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No Obedience For Evil Deeds

[Hadith, Bukhari, Book #91, Hadith #363]
Narrated Ali: The Prophet sent an army and appointed some men their commander. The man made a fire and then said (to the soldiers), “Enter it.” Some of them intended to enter it while some others said, ‘We have run away from it (i.e., embraced Islam to save ourselves from the ‘fire’).” They mentioned that to the Prophet, and he said about people who had intended to enter the fire. ”If they had entered it, they would have remained in it till the Day of Resurrection.” Then he said to others, “No obedience for evil deeds, obedience is required only for what is good.”

[Hadith, Muslim, Book #020, Hadith#4536]
It has been narrated on the authority of All who said: The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) sent an expedition and appointed over the Mujahids a man from the Ansar. (While making the appointment), He ordered that his work should be listened to and obeyed. They made him angry in a matter. He said: Collect for me dry wood. They collected it for him. Then he said: Kindle a fire. They kindled (the fire). Then he said: Didn’t the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) order you to listen to me and obey (my orders)? They said: Yes. He said: Enter the fire. The narrator says: (At this), they began to look at one another and said: We fled from the fire to (find refuge with) the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) (and now you order us to enter it). They stood quietly until his anger cooled down, and the fire went out. When they returned, they related the incident to the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him). He said: If they had entered it, they would not have come out. Obedience (to the commander) is obligatory only in what is good.

Husband and Wife Relationship

In the name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the All-Compassionate

“May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon You”
Praise be to Allah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allah from the evil of our souls and our bad deeds.
Whomsoever Allah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

God says in the Quran, “And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.” [30:21]

“O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should you treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the dower you have given them, -except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary, live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing, and God brings about through it a great deal of good.” [4:19]

Marriage brings happiness and security to both the husband and the wife. This helps create feelings of love and mercy towards each other. It helps in creating a healthy society with qualities of love, respect, and honor. Marriages for the purpose of pleasing God result in a family that is steadfast and complete.

Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) repeatedly emphasized the importance of treating the spouse with utmost
love and respect. Some of his sayings in this regard are “The best of you is the best one to his family.” [Al Tabarani]

“One should not hate his believing wife. If he dislikes some of her attitudes, he would (surely) like other (attitudes).” [Muslim]

Fear God in (treating) women. [Muslim]

Be advised to treat women righteously. [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]

“Know that no charity that you give, whether small or large, for the sake of God, but you will be rewarded for it, even the bite (of food) that you put in your wife’s mouth.” [Bukhari & Muslim]

Both the husband and wife have certain rights and responsibilities to make the marriage successful. In the above outline of the view of marriage in Islam, men and women are completely equal partners except in the following respects:

Both parties have equal responsibility to provide physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual happiness
to each other, but men generally have the added responsibility to provide for the economic needs of the wife.

The Quran states, “For Muslim men and women, for believing men and women, for devout men and women,
for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and constant, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in charity, for men and women who fast (and deny themselves), for men and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in God’s praise — for them has God prepared forgiveness and great reward.” [33:35]

As Man is considered the head of the family in Islam, it is beneficial if he has the final say in economic matters and matters that affect the family. However, it does not mean that the husband can behave like a dictator. Muslims are advised by God to consult one another and make decisions in a democratic way (although we need not conduct elections in the house…)

If he does not care for the feelings of his wife and does as he pleases without following Islam and the way of the Prophet, then he is putting his relationship in danger, and God forbid, it might even lead to divorce.

The Muslim woman as a wife and a mother has a very high status in Islam. The wife is expected to agree and follow the husband, only when his decisions agree with the Quran and the Hadith (way) of the Prophet (peace be upon him). If the husband is wrong according to the Quran and hadith, then it is the responsibility of the wife to correct him with wisdom and show him the correct way.

Who wouldn’t be happy to have such a wife who loves you and corrects you when you make a mistake? If a husband is happy with his wife, it indicates that the wife is indeed a loving woman who follows Islam and will be rewarded by God for her efforts with Paradise.

If the husband is angry with his wife for not doing something that is against Islam, then there is no blame on the wife. The wife may be rewarded even more by God because she was able to hold on to her correct beliefs.

Preventing The Girlfriend – Boyfriend Relationship

Zina (fornication) has become a commonplace occurrence within the Muslim Youth community, and the Muslim girls and boys have sadly fallen prey to the snares of Western society. You may wonder how such a situation occurs when most Muslim parents virtually put their children under ‘lock and key’. The answer is that although most parents are strict where their children are concerned, they do not take the time to talk and explain to them about the seriousness of Zina. Instead, they give a Fatwa of “no boyfriend” when their daughters reach puberty.

The following article highlights ways in which we can teach our children to shun this corrupt act.

In Islam, there is no such thing as a girlfriend or boyfriend relationship. You are either married or you are not. This is what we have to instill into our children at an early stage. We should not wait for them to come to us when they are teenagers to ask about a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. At this late stage, even if we forbid them to have such a relationship, how certain are we that they will obey us if someone smites them? Hence, we must teach our children that a girl or boy can have a relationship with a non-mehram only when they are married. Furthermore, if a girl or boy enters into a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship, then he/she is entering into a pre-marital relationship.

