to enter private homes are required to greet the inhabitants and familiarize themselves with courtesy and respect (See: Qur’an, 24:27). Permission to enter a private home is thus to be solicited thrice, and if it is still not granted, there should be no further repetition and the stranger must leave. This is clearly stated in a Hadith which directed the believers that “asking for permission is (allowed up to) three times. If it is not granted to you, you must return.” (Sahih Muslim)

The Hadith here elaborates on the two requirements of familiarization (isti’nas) and greeting (taslim) that are laid down in the above-mentioned Qur’anic verse. The order of priority between these two requirements has also been specified in another Hadith which simply declared that “The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Greeting precedes the speech.” (Mubarakfuri, ‘Aradat Al-Ahwadhi, Sharh Jami’ Al-Tirmidhi)

Spying (tajassus) is forbidden by the clear text of the Qur’an, and so is indulgence in suspicion and surreptitious activities that are degrading and offensive to the personal dignity of the individual (Qur’an, 49:12). The Qur’anic prohibition on spying occurs in general terms.

One must act on the basis of what he knows through direct observation without recourse to spying, eavesdropping, and other methods of searching for evidence. (Al-Dughmi, Ahkam Al-Tajassus, p. 149)

The second Caliph, Umar Bin Al-Khattab clarified the government’s position when he said that the government acts on what is evident; one who exhibits good character should not be suspected of anything but good; for the inner secrets of people are only known to Allah Most High. (Al-Tabari, Tarikh, v. 26)

The general text of the Qur’an on the prohibition of spying similarly means that all varieties of espionage are included. Furthermore, the Qur’anic text on espionage is immediately preceded by an address to the believers to “avoid indulgence in suspicion, for sure suspicion in most cases is sinful, and spy not…” (Qur’an, 49:12)

Espionage originates in suspicion, which is also to be avoided as far as possible, although the wording of the text is not as categorical on suspicion as it is on spying. The text here seems to permit suspicion that is based on reasonable grounds. The point, however, is that both are seen as a threat to personal dignity and a violation of the individual’s right to privacy.

The prohibition of spying also includes the opening of personal letters and confidential correspondence. This is, in fact, the subject of a Hadith to the effect that “one who looks into the letter of his brother without his permission is like looking into the fire of Hell.” (Al-Suyuti, Al-Jami’ As-Saghir, p. 165; Ibn Majah, Al-Adab Al-Shar`iyya, vol. 2, p. 166)

The prohibition of espionage is thus addressed to everyone and to all concerned, including, that is, law enforcement agencies, individuals, and government leaders.

– The Dignity of Man, Ilmiah Publishers

Never Give Up: Don’t Let Satan Win

Most of the issues new Muslims face in Islam can be easily overcome if they remain patient, seek knowledge, and remain positive.

“I’ve had it! I’m done!
I’ve tried as much as I can, and nothing seems to ever work out the way it is supposed to.
No matter what I do it never seems to be enough.
I will never be a good Muslim, and I will never hold up to everyone’s expectations of me.”

Does this sound familiar to you?
You or someone you know have probably said this during some stage in life.
It happens. Life happens. What was the outcome of that hopeless time period?

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It passed right?
All things get resolved in time, we just have to be patient and remain positive. I’m sure there was a time in your life when you couldn’t find a job and felt you never would, but eventually, you found one. You probably had a conflict with a family member that you thought was going to be the end of the world, but somehow, things are back to normal.

If you look in hindsight at every struggle we have ever faced, you can usually say that you overcame all of them. The only time we face a hardship that is not overcome is typically when we fail to do something about it, and fail to remain positive and hopeful.

I’m frequently contacted by new Muslims all around the world with various life struggles with various strenuous circumstances that have left them in a state of hopelessness and despair. Whether it is a marriage falling apart due to the strain of their ability to implement and practice Islam to the expectations of their spouses, or inability to learn the prayers for whatever reason, criticisms of the community they live in, or even putting so much pressure on themselves to be perfect and feeling that they will never reach that state, leaves them to start contemplating if they made the correct choice in accepting Islam.

New Muslims are always told that “Islam is easy”, which can be a bit misleading to a new Muslim depending on the mindset and way that they interpret a particular matter based on whatever struggles they are having.

When a new Muslim is told that “Islam is easy”, yet something about the religion for them seems extremely difficult (for whatever circumstances or reasons), it can cause them to think that they will never be a good Muslim, because if it is so easy, then why can’t they feel that themselves? Then they start to doubt themselves, and Islam in general.

So, what is the problem? Why do some new Muslims give up?

What can new Muslims do to remain positive and not give up?

Remaining Positive Is the Key to Everything!

our worst enemy – wants to see new Muslims in a state of despair.

Most of the issues new Muslims face in Islam can be easily overcome if they remain patient, seek knowledge, and remain positive.

Shaitan (Satan) – our worst enemy – wants to see new Muslims in a state of despair and will whisper to them things that will make them pity themselves and have doubts. This is his job, and he is the expert in it! He loves nothing more than making someone walk away from God. He is a pest… What do we do when pests enter our homes?

Do we sit in utter doom thinking that there is no solution? Do we feel sorry for ourselves and never let the light of hope enter? No! We don’t, because we know that it may take some time, but we can get rid of them. We get bug spray and eliminate them.

The same rule applies here. Get your can of shaitan spray in hand and be on guard. Be ready to spray anytime you see him show his ugly face. Don’t let shaitan ever feel that you are scared of him and what he can do, otherwise, he will invade every part of your home and life. When he sees that you are strong and don’t want to live with his ugliness, your ability to be positive will grow and grow. No one wants to live with pests, right? You will feel hopeful and positive that you will eliminate this pest when you have armed yourself with what he hates most! Pest spray (Faith and trust in God).

Let’s discuss a few forms shaitan gets to people
There are many methods by that shaitan attack new Muslims to make them doubt their decisions. We can evaluate how their attitudes and outlook can change everything if they just remain positive and seek out solutions.

The Lonely Shaitan
Shaitan is lonely and wants to be your friend, so don’t become his best pal! I realize that loneliness is a horrible feeling, and I can’t just snap my fingers and put friends and family in front of me, but that doesn’t mean it is the end of the world as you know it. Just because he is there wanting your attention doesn’t mean that he is the friend you need to have.

If you are a negative thinker, you will probably stay at home and pout, and the lonely shaitan will entertain you day and night. Get your pest spray out and get rid of that loneliness shaitan! Be positive, and get out and go do something! Anything! Meet new people. They don’t have to be Muslims, but if there is a large Muslim community near you, do your best to make new friends with them. Frequent places where they gather, visit the masjid regularly, get involved in events and you will make new friends. It takes time, but it takes time to make a new friend regardless of where you meet them, or what their religion is, right?

The Marital Shaitan
Shaitan prides himself in keeping people unmarried or divorced. Always remember that. Just because you may be single doesn’t mean that you are the victim of shaitan, but don’t let him be what prevents you from getting married. Watch out though….he may actually be the one to have you marry a particular person that is not good for you because he loves to see people divorce.

New Muslims are pushed to marry quickly and encouraged to marry someone that may not match them. Don’t be one of these people that lets other people make their decisions for them. Shaitan thrives on people that can’t think for themselves.

Know what you want, make it known, and don’t accept anything less, even if it takes time. Look for a pious spouse, and make sure that you are a pious spouse worth being sought out for. Remaining hopeful and positive while being patient will pay off in the long run in this matter because if you make a rushed decision, it can destroy you in a heartbeat through a divorce.

The Poor & Jobless Shaitan
He is weak, and when he becomes desperate, he is easier to convince to go against Allah.
When we are in misery, the shaitan is happy. When a person is struggling financially, the shaitan sees an opportunity to influence a believer. He is weak, and when he becomes desperate, he is easier to convince to go against Allah. The perfect example of this is the single mother that reverted to Islam and is the sole provider for her child. Desperate times call for desperate measures, and shaitan is usually successful. Shaitan can make a woman feel that she will never find a job wearing a hijab, and as she becomes desperate, she may consider removing her hijab just for the sake of getting a job.

{Do men think that they will be left alone by saying, “We believe”, and that they will not be tested?} (29:2)

{Be sure we shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods or lives or the fruits (of your toil), but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere.} (2:155)

Allah is our provider, and as long as we are trying to do our best to please Him, He will provide for us in ways unexpected. Stay positive and don’t become weak, and He will open the doors of opportunity in places you were not expecting that are better for you than the jobs you were seeking. He may close a door, but He will open another if you put your trust in Him and remain patient and steadfast.