At the teenage level, we should not be shy to teach them the severity of premarital relationships. We need to make them understand that pre-marital relationships are like extramarital relationships, or what is commonly known as adultery or ‘an affair’.

It ruins the community by corrupting the people. It unleashes desires that, once allowed free rein, will destroy families. We can quote to them the examples of illegitimate and abandoned children, broken homes, abortions, and sexually transmitted diseases – the list goes on.

What Makes A Woman Of Jannah?

“They will have whatever they wish therein (Paradise) and with Us is more” (Surah Qaf 50:35).

The woman of Jannah is one who has the following qualities:
1. She is a Muslimah: She readily, willingly, and cheerfully submits to Allah’s commands. She does not question the wisdom of the Shariah. “Men have charge over women,” says Allah. The woman of wonder does not believe in “gender equality, etc.” and does not suffer from an inferior complex, as she is fully aware that in her role as a home executive, she gains the Pleasure of Allah Ta`ala.

2. She is a Mu’minah: Filled with Iman from head to toe, her faith is unshakable. Her quest and mission in life: to perfect her Iman and serve her husband.

3. She is Contented: The woman of Jannah is more than contented with her lot. She craves not an iota nor a drop of the Dunya. She does not waste her time roaming in malls, etc., as this does not enthrall her.

4. She is Truthful: Truthfulness is her trademark. In intention, in speech and deed, the woman of wonder is truthful to Allah and His Rasul (Sallallahu alayhi Wasallam). She is loyal to her husband. She detests falsehood, hypocrisy, and pretence.

5. She has Sabr: The woman of Jannah is a mountain of Sabr. She has accepted Sabr as her lot, since her desire is to enter Jannah. Sabr with her husband, Sabr with in-laws, Sabr with children, Sabr in overseeing the affairs of her home. Sabr, yes, Sabr – lots and lots of it.

In Tests And Trials There Are Lessons

Praise be to Allah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allah from the evil of our own souls and our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

The First Lesson
From the benefit of tests and trials is the influence it has on one’s Tawhid (worship of Allah), Iman (faith), and Tawakkul – reliance upon Allah. It makes you examine the reality that man is a weak creation without any power or strength, except in your Lord. Therefore, you resort to Him and depend on Him. Thereupon arrogance, false pride, and negligence will be removed, and you will come to know that you are really poor and in need of your Creator, the Almighty, the Most Perfect, and so you resort to Him.

The Second Lesson
Tests unravel the reality of this life. It is clarified to be a temporary stay for enjoyment, and the perfect life is the one that follows, wherein there is no toil, worry, fatigue, or disease.

And this life of the world is only amusement and play! Verily, the home of the Hereafter – that is the life indeed (i.e., the eternal life that will never end), if they but knew. [Noble Quran 29:64]

Even with this amusement and play, there is also toil and fatigue. This is the reality of this life – one day life is smiling at you, and the other day it is turning its back on you. This is the nature of life, but man forgets that. The trials and tests come, and they serve to remind man of the nature of this life and that he should not become attached to it.

The Third Lesson
The tests and trials remind the person of the favors bestowed upon him by Allah. It is also a reminder that this life is transitional.

The Fourth Lesson
We are reminded to avoid being in a state of joy such that we feel arrogance, and likewise to prevent a state of sadness and grief such that one feels despair.

No calamity befalls on the earth or in yourselves, but it is inscribed in the Book of Decrees (Al-Lauh Al-Mahfouz) before We bring it into existence. Verily, that is easy for Allah. In order that you may not grieve at the things over that you fail to get, nor rejoice over that which has been given to you. And Allah likes not every prideful boaster. [Noble Quran 57:22-23]

The Fifth Lesson
Trials and tests remind the person of his shortcomings and diseases (of the heart and actions) so that he can take preventive measures against them.

Whatever of good reaches you, is from Allah, but whatever of evil befalls you, is from yourself. And We have sent you (O Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him) as a Messenger to mankind, and Allah is Sufficient as a Witness. [Noble Quran 4:79]

And whatever of misfortune befalls you, it is because of what your hands have earned. And He pardons much. [Noble Quran 42:30]

And verily, We will make them taste of the near torment (i.e., the torment in the life of this world, i.e., disasters, calamities) prior to the supreme torment (in the Hereafter), in order that they may (repent and) return (i.e., accept Islam). [Noble Quran 32:21]

This lesser torment is in this life, which is full of calamities, disasters, and hardships.

The Sixth Lesson
Tests and trials serve as great teaching processes through which one learns patience. We cannot be firm upon truth and obedience except with patience, and we cannot stay away from falsehood and disobedience except with patience and perseverance. We cannot walk the paths of this life except with patience regarding the pre-ordinance of Allah. The outcome is Jannat al-Qulb war-Ridwan – the endless bliss in Paradise and the Pleasure of Allah.

But none is granted it except those who are patient, and none is granted it except the owner of the great portion (of happiness in the Hereafter, i.e., Paradise, and of a high moral character) in this world. [Noble Quran 41:35]

By Dr. Saleh as-Saleh