{And He provides for him from (sources) he never could imagine. And if anyone puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is (Allah) for him. For Allah will surely accomplish his purpose: verily, for all things has Allah appointed a due proportion.} (65:3)

The Black Sheep Shaitan
Family is the core support for an individual. Parents have no ulterior motives for their children and always look out for their best interests. New Muslims typically lack this after accepting Islam, leaving them without this core support system. Shaitanpreys on these individuals because of it! So be alert!

This is a very prominent occurrence amongst new Muslims. They try to do everything prescribed in Islam from day one. Always be hopeful and ask Allah to guide your family to Islam, open their hearts and make it easy to have a loving relationship with them. Even if you don’t have a great relationship with your family, be grateful that you have one. Think of the orphans all around the world that don’t have a family to have any sort of relationship with! Alhamdulilah

The Burn Out
This is a very prominent occurrence amongst new Muslims. They try to do everything prescribed in Islam from day one, and 99% of the time, find themselves exhausted, unable to keep up, and wanting to give up. They burn out.

This is a joyous event for the shaitan. If you try to do too much, too quickly, you will be overwhelmed, and won’t be able to keep it up, and then have doubts about if you could ever be a good Muslim. Many new Muslims leave Islam for this reason alone. They feel doomed to hellfire. Don’t fall into this trap.

Conclusion:
Our troubles erase our sins, while patience with them raises us in status, and when Allah loves His creation, He tests him.

Think Positive!

Think positively of Allah and positive things will come.

Prophet Muhammad said: “Allah says: ‘I am as My slave thinks I am, and I am with him when he calls on Me.’” (Al-Bukhari 7405 and Muslim 2675)

By Shannon Abulnasr

The Signs Of The Munafiqs

[Extracted from Sahih Muslim , Kitab Sifat Al-Munafiqin ]

Turning away from the Intercession of the Holy Prophet Muhammed Salalaahu Alahi wasallam in seeking Allah’s forgiveness

Jabir b. Abdullah reported that Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: He who climbed this hill, the hill of Murar, his sins would be obliterated as were obliterated the sins of Bani Isra’il.

So the first to take their horses were the people of Banu Khazraj. Then there was a ceaseless flow of persons and Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) said to them:

” All of you are those who have been pardoned except the owner of a red camel.”

We came to him and said to him: You also come on, so that Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) may seek forgiveness for you.

But he said: By Allah, so far as I am concerned, the finding of something lost is dearer to me than seeking of forgiveness for me by your companion (the Holy Prophet), and he remained busy in finding out his lost thing.
Sahih Muslim Book 38, Number 6691 :

Plotting against the near and dear of the Holy Prophet Muhammed Sallalaahu Alaihi wasallam and turning away from the Intercession of the Holy Prophet Muhammed Salalaahu Alahi wasallam in seeking Allah’s forgiveness

 

Zaid b. Arqam reported: We set out on a journey along with Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) in which we faced many hardships.

‘Abdullah b. Ubayy said to his friends: Do not give what you have in your possession to those who are with Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) until they desert him.

Zubair said: That is the reciting of that person who recited as min haulahu (from around him) and the other reciting is man haulahia (who are around him).And in this case when we would return to Medina the honorable would drive out the meaner therefrom (lxiv. 8)

.I came to Allah’s Apostle (may peace be upon him) and informed him about that and he sent someone to ‘Abdullah b. Ubayy and he asked him whether he had said that or not. He took an oath to the fact that he had not done that and told that it was Zaid who had stated a lie to Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him)

.Zaid said: I was much perturbed because of this until this verse was revealed attesting my truth: “When the hypocrites come” (lxiii. 1).

Allah’s Apostle (may peace be upon him) then called them in order to seek forgiveness for them, but they turned away their heads as if they were hooks of wood fixed in the wall (lxiii. 4), and they were in fact apparently good-looking persons.
Sahih Muslim Book 38, Number 6677:

Finally the Quranic verses for the Munafiqs
The Glorious Quraan Surah Nisa Verse 60-Verse 65
Verse 60. Have you not seen these (hypocrites) who claim (verbally) that they believe in this (Book i.e. the Qur’an,) which has been revealed to you and also in those (revealed Books) which were sent down before you? (But) they desire to take their disputes (for settlement) to Satan (i.e. the law based on defiance against Allah’s Commandments) although they have been ordained to reject it (openly). And Satan only desires to lead them far astray.

Verse 61. And when they are asked to come to what Allah has revealed (the Qur’an) and to the Messenger (blessings and peace be upon him), you will see that the hypocrites turn away from (coming towards) you( O Beloved ).

In the above verse, Allah reveals to his beloved Prophet Muhammed Sallallahu Alahi wasallam two kinds of Dawah to the Ummah.
1. Come to Allah and what he has revealed
2. Come to the Apostle Prophet Muhammed Sallallahu Alahi wasallam

The Munafiqs will turn away from the second Dawah, they may come to Allah and what he has revealed, BUT they will not come towards The Holy Prophet Muhammed Sallallahu Alahi wasallam

Verse 62. Then what will be their plight (at that time) when some disaster befalls them on account of their own crooked works, and they will appear before you swearing by Allah, (saying): ‘We intended nothing but piety and mutual harmony’?

Verse 63. These are the (hypocrite and vicious) people that Allah knows best every secret of their hearts. So, avoid them and admonish them persistently and establish effective communication with them about themselves.

Verse 64. And We have not sent any Messenger but that he must be obeyed by the Command of Allah. And, (O Beloved,) if they, having wronged their souls, had come to you imploring the forgiveness of Allah and the Messenger (blessings and peace be upon him) had also asked forgiveness for them, then (owing to this mediation and intercession) they would certainly have found Allah Most Relenting, Ever-Merciful.

The Wasilla(Intermediation) of prophet Muhammed Salalaahu Alahi Wa Sallam is established in the above verse

Allah says that he would have forgiven the Munafiq’s had they come to Prophet Muhammed Sallallahu Alahi Wa Sallam and asked for Allah’s forgiveness from him and Prophet Muhammed Sallallahu Alahi Wa Sallam also would have asked for their forgiveness from Allah, then they would have found Allah most forgiving.

Verse 65. So, (O Beloved,) by your Lord, they cannot become true believers until they make you a judge in every dispute that arises amongst them, and thereafter they do not feel any resentment in their hearts against the judgment that you make, and submit (to your decision) gladly, with total submission.

Allah says to his beloved Prophet Muhammed Sallallahu Alahi Wa Sallam that the Munafiqs cannot be True Believers until they make prophet Muhammed Salalaahu Alahi Wa Sallam a judge in every dispute that arises amongst them and then after Muhammed Salalaahu Alahi wasallam makes any judgment, they have to accept his judgment by their heart, and this can happen only when they have Love and Respect of prophet Muhammed Salalaahu Alahi wasallam above everything else in their hearts, This verse shifts the focus of Attention from Allah The Creator to Allah’s Beloved Prophet who is a Creation, and The Holy Prophet Muhammed Sallallahu Alahi wasallam was made the center of Imaan by Allah and Imaan depends Hugely on the Love and Respect of the Holy Prophet

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Do Not Ridicule And Defame Others

[ALLAH’S Quran – 49:11] “O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name [i.e., mention] of disobedience after [one’s] faith. And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the wrongdoers..”

The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) has said:

[Bukhari, Book #73, Hadith #58] “Narrated Anas bin Malik: The Prophet was not one who would abuse (others) or say obscene words, or curse (others), and if he wanted to admonish anyone of us, he used to say: “What is wrong with him, his forehead be dusted!”

[Bukhari, Book #73, Hadith #72] “Narrated Anas: Allah’s Apostle was neither a Fahish (one who had a bad tongue) nor a Sabbaba (one who abuses others) and he used to say while admonishing somebody, “What is wrong with him? May dust be on his forehead!”

[Bukhari, Book #46, Hadith #721 ] “Narrated Al-Ma’rur bin Suwaid: I saw Abu Dhar Al-Ghifari wearing a cloak, and his slave, too, was wearing a cloak. We asked him about that (i.e. how both were wearing similar cloaks). He replied, “Once I abused a man and he complained of me to the Prophet. The Prophet asked me, ‘Did you abuse him by slighting his mother?’ He added, ‘Your slaves are your brethren upon whom Allah has given you authority. So, if one has one’s brethren under one’s control, one should feed them with the like of what one eats and clothe them with the like of what one wears. You should not overburden them with what they cannot bear, and if you do so, help them (in their hard job).”

[Sunan Abu Dawud, Book #41, Hadith #4859] “Narrated Abu Hurayrah: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: The gravest sin is going to lengths in talking unjustly against a Muslim’s honor, and it is a major sin to abuse twice for abusing once.

[Muslim, Book #032, Hadith #6263] “Abu Huraira reported Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: When two persons indulge in hurling (abuses) upon one another, it would be the first one who would be the sinner so long as the oppressed does not transgress the limits.